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i'm watching "when harry met sally" right now. and i think this is the best part of that movie...

hehehehehe anyway it gave me an  idea for a poll. this is primarily targeted for women but men can answer it too... ;-)

  1. have you ever fake an orgasm?
  2. can  you tell if your partner is having an orgasm?
  3. does your partner caught you faking an orgasm?


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  • CreativeWoman said on Feb 21, 2009....
    1. have you ever fake an orgasm?  yes
    2. can  you tell if your partner is having an orgasm?  yes
    3. does your partner caught you faking an orgasm?  no
    CW

  • queenparanoia said on Feb 21, 2009....
    cw: good thing he never caught you faking it... ;-)
  • uniquely-ironic said on Feb 21, 2009....
    First, if I feel like I need to fake it, chances are he's so clueless he won't know the difference.  So, yes, yes and no.
  • CreativeWoman said on Feb 21, 2009....
    queen,
    The whole situation is sad for me.

    CW
  • Lucytorial said on Feb 21, 2009....
    1. Yes he was that bad I just wanted it over and done with.... urgggg
     
    2. Yes, he's rather loud. :-P
     
    3. Nope, it was the same guy as number 1... clueless. 

    Thank god I don't need to fake it anymore, not for 14 years anyway.
  • mobil said on Feb 21, 2009....
    1. have you ever fake an orgasm? Yes, she sometimes gets real horny when I cum, so once in a while I fake it and she cums faster.
    1. can  you tell if your partner is having an orgasm?  Oh yeah

         1.  does your partner caught you faking an orgasm? Of course, because after faking it, well I still want to.

  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 21, 2009....


    1. no
    2. yes
    3. no


  • queenparanoia said on Feb 21, 2009....
    uniquely: men are clueless when women fake orgasms... ;-)

    creativewoman: it would be if you fake it... ;-(

    lucy: youre lucky you dont need to fake it... ;-)

    mobil; oh really? are you sure she's not faking it??? ;-)

    paper: wow you never fake one before??? wow... ;-)
  • phoeby said on Feb 21, 2009....
    alas, i have faked some here and there....

    i don't think guys can fake an orgasm can they? you'd sort of be able to tell im thinkin... so no never noticed that.

    and don't think i was caught out.

    but seriously not into faking anymore, if i don't feel it going on, i think i would just not feel it going on. ms authentic these days. except for my boobs ;)

    xox
  • MissMimi said on Feb 22, 2009....
    1. yes, alot.
     
    2. yes
     
    3.  no, but I don't do it anymore.  If I don't feel it, I don't feel it.  It's also been a long time since I've needed to worry about it.
  • Fallyn said on Feb 22, 2009....

    1 yeah with my ex.....every time. he wouldn't stop until i had...... i never have with the guy though.

    2. yeah. its rather obvious *silly grinning swoon*

    3. unfortunately all the time. I honestly wasn't trying very hard at all.. I think i can probably understand CW's situation pretty well. *HUGS*

  • scipio said on Feb 22, 2009....
    Depends - if it is for business - fake it !
                       if it is for pleasure  - enjoy !
     
    Again the strength of the fakeness  depends - which partner is in for business and which one is in for pleasure.
     
    My principle - never waste a good erection. Enjoy it ! Fake or otherwise ! No harm in spreading a little joy.
     
     
     
     
     
  • Mistress_Godiva said on Feb 22, 2009....
    I actually wrote a post recently about women and their orgasms (and lack thereof).
    I have faked  orgasms.  My lovers were clueless (because I know what I'm like for the real ones).   I can tell when they cum.  I have caught a lover faking it, believe it or not.
    I'm too old to fake it now, and I like them too much.
    I will help you along.  I will tell you what I like.
    I believe women are in charge of their own big 'O'.
  • Never_Mind_The_Quality said on Feb 22, 2009....

    This clip makes me want to see the movie again!

    ;-))

  • queenparanoia said on Feb 22, 2009....
    phoeby: lol... ;-) well i guess can't fake it like we do... ;-)

    missmimikins; you fake a lot? awww... {{{{HUG}}}}

    fallyn: {{{{HUGS}}}

    scipio: lol youre so funny!!! and i like that "never waste an erection"!

    mistress godiva: ohhhh please do!

  • 007Hardone said on Feb 22, 2009....
    MMMmmm,,, Unique situation here,
     
    W/Spouse:
                        no
                        oh yes
                        no
     
    GF
                        no
                        oh Yes, Yes, and Yes,
                        no
     
  • jeteye said on Feb 22, 2009....
    Ok, sorry girls I have to answer for my wife
    no
    oh very yes (I am a very good lover and the quivers are quite pronounced ;-0
    no (because she always does have an orgasm when we have sex)
  • SexySilhouette said on Feb 22, 2009....
    When Harry Met Sally is one of my all-time favorite movies so I'm very happy to contribute here. 

    1. Sadly, yes... many, many times (unless self-induced) until this last November (thanks to 007Hardone!) 

    2. Oh yes... yum! 

    3. Happily, no!

  • 007Hardone said on Feb 22, 2009....
    OMG, Thank you SS, you've made my year!!!!
  • Me-Myself&I said on Feb 22, 2009....

    1. no, i have never faked an orgasm. if i have to do that, if he is that bad.... i'd get up and go. lol

    2. sure, right before....release *smile* his body temp raises and stiffens up. ;~)

    3. never had too. i don't think i would know how to fake my orgasm....

    too cute of a post girl. lol ~see ya

  • SeanRenaud said on Feb 22, 2009....

    1.  Yeah I've faked it.  I'm also calling out everybody claiming no as a liar and or youngin or in a very very honest relationship.  (really young) cus the fact is that there HAS to have been a time that you just weren't feelin it for whatever reason.  Maybe you were drunk, maybe you were tired but through no fault of your partner you weren't getting there and at the same time you know that it's impolite not to cum.  That's why I faked it, the time I remember I was on some medication or another and I was slightly numb.  I guess I could have pounded away at my poor GF until she couldnt' walk for days but I probably still wouldn't have gotten off. 

    2.

  • SexySilhouette said on Feb 22, 2009....
    Thank you SeanRenaud; I was thinking the very same thing!
  • BEWELL said on Feb 22, 2009....

    yes to first one but only if I was tired, drunk or ill and that as in the past.  I don't want to bang the hell out of a woman.  If I don't cum she may think it is her fault and in the few times this has happen it is not. This is not the present relationship.

    Sometime to number two, I can tell with past women I have been with. My present girl friend of 18 years tells me if she cum or not. This helps me become a better lover as the feedback is helpfull to what is working and what is not in bed.

    Only one ex-girlfriend and ex-wife.  I feel the if you, the women want to be fullfilled in bed, that you show be truthfull with it.  After all if your man is not there to make you feel good that something is wrong and why are you going to bed with him in the first place.  why fake it and worst get caught by the guy!

    BE GOOD TO EACH OTHER IN BED!

    Guys want to fullfill your needs and if he is getting fake feedback how will he learn what turns you on.  I am very happy with my girlfriend as we do not fake it and are very open about what we want, need and want to try with each other.

  • Hegemone said on Feb 22, 2009....
    Have I ever faked it?  No
    Can I tell when my partner is having an orgasm?  Yes
    Has my partner ever caught me faking?  No, I haven't faked.
  • HollyGoLightly said on Feb 22, 2009....
    *queenie*~salutes! When Harry Met Sally is one of my faves! and this particular part is f'n hilarious!!
     
    In answer to your ??? and FYI (especially to you men...)
     
    Any woman that says she's never faked it *is a liar*!!
    All women have faked at least at some point in their lives...
    (unless they don't know how to (effectively), or have never tried, which counts them out logically...)
     
    Most women know when their men are coming...
    In my own experiences...unless they are wearing like a triple rubber or something (never happened...just for illustration sake) I always know...
    And I'm wondering how any woman would not...unless she's just not very sensitive to the feeling, or very inexperienced... (besides...if you're sans-rubber, you should be a bit suspicious ladies when you stand & move around and you catch not a drop between your thighs at some point...)
     
    No one has ever caught me faking...my ex-husband to this day talks about what incredible sex we had (divorced for 20-some yrs), never realizing that he NEVER ONCE gave me an orgasm!!     hahaha revenge is sweet...
     
    And sorry Sean...if you think you faked (most anyone will tell you that men cannot effectively fake without us knowing) than she was either completely inexperienced or a real dumb-bunny...just doesn't happen
    (unless she was faking too...hahahahahaha)
     
    ~*~Holly~*~
  • Lucytorial said on Feb 22, 2009....
    yeh I kind of agree, I've busted men faking it and the tell tale sign is standing up... apart from that the male penis has this cute little spasm that no man can fake.
     
    If men don't know their partners are faking it thats a bit pathetic, have they never felt that round disc of muscle pushing down on them? WTF??? thats sad.... be that with a finger or penis a female orgasm is about as hard to miss as a males... tee hehee
  • HollyGoLightly said on Feb 22, 2009....
    *Lucy*~  exactly!!!  ;)   lol
  • Lucytorial said on Feb 22, 2009....
    well lets be frank here, if your over 35 and you've been masturbating since you were a young teen then as a women you should KNOW what your own orgasm is like, men are the same.... christ, ignorance and sex is amazing!
     
    Maybe I'm just very curious, sexual and sensual as a person but fuck me dead... there is no way you can fake it without knowing if you KNOW your body, your partners body.
     
    Usually if I am not going to get there I don't bother and enjoy all the other bits! like dahh... more fun being covered in my partners lurv juices sometimes... vise versa for him as well.
  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 22, 2009....

    Hmmm, I don´t know if calling out someone a liar because they are being honest is necessary.

    I don´t have to explain myself to anyone ... but I  feel a strong urge to respond to the comments regarding the belief that anyone at one point have faked orgasms.

    My sex motto : I will not waste my time faking an orgasm to my partner to assuage his ego: it will be wasting both of our time.

    Now, I don´t have the urge to explain my sexual history.  Suffice it to say, I will communicate my needs, and I hope my partner will do the same.  I would rather stop midway than go through a farce.  Communication is an essential part of any relationship.  If I start faking in bed...well, it is a sign that something is wrong.  And what is so impolite in saying, sorry love, I don´t think it is working tonight?  Or would you like me to help you out for some relief?  I don´t know this will be said under one minute than hours of aaaaaaah uhmmmmmmmm unnnnngggghhhhhh

    dunno

    I hope I will not in anyway insult fellow bloggers who had the courage to share themselves on this blog.  I only wanted to air my opinion so I would not go gaga.

    ;)

    paper ~





  • one_wired_kitty said on Feb 22, 2009....

    1) yes

    2) yes

    3) no

  • SeanRenaud said on Feb 22, 2009....

     

    After a good weekend of sex sometimes there ain't a lot left to shoot.  :-p

    Also shower sex seems and condoms seem to help.  Though like I said I suspect she knew, it's just impolite to talk about it.

    I double the idea that any woman who never faked it is either a liar or a virgin.  Maybe you are THE ONE and you've never had an off night with someone you loved, not someone you were fucking, someone you loved.  And maybe you actually had a close enough relationship that you could say, hey babe this just isn't working out for me tonight and not hurt his feelings.  I mean there are relationshps that can survive the man answering "yes" to does this outfit make me look fat.  But they are few and far between and when you get dozens of people claiming to be that category I call bullshilt.

  • Never_Mind_The_Quality said on Feb 22, 2009....

    [Hugs Paper]

    And I agree with Luce. the whole faking it, will work when you don't
    know your partner very well and never felt the real deal.
    But when you found your match, you WILL!  Yeeehaaaa!

    I don't have to fake it. I know this and I know that I can just tell her
    that it's not working because I know she will do the same.

    We love each other and there are more important things.

    ;-))


  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 22, 2009....

    Hmmm, Sean...correct me if I am wrong, so far it has only been 3 bloggers who have said they have not faked it (MeMy, Hegemone, and I) and not half a dozen. 

    I am not sure if you are just provoking  a discussion, forgive me if I am wrong.  But I felt the insinuation rather insulting .  It might not have been your intention but yes, this form of argument discourages people to comment, my humble opinion.

    I would normally let it go but in this case I had the strong urge to say my mind because I feel like SC are getting new bloggers and it would really be great if it continues.  I hope you will understand.

    paper ~







  • HollyGoLightly said on Feb 22, 2009....
    *wow people!!* so sensitive!!
     
    looks like I lit a fire without intention...
    no time to comment on all now...
    be back later...
    suffice it to say~ perhaps I needed to be more eloquent in my choice of words...explain myself better maybe??
     
    ~*~Holly~*~
  • Me-Myself&I said on Feb 22, 2009....
    i do not lie....mostly about something that doesn't matter. i have not once faked it. if anything, i am drained trying to raise one so.... of course the man knew i had not....comed! *smile* i mean a good man would know.... my muscle are all tensed, i hold on! :~o it's all in the pulsing.... right....so a man sure feel the pulses. *smile* yup, that's the truth!
  • quietone said on Feb 22, 2009....
    1. yes 2. yes 3. nope, clueless

    LOL @ memy... "feel the pulses" hehe!!! you go girl (no pun intended) 
  • queenparanoia said on Feb 22, 2009....
    wow i'm learning a lot from you guys...;-)

    considering i'm the only virgin here (claiming to be a virgin... hehehehheheh) i'm learning a lot!!!!
  • scipio said on Feb 23, 2009....

    "Faking of Orgasm"  has more comments than the real one ! 

     

     

  • queenparanoia said on Feb 23, 2009....
    scipio: yeah, so true... i guess people are more interested in faking it than the real one...lol... ;-)
  • HollyGoLightly said on Feb 23, 2009....
    *queenie*~ I'm not that ego-centric, but since there seemed to be such a large explosion of intense emotion after my post here...I'm only naturally thinking my opinions stirred the pot...
     
    first of all...no disrespect meant here on your beautiful, always interesting and (winkwink) "fuckin'" funny-ass blog!!  ;)
     
    secondly, I will not, repeat, will not, defend, apologize for, or explain my actions anymore in my life ( real life as well as virtual reality). this is a place to air one's opinions, no???   as someone once so eloquently put it--"opinions are like assholes; everybody's got one". everybody's got one, everybody's entitled to one, everybody's in individualistic simply by it's own nature and shaped by the all of the events of  each person's life...after all, you cannot possibly form an opinion about something unless you have experienced it!!
     
    thirdly, you may have noticed that my original post was specifically addressed "FYI"~ especially for men...
     
    I wanted to clear the air with you , ~Your Majesty~
    be sure we still cool like dat...
     
    ((hug))~*~Holly~*~
     
    p.s.~ some food for thought for those here who think they are holier than thou
    regarding this subject...I don't suppose you've ever considered a sexual situation
    where "faking it", in this instance, within the marriage bed, was not a simple,
    LUXURY/choice.  Consider this: you are a woman with a horribly abusive
    husband, with a horribly abusive & short-fused temper. Sex is not a loving,
    sharing, joyful thing. In fact, at times, it is a punishment. A punishment even if you
    have done nothing wrong. Imagine that he rapes you. Yes, it's very common for
    women to be "raped" by their husbands. This has nothing to do with the fact of
    you being willing or not...he doesn't bother to ask...doesn't bother to arouse you...
    could care less as a matter of fact, because regardless of vows, you are a "thing"
    to him...just an object, an end to a means. Imagine this has happened for years,
    (let's just skip all the argument about why a woman does or doesn't leave--that's a
    whole other subject). Imagine how you, once someone who enjoyed sex in the past,
    even looked forward to it, would turn, after so much abuse, into someone who
    couldn't stand the sight, much less the touch, of him. (Lots of times, in these
    situations, a man will complain that his wife is "using it against him", but let's be
    totally honest and impartial here...how many of you would want to sleep with someone
    after a beating? After he just degraded you to the lowest form of ground-hugging,
    scum-sucking life? You want to snuggle up now? Put his genitals in your mouth?
    Let him use his sex as a weapon against you, to hurt you? Tear up your insides?
    Ragefully rip your hair out, crack your jaw from exuding extreme force upon your
    head and face to MAKE you satisfy him orally? 
     
    Really, how many of you, being in that sort of situation, and being powerless against
    it-remember-it is STILL rape-knowing that his anger only escalates if you don't
    respond pleasurably (as if that were possible...), knowing you could never, under
    these circumstances be brought to a normal, pleasurable climax...knowing that the
    physical and mental torture and abuse will only worsen, no end in sight...how many
    of you might come down from what you believe is your high horse...and FAKE IT!
     
    (have you ever been beaten for not climaxing???  sound ludicrous???  Well, I've
    lived it...it was very real...)
     
    "It's easy to be righteous in your beliefs, when they've never been put to the test..."
                                                                                           ~Ann Campion~
     
    ~*~Holly~*~
  • mOOn_platOOn said on Mar 04, 2009....

    O

    1. have you ever fake an orgasm? ONLY ON STAGE
    2. can  you tell if your partner is having an orgasm? ONE PARTNER had a dead giveaway - her back would break out in beads of sweat at climax. I'm not sure if it's possible to tell if another human is actually having an orgasm. Men can orgasm without ejaculation and ejaculate without orgasm, so that's no proof in and of itself. I don't think I've been with anyone who felt the need to fake an orgasm. They would only do that if they felt sorry for me, I suppose. But why fake it? That's like training the dog to pee in the house. If he can't do it, show him how for GOD'S SAKE!!!!!! This GF I had (the same one with the beads) was taught how to give me a hand job exactly to my liking, and once taught she never failed to get me off one way or another. There was a "date girl" who never seemed to inspire a climax in me. She commented on all the empty condoms lying around. That was the only time I felt like I should try to fake a gasm and toss the condom fast. But I didn't.
    3. does your partner caught you faking an orgasm? Nope. But I think if I faked one there would be obvious ways to tell that it was a fake. When I climax, my penis gets incredibly stiff (not just hard, STIFF) right up to the rim for a few seconds before the volcano blows, and how would she NOT miss that?

    O

  • mOOn_platOOn said on Mar 04, 2009....

    O

    "Cute little spasm?" Lucy!

    Too bad it's just a cute lil' spasm. ;)

    O

  • queenparanoia said on Mar 04, 2009....
    holly: i respect your opinion here and each every one else's... ;-)

    moonplatoon aka thenakedproffesor: wow... all i could say is 4.... ;-)
  • mOOn_platOOn said on Mar 04, 2009....

    O

    lOl - you must be kidding. People are so confused around here these days...

    O

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