• anonymous said on Aug 28, 2006....

  Hi JollyBeans,
  
  I am happy to learn that things are patched up between you and this friend. I can think of a few broken bowls that have yet to be mended for my case.
  
  It is difficult when the other party does not want to meet up after several attempts of contacts. I have tried sending emails to which there was no reply, sending well wishes through her friends, calling her but she would disconnect and has now changed her number. These signals are clear to me. However, my intent is to patch up and not to fault find and if need be to ask for forgiveness. I guess the time is still not ready.
  
  Sometimes I wonder whether there were friendship to start off in the first place. I do not understand the breakup in the first place. It was and still is a long and silent response each time I try to connect.
  
  Hence, I have decided to move on with my life and wish this person all the best in all her endevours and if a possibility opens up in the near future, perhaps there is a chance to glue those broken pieces back.
  

• mintan said on Aug 29, 2006....

  Hi Jollybeans,
  
  Thanks for your sharing. I have a similar experience like yours.. i agree that maturity plays a part in mending the friendship.. for me, i think it really takes God more than anything else.. to put away all the past hurts and to move onto a new phase in life altogether. Forgiveness plays a big part in establishing the friendship again.. when we are able to let go and forgive, then everything else seems to be easier to bear.. and forgiveness itself takes God to bring through..
  
  Sometimes even with forgiveness, you don't get the same friendship back.. but in forgiveness itself, you have already let go of all your burdens and even if the other party is unwilling to, you can move onto the next phase in your life without unneccesary burdens =)
  

• pinkjellybeans said on Aug 30, 2006....

  Maybe because I haven't allowed broken relationships to be mended, I have to disagree....
  
  I am glad your friendship has been restored, that is fantastic. Like you say, maybe it takes maturity and a willingness to forgive. I find it difficult to forgive and forget and, even if I became reacquainted with someone who hurt me, the memory would be forever present - therefore, the lines would be visible.
  
  Maybe in time I will grow and change and be able to move on with things like this. Even if I don't, it's great that you have your friendship back in your life and intact!
  
  PinkJellyBeans
  

• JollyBeans said on Aug 30, 2006....

  Hi Friends,
  
  Thank you for your sharing and your honest opinions. I fully agree that it is difficult to forgive - hard to do with our human nature, only God can help us to do that.
  
  For me, this is one stroy with a good ending. There are many other friendships that was hard to mend. It takes two hands to clap. We'll have to keep working at it. Every broken relationship hurts...
  

• anonymous said on Jun 28, 2007....

  I'm not sure whether or not to try to amend my broken friendship. We haven spoken in a few years but I've learned that this former friend is moving to my area and will be working within miles of where I work. I've moved away and I don't know if she even knows I live in the area. We had a major falling out of which I've always wanted to amend but never felt I was ready. I feel as though God may be putting this friend in my proximity to bring us together again, but I'm not sure. When we were friends, we were more like family, so you can imagine how hard this may be. It's tough however, because I know I'm focusing only on the good times and not what caused us to split apart.

• Pippy said on Oct 04, 2007....

  I am glad that your friendship was mended, however; I do believe that this poem speaks some truth. Recently I had a disagreement with my best friend. It all started with her not wanting to talk to me. And I didn't know the reason until I invited her to go out and she refused. At that point I had to basically drag it out of her. That makes me wonder if I never tried to get her to talk about it, would we even still be friends? Mind you, this was not a devastating saga like me stealing a boyfriend, talking behind her back, or not even about money. So if she was so easy to not talk and end our friendship over that, then maybe we were never really friends to begin with. Since I have apologized over and over (for the reason of hurting my best friend). She says it's okay but she still doesnt act the same. We've been friends for over 10 years and the fact that she doesnt talk to me like she used to is completely devastating. What should I do next?

• mcgriff said on May 12, 2008....

  I am in a similar situation. I have 2 really close friends that are like sisters to me. . The friendship with each of them is different. They are 2 totally different people and do not care for each other but i love them both to death. they each give me something different in life but it is hard because we really cant all go off togehter that much without it causing issues and i cant go off with one of them by myself because the other gets jealous.  It like we are in highschool again. It is completely rediculous the way they act. Now i am about to get married and both are going to be in the wedding. I hope they are both mature enough to set aside thier differences for my sake. All i get is guilt trips and attitudes - what can i do to change this so we can all get along?

• anonymous said on May 22, 2008....

  hey man dude itheres this girl rite and we were like bere tite yh and then we had this lil arguement but i made friendss wid her again then i think we had a tiny lil one and the other week i think it was we had a big one where she wass like i dont ever wana talk to u again but then my mate helped fix it for me but ever since that i really dont feel we are close at all anymore i mean we used to bo so close i mean litterally so close we wuld call each other brother and sister and ever since that arguement a few weeks ago its been really awkward we dont talk as much,have as many laughs i mean sometimes i dont think she even likes me coz its jus so wierd and theres this other guy right and shes like really likes him now (as a mate) and so that doesnt leave much time for me anymore its always him she always talks to him walks with him and everthing and basicly pretends im not alive and really i jus wont things to go back to the way they were b4 and im so upset over this bcoz shes like my best mate and i just feel its bere messed up but if i do anything wid her like go anyhwre all my mates call me a bumsuck so what do i do man i mean we are frieds as ar as i no but its jus not as close no where near as close as we used to be so please could u just help me out abit please

• anonymous said on Feb 12, 2009....

  Recently I had asked a very close friend of mine if she had ever lied to me. My actions show that I doubted her. Why had I done that? Well I was weak to have listened to bad rumors. And I questioned her sincerity. She was of course very hurt about this. She being my very best friend obviously had me feeling hurt myself only twice as much! I have apologized and asked for forgiveness. But it'll seem that things cannot go back to how it was like the last time. We work in the same office. Imagine how tough this is. I can count how many words we exchanged. And all these words concern work matters. I cannot blame her as this is my fault for doubting her. But this pain I'm going through is so unbearable. I miss talking to her over anything. I miss laughing with over silly things. I miss the way she would force me to have my meals (I have this bad habit of skipping meals). And I miss listening to her share about her family and her son. I don't know what else to do. She wants to leave it to time to cure the pain. The thing is this: She will be leaving the city to a different state to be with her husband. And she'll be leaving in 3 months! I'm just afraid if we leave it to time to heal this, we'll never patch up our broken friendship. I'm so afraid to lose her and her friendship coz she has become a big part of my life. She has helped me to become a better person. She's about 8 years older than me. So she has taught me to become more matured than I was before. She has helped me grow to who I am now. That is how much she has changed me. I need advice on what to do.... What must I do to restore this friendship?

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