• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 18, 2009....

  
  LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL, true!
  
  paper ~
  
  
  

• one_wired_kitty said on Feb 18, 2009....

  HAHAHAHAH .... omg ....

• uniquely-ironic said on Feb 18, 2009....

  Hmmmmm true!

• solarpanel said on Feb 18, 2009....

  I think guys are like that because they are used to more immediate gratification in that is easy to just masterbate and get the joy that comes with it. Girls seem to want to go more slowly and savor the experience more than guys. I don't think tht's wither good or bad, just the way it is. The selfishness may be more of a perception because a good man will consider the differences in how the other relates to things, including sex.

• PieterOpie said on Feb 21, 2009....

  Man and his penis are one and the same thing.  What one wants so does the other.  It's not that hard to understand.  It's not their fault.  It is just the way they were designed..... by unintelligent design.  (hehe)

• andora said on Feb 22, 2009....

  i know that men have this reputation
  
  but
  
  really folks,
  
  you may not like this info
  
  I have always had great sex with my men. I rarely ever experience anything other than a simultaneous orgasm. why? because i know how to communicate with my lover. why? bc i do not have sexual shame. this does not mean i am permiscuous, it only means that i know what i like and i know how to ask for it.
  
  i feel sorry for all you amateurs ;}
  
  like Pieter said, men are pretty straightforward, the problems that they have, that is giving them such a bad rep is really the fault of the women.
  
  toodles
  

• jeteye said on Feb 22, 2009....

  Not true!  I have never climaxed "before" my lady.  I always want to make sure that she is very well satisfied (it is very erotic to see a woman in great pleasure and actually heightens the sexual experience).  With my soon to be ex-wife, she would have 2 to 3 orgasms (of different types) before we both climaxed with a full body orgasm.  If I just needed pleasure, that is easy enough for guys to do alone, but when you make love, well make love not just have sex.  I love the experience the whole woman, it is so exhilarating! 

• PieterOpie said on Feb 22, 2009....

  Men are like big clumsy puppies.  They're lots of fun and they are always begging for treats.  They want to play all the time although they don't really quite know how to play because they're so excitable.  They want to please you but you know....  if they weren't so damn cute you'd rather put them outside when they become too annoying.  Puppies don't understand that they need training and it can be so hard when you rebuke them and they tilt their head and look at you with  those big gorgeous eyes and straight away you melt and give them a big hug.... and before you realise it they're humping you again.....
  
  I strongly recommend getting a book on "How to Train Your Puppy" and things will be fine.   You may need to buy some treats....  Beer often works really well.
  
  
  

• corbinluv said on Feb 23, 2009....

  HAHAHAHAHA!  Fantastic.

• jeteye said on Feb 23, 2009....

  PieterOpie: Hum, I do not drink, but everything else is pretty right on about guys.  Yes, a puppy.  That will do.  My wife took 22 years to train me, then got tired when I "obeyed."  There is a difference between theory and execution I guess???

• PieterOpie said on Feb 23, 2009....

  I don't drink either...  I usually get biscuits or licorice....   (LOL)
  
  Hey, I had a Jack Russell Terrier who used to be so out of control it was much easier to let him train me.  Eventually we saw eye to eye and the slightest gesture from him and I would jump to do his bidding.    There are puppies and then there are puppies.......   
  I adored him but he was not as popular with others.  They found him too much and a lot of hard work to be around. 
  

• solarpanel said on Feb 23, 2009....

  I think the essential point here has been made....................there IS a difference between Love and Sex although they are not mutually exclusive. Men find it easier to have sex without love and I think women prefer something more going on when they share themselves with that much intimacy. That being said, I also know this is not always true. There are women who enjoy the loveless sex as much as men just because they simply enjoy it! In that sense there would be little difference between men and women. When love is present the dynamics may change and what jeteye indicates is true. Where the problem comes in is when either or both don't know the difference and expectations are unequal between those involved.

• PieterOpie said on Feb 23, 2009....

  Human sexuality can be viewed on different levels, from the basic organic function which is to facilitate reproduction and as in other highly evolved species such as the primates and dolphins, we also engage in sex for pleasure.  These two goals can be seen as separate stimuli for seeking sex but they can also blend together without any clear distinction to as which is the greater force behind any one urge at any one time.   To say men are more driven by the pleasure aspect and women more so by the reproductive aspect may not be be at all the correct reason.
  
  You need to think about what each gender wants in an evolutionary sense.  The male wants to find a healthy partner capable of nurturing his little bundles of joy - namely his DNA.   To improve the chances of his DNA getting out there he will want to bonk all the healthy looking females he comes across.  He will also want to stop other males from bonking those same women.  Hence the flexing and the posturing and the sock stuffed into the underpants and the inevitable brawls at any given opportunity.  They play football, climb mountains and stab each other in the back in the board room, etc..  These primitive urges and functions play out in all kinds of ways..... unfortunately.  We blame hormones but it goes deeper than that I think. 
  
  Women on the other hand are the recipients of all this DNA.  But they have more to do with whos DNA they are willing to take on board than just wait for the biggest bruiser to come along and hump her.  She is in fact controlling more of the game than what the big dopey male realised.  He only sees her flirtations when he is engaged with her.  He does not see what goes on behind his back.  She might simply be trying to find out which is the DNA she thinks will be stronger and more successful.  She might have a bundle of joy with Mr Socks or The Flexer but if she comes accross Mr Bank Balance later then she might just reveal her attributes to him some time in the future.  Chances are that her man is searching for yet more suitable females somewhere else. 
  
  Now with all that crap going on at gentic and hormonal level we need to add social convention and morality, ideas of fidelity (hahahaha) and all kinds of personal taboos or incentives and we get the complete fucking mess of modern bonking.   I think that basically we are all sluts.  We are always looking for more avenues for our successful procreation but our evolved ability to do it for fun complicates the whole thing.  We want to do it more often with more people in more places so if you don't mind I need to be alone for a while.....
  

• wild-ting said on Feb 23, 2009....

  Great comments everyone.
  
  Andora: A man can be self-fish in bed and the sex still be good. One just has to make sure she takes and gets what she needs. On the whole men are less giving, but I have had male partners that just want to please me, and please me more.
  
  PieterOpie: OMG...you are soooooooo right. Men are like puppies. Great insight!
  

• PieterOpie said on Feb 23, 2009....

  WOOF  WOOF YAPYAP YAAAP!!! = "let's have sex, can we? Please... Oh, please."
  
  RRRRRRRRRRRufffffff....RRRRRuff....RRRfffRrrrFFFFffff = "let's have sex, can we? Please... Oh, please."
  
  BOW WOWOWOWOWWW BOW WOW BOWW!!! = "let's have sex, can we? Please... Oh, please."
  
  hoooommm ooooo ooooowwwmmmmwoooohhh = "Why won't you have sex with me.... waaaaaahhhhhh....."
  

• wild-ting said on Feb 24, 2009....

  To PieterOpie:
  
  Down boy! Down!
  
  *wild-ting tosses a rawhide out into the yard*
  
  Thunk, plop, woosh! There goes puppy to get his treat forgetting all about humping his mistresses leg.  :D
  

• PieterOpie said on Feb 24, 2009....

  See, that was pretty straight forward wasn't it?   With a man you could throw the TV-remote into the yard for example..... 
  
  

• andora said on Feb 24, 2009....

  wild ting said
  "On the whole men are less giving"
  
  i guesss that since you have fucked the 'whole' of mankind this makes you an expert, i bow to your excellence
  
  fuck away
  
  jeteye,
  
  thankyou for your input, i believe that gender generalizations leave out the thoughtful among us
  
  
  Pieter,
  
  your observations about human sexuality are astute. As a woman who has 3 children of both genders, I will testify that sex for procreation was absolutely head and shoulders above sex for fun. In fact, when my partner and i were making love and praying for our son to manifest, we had a presence of essence that I have never before experienced in my sexuality. And, on top of that, when I procreated 2 children as a result of sex, instead of sex for procreation, i have observed that these other two children have had a very difficult time compared to their sibling that was invocked! These observations helped me to write my thesis on human sexuality, called 'panGasm'.
  
  Those who have never procreated a child can only guess about human sexuality. As a highly sexual grandmother, who is using her sexual essence to heal physical, emotional and mental damage that comes from the current sexual ethic on Earth, I will say that everyone in the world is looking for the 'magic pill', and I have found just that. however, it is not a pill, it is invisible, silent and ethereal....very similar to the invisible, silent and ethereal power that holds two magnets together. human magnetism is my specialty, and the most fascinating force in the Universe. i love this topic bc it has untold solutions wrapped within it
  
  mahalo to the real men who are speaking about the generalization above...your input is essential to changing these misunderstandings after all
  
  aloha
  

• wild-ting said on Feb 24, 2009....

  Of course, they are generalizations. They are always exceptions. Now come here for your belly rub. Oops that only works on men.   ;-)
  
  -WT

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