Time for another update about my father. It looks like he'll probably make a full, but most likely temporary recovery. Its not like you can just get rid of ADD caused depression. All you can really do is medicate it and hope you can keep on top of it.
Thursday my mother and father had appointments with our family shrink, about an hour apart. My father went in first and then my mother went in. I really don't think its proper that you discuss your spouse with your shrink. It almost forces the shrink to violate the doctor/client privelege. Whatever. My mom spoke to the doctor about what happened to my father and got a bit of information out of him. In the appointment my father admitted that he ran into the first lane of traffic, and then on the drive home he admitted it to my mother. I give my father two thumbs up for finally admitting he did something so stupid. He also admits that he was depressed and that's why everything fell to the wayside. Unfortunately its almost becoming a catch phrase. Whenever my mom points out something that hasn't been done for awhile, he says, "I was depressed." As if that's going to fix everything.
On the job front my dad is doing okay. Everyday he logs onto his gmail and then sends out his resume electronically. He's had quite a few calls and he seems optimistic about a few of them. Kaiser Permanente has a permanent job opening doing exactly the same thing that he did for them a job or two back, but he was a contractor. Apparently he really liked working there, and they really liked him, so its a good possibility that he'll go back. He also has a lead at Princess Cruises. It requires more web-based work than he's got, but he told them he'd lower his wage for them. He figures that learning the web applications would be easier than learning Lotus Notes so hiring him would be better than hiring somebody that has web experience, but no Notes experience. Countrywide called him, but every time they express interest it falls through, so that one isn't likely.
The doctor switched my dad to Abilify, which is the same medication I was taking when I actually bothered to take my medication, and I absolutely loved it. I think its doing well for my dad. Today he was so gung-ho about everything. He was cleaning in the sunroom, he drained the spa, he cut down branches, he even pulled some weeds. I could barely keep up with him and my mom couldn't at all. He upset so much dust that she could barely breathe inside the house. I got lucky because I was vaccuuming spider webs in the sunroom and the vaccuum has a built in Hepa filter to keep me breathing.
Vaccuuming spider webs is like playing a really mean game with spiders, in which they all end up dead. It was pretty fun watching the things scramble, trying to get away from the big tube sucking up their homes. Until I sucked up the black widow. All of the spiders up until then were nice harmless ones and it was fun tormenting them, but there's nothing fun about tormenting a black widow. They actually bite.
Alcarinque posted on Aug 27, 2006
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Alyss said on Aug 27, 2006....
Glad your Dad is more able to cope at the moment. How are you managing?
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silverwhisper said on Aug 27, 2006....
you like tormenting spiders? but they eat bugs!
[trout-smacks alcarinque]
:D
ed
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Alcarinque said on Aug 27, 2006....
Alyss: I think I'm coping fairly well. The person that we should really be concerned about is my mother. I think she's holding up well on the outside, but there's probably more going on inside that she's not letting out.
SW: I like bugs though. The hard to catch grasshoppers, the colorful lady bugs, the clever rolly-pollys, the elusive praying mantiss, they're all so much fun to play with. And if you're young, and no parents are around, they're fun to burn. Long fireplace matches and WD-40 are a great combination.
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WhyChromosome said on Aug 28, 2006....
Hi Alcarinque, I'm off to work soon (it's morning here already in Prague), but I'd like to say that your problems with your Dad struck a chord with me. Mine was diagnosed years ago with Parkinson's - which is scary for me too as it sort of runs in families - then after eleven long years of suffering nightmares, confusion and so forth the docs found they'd misdiagnosed him. He has a rare form of epilepsy -- just like I have! It was years before I got diagnosed right, too, so I was in and out of hopital for "depression" until they worked out what was really wrong...
BTW, because I'm not from the US, could you please tell me what rolly-polly bugs are? My sister and I also used to "play" with bugs but I don't remember ones with that name.
Thanks and hang in there, Whyc
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Alcarinque said on Aug 28, 2006....
From talking to other people online I've found that rolly-polly's have different names in different places. Basically they're little gray bugs that roll up into a really tight little ball when they're feeling threatened. Because I'm a little sadistic I liked to flick them around because they form such a perfect cirlce.
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WhyChromosome said on Aug 28, 2006....
Oh, right! We called them "slater beetles" when I was a kid. Sort of prehistoric-looking things, like from the dinosaur era, rather than modern beetles.
I don't think flicking them around does them much harm, they generally go through a lot worse. My sister liked making them roll up, too -- but then she stepped on them :) But then, kids do all sorts of stuff. I read somewhere that it's some kind of control thing but I dont know... Whyc :)
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Alyss said on Aug 28, 2006....
do you mean woodlouse?
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WhyChromosome said on Aug 28, 2006....
Hi Alyss (if you're asking me and not our host) I'm not really sure on that. What color is a woodlouse? These slaters/rolly-pollys are a greyish color and have lots of legs - meaning more than six - but they often seem to live under old pieces of rotting wood. But if you touch one (or pick it up) it usually curls up into a little ball, like Alcarinque said.
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secretlife said on Aug 28, 2006....
I'm glad things are looking up with your dad.
I suck spiders up with the vacume too. Although I've never seen a black widow!!!
Yeah/yeah, I know they eat bugs, but couldn't they just do it OUTSIDE!
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Alcarinque said on Aug 29, 2006....
Yup, it looks like the woodlouse would be the bug. It listed 'roly-poly' as one of its commonly used names.
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