• CayenneMan said on Feb 11, 2009....

   Wow am I sensing something here ?

• secretlife said on Feb 11, 2009....

  i cannot tell you how many of those exact "moments" i've had in my marriage joanna-
  selfishness.....on his part-
  i've said alot of the same words to myself.....
   
  felt that hot hot anger and pain.
   
  what's amazing to me is how i feel about him now-
   
  i don't know how i got from where you are-  from years........so many years of pain to a place of forgiveness.
   
  i believe it happened when i realized that he couldn't help what he was.  and that despite it all,  i loved him and knew that he loved me even if his definition of love wasn't the same as mine.
   
  i won't lie to you and say i don't still think of leaving him.
  but i know i won't leave him.
   
  i understand your pain.
  i understand your decision to leave.
  we all have to follow our hearts.
   
  there can be no peace tho, until you can forgive. 
  perhaps distance will allow that to happen.
  i think it will joanna because i already see the seeds----you pity him for what he is missing in his life, and for what he is throwing away-  you understand that he is the one who is losing out.  it'll come.
   
  walk, get out for a while........cool off and remember that this is a temporary thing- and in the end, you will be happy, and he won't even realize until some day way into the future what he's lost.
   
   
   

• cuppajava said on Feb 11, 2009....

  ....please check your mailbox....

• Hegemone said on Feb 11, 2009....

  Paper, very powerful post.  I am led to wonder whether this was just a release of the pressures of anxiety, anger, depression, etc. or if a particular incident happened that upset you badly enough to need to vent.  I'm hoping it's just a release and that nothing major has happened, as more drama and upset is about the last thing you need.  I hope you're OK and that this venting has helped, a lot.  Either way, it definitely expresses your turmoil, pain, anger, upset and just the fact that you're fed up in general.  I think it was a healthy post ... but really ... Paper ... are you OK now (even if it's only a temporary "OK")?

• Sunshine_Mariah said on Feb 11, 2009....

  I'm not sure what to say.... I feel your pain, and I offer you many hugs. *Holds you close*

• SpiritualMom said on Feb 11, 2009....

  Your post was beautiful, I have never seen it put quite so well, and I know first hand how hard it can be... I dont know where you are in the process, but I know you'll make it through better than you were before... My thoughts and prayers are with you....Take care

• Fallyn said on Feb 11, 2009....

  oh paper *sigh* i've been there. and it HURTS.
  you and your children are worth so much more than what he invested in his family.
  makes me angry. *HUGS*
  

• queenparanoia said on Feb 12, 2009....

  {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
  
  tangina ayoko makita kang umiyak... tama na... please tama na... hayaan mo na sya... sya rin ang magsisisi sa huli hindi ikaw... kaya huwag mo ng pahirapan sarili mo...
  

• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 12, 2009....

  
  Thank you . . .all for stopping by and taking time to leave comforting words....my apologies if I did not come back soon enough here...I wanted to leave the emotions behind and not look back anymore....
  
  ....future ex-husband and I have had our forgive and forget moment ....but it is like a wound picked and yeah....... I will try to reply individually later....but please forgive me if I can´t...I tend to go in a bad place ...and I am trying to see how I can overcome the few days we have to live under one roof....to sort out all bureaucracy so we could go on with our lives in peace............for all our sakes..
  
  dearest CM <3
  dearest SL <3
  dearest CJ <3
  dearest Hege <3
  dearest Sunshine (nice to see you stopping by!) <3
  dearest SpiritualMom (belated Welcome to SC & to my humble blog ) <3 I will give you links later about posting pictures..I read your blogs and some threads....and I would really like to assist in making the SC experience much more enjoyable and fulfilling through images and video clips... I just need to go out for some groceries ! lol
  dearest Fallyn <3
  dearest queenie <3
  
  sending you all
  
  ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((huggies))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
  
  
  ...and just to clarify...
  
  i blogged this while hubby was having his mega-tantrum...not directed to anybody in particular...but i asked him so many times not to do this .....it affects the little ones....me...............and it is so hard not to get caught in exchange of regretable hurting words..............................so it is me shutting my mouth, my head....in the name of peace...................and also in the name of avoiding a heart disease *grimace* by swallowing anger and frustration unnecessarily..............
  
  ....it served it´s purpose....sadly.....i might be doing it another week :(
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

• SpiritualMom said on Feb 12, 2009....

  Thank you for the welcome and I would appreciate any help you have to offer :) I will keep you in my thoughts, I know how hard it is to end a marriage, even when its been over for years.. I hope that you will get things sorted so that you can all begin to move forward... My prayers are with you and yours!! Love and Light

• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 12, 2009....

  
  Hi SpiritualMom! I was just about to turn in...but before I forget! .....as promised...
  
  ....I hope you don´t mind me copypasting a comment to another new member here in SC...just multi-tasking but with sincere sentiments...
  
  perhaps this link will help the SC experience to be more fulfilling..4newcomers by polarheart (a much loved SC blogger, who has taken an indefinite break)
  
  ..if you need any assistance, please don´t hesitate to PM me :) I learned through SC friends too, and from a long SC addiction! LOL
  
  Goodnight...and your words means a lot...more than you know....thank you...
  
  <3
  
  paper ~
  
  
  

• jeteye said on Feb 22, 2009....

  Dear Paperbax!  God, I wish I could help you! I KNOW what you are going through, and I got someone to help me (Joan King).  Please, please please email her!!  I love my wife so very much, but now understand that I can only control me.  She is going trough a midlife crisis that destroyed everything we built together. Still, I forgive. I love, and I remain.  Take care sweetheart.  My broken heart calls out to yours.  There still are nice, gentle, caring guys in the world.  I hope you find yours....
  
  jeteye
  

• javadewd said on Feb 23, 2009....

  Whoa. You must be female. All that space and dots constitutes a lack of reasoning skills. It's not like the days when we were all teenagers, where we could hit the "reset" button on our NES and start all over. Now either get in the game and be more assertive or come up with a better rant... I'm pulling for you either way... Be like Mike and "Just do it!!"
  

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