Wow, I can't believe it's been so long since I last posted, but time flies, I guess. The past few months have been crazy. One great thing is that I found out I was pregnant in November! We're having a boy in July!
On a sad note, however, the situation with my mother has only gotten worse. Since I've been pregnant, she is putting unrealistic demands on me. Number one, I've lived outside of my home state for three years now, and she has only picked up the phone a few times to call me. I can count the times on one hand. She lives 50 miles away. When we went up for Christmas, I was snubbed by my grandmother. On the phone, she wouldn't refer to my husband by his first name, but instead, she told me to "Wish your husband a nice Christmas," as though he didn't have a name.
My grandmother was sick at Christmas, so she stayed at her house, but we talked on the phone. We went up two weeks later to see her, since she was sick at Christmas, but we could only stay one night. When I told her this, she got close to my face and said, "Well, that's a short stay, as though I'm indebted to stay for days. The rest of the time, my family just sat there and acted like I didn't exist.
On Thanksgiving, I talked to my mother and asked her to come to us next Thanksgiving, and she said that depends upon whether or not she has to cook for the family. That is a certainty. She always cooks.
She now expects me to drive up there while I'm pregnant and in pain. I told her I can't travel, and her response was, "Oh, yes you can." My friend who lives in my home town agreed that I should not travel when I'm pregnant, and I told my mother this. She went deadly silent when I told her, and still insisted that I'd be coming up several times before our baby arrives.
I was so angry that I told her I had to go. Six days have passed, and she hasn't even so much as sent me an email or call me on the phone. I feel guilty for not calling for some stupid reason; I guess it's the result of being the child of a narcisstic parent. I am at the end of my rope.
What would you do, if you were in my shoes? Would you call her?
