In his head when giving the compliment, he’s thinking. Woman like compliments, it makes them feel good. If I make them feel good. They will like me. If they like me, they might sleep with me. In theory it works, but the reality is sometimes a little different.
Woman like alcohol too; so they buy her a drink, if I buy her drink she will be happy if she is happy….…you can see where this is going.
Lets now skip over to whats going on in the woman’s head at this same moment of time
Man says, “You have beautiful eyes”
Woman’s head is saying a few things, such as;
“How un-original”
Or
“He probably has used this line on 5 other girls tonight”
Maybe
“Why is he still looking at me? Please don’t tell me he wants a compliment back? Maybe he wants a medal? I think I’ll just give him a little weak “thanks” instead.”
Perhaps
“Has he not even noticed my eyes are bloodshot today”
Maybe
“Funny, I never knew my eyes were on the top of my breasts”
Or
“Should I put the poor thing out of his misery?’
Or even
“Maybe not yet, I think I can get a free drink out of this guy before moving on”
Who ever said girls were made of sugar and spice and all things nice?
Now how can guys improve on their complimenting skills to avoid scenarios like this one?
Firstly the main objective of his compliment has to take a 180
degree turn. His objective must be to get a result, which will give him
more value and, consequently, her, less value. The compliment must
a. Make you stand out from the crowd
b. Make impact
c. Make her lower value than you
d. Make her want to please
e. Make her feel like an individual
f. Make you an individual
How do you accomplish this?
Double sided compliments
All this can be achieved by simply delivering a double-sided compliment; with strong eye contact, and showing no apparent care or interest for her response or reaction.
(Remember give someone the role (write in)
Here are some examples of effective double-sided compliments
“You look great…. but you would look stunning a blonde”
“You have beautiful lips…. pity you don’t wear red lipstick, it would be so much more sexy”
“Have you ever tried wearing red nail polish? … You have lovely hands, and that would be more elegant”
“I like your shoes, I’m really fussy about women’s shoes, and those are really sensible and practical, which shows you have your head screwed on… but killer heels would make heads turn in this room”
“Mmmm, what perfume is that? …. Its ok, but when a woman wears (name of perfume) its speaks sexiness, and makes such impact”
With these examples what your basically saying is
“You look great…. but I’ve seen better/there’s room for improvement.”
The objective you want to create is to put yourself in high status/value while simultaneously allowing her to know your compliment was genuine and tailor made to her, and not to every girl in the room.
A double-sided compliment speaks volumes; it says; your confident enough to give her a sincere compliment but your also strong enough to risk losing your chances with her because of your honesty (principles and integrity)
