• solarpanel said on Jan 24, 2009....

  Well.................I don't think of someone who is that interested in sex a slut, I just think they are really interested in sex, like others may be interested in hiking or going to movies. We all have needs to be met. I do and I don't at all feel less because of it. I've done some wild and crazy stuff because it interests me. I like to run around naked, sometimes outside  in public, etc.

• BEWELL said on Jan 24, 2009....

  Good to have you as a Soulcast member.   I think many of us have wild stories of sex and sometime to share those stories make us all feel a little less like sex feeks.

• sexconfessions69 said on Jan 24, 2009....

  Solarpanel,
   
  Well, you know there is a double standard when it comes to sex between men and women...men are considered "men" if they sleep around and it's looked upon as a positive thing, but women are considered "whores" and "sluts" when the sleep around, as a negative thing...it never really makes sense to me, since half of the men on this earth sleep with women...so what will men sleep with, if women are supposed to be chaste, animals (purely being sarcastic)?!
   
  I guess you can say I am not ashamed of what I've done, and I don't like other looking at me as cheap or easy or having less worth.  I do these things not because I'm a whore, but because I love sex.  Is there anything wrong with that?  I don't, but some people do...

• sexconfessions69 said on Jan 24, 2009....

  Hello Bewell,
   
  Thank you for the warm welcome!  Well, hopefully you'll come back and read more, I've had 18 and counting posts on my official blog, so if you're too impatient for me to load every single post on here (it'll take me about 3 days since Soulcast will only let you post 5 per day), you can read all my posts on my official website:
   
  http://sexconfessions69.blogspot.com
   
  I should have all the posts current by Tuesday, at the latest...enjoy!!

• solarpanel said on Jan 25, 2009....

  you are absolutely right about the double standard and as a man have always felt it so unfair not to consider what a guy does in sleeping around any different from a girl. I've often thought that if it weren't for "double" we have no standards at all in this society, political, business and other areas of our lives.

• dyingman said on Jan 25, 2009....

  As you put it... women who will indulge themselves in their willingness do a great service for our population. Darn shame those that do it so well are derided as they are. If you aren't paid you aren't a slut. Frankly, it's a shame that beign a slut and paying for one are both so forcefully condemned. Men that only like women for teh five minutes it takes to remove their lust really shouldn't be encouraged to form relationships that are doomed to make the female participants unfulfilled. Far better to let them pansy for their five minutes and let them get on with their hobbies. Similarly, women who enjoy the financial advantages of a partner (or also merely enjoy their body parts) should also not be encouraged to bleed a man so slowly and extract as much life from him for as little pleasure as one need provide. So much better to sell as much as one must to fulfill one's avarice. Those that enjoy the opposite sex's company for the complementary package provided in its entirety can then be available for each other without the distractions of those that prefer solitude or fraternity pursuits. Perhaps you're one of these. After you've made their knees buckle, you apparently continue your relationship because 5 partners by your late twenties seems as though you do not lightly cast your playthings aside. Bully for you, and lucky for them, by the sounds of things.

• dyingman said on Jan 25, 2009....

  Should read:
  "have them PAY for their five minutes."
  
  Odd typo
  

• solarpanel said on Jan 25, 2009....

  Relationship and sex are often confused and the differences could not be greater! Buyer beware should be on the forehead of some people. Paying for sex or sexual release comes with it's own issues and those who use that means must have some need that cannot be met in other ways, at least that's my perspective. When both sex and healthy relationship are both present, that's ideal !

• sexconfessions69 said on Jan 25, 2009....

  Solarpanel,
   
  Having standards in society are a good thing, but having to treat genders differently due to willingness in sex is unfair to me.  The difference in genders when it comes to sex shouldn't be compared to the standards of a doctor and the standards of businessman...we are all human, no doubt, and sex is sex, no matter what form it's in...

• sexconfessions69 said on Jan 25, 2009....

  Bravo, Dyingman!  I am not the type to toss my playthings aside, and if I did lose contact with them, there reasons beyond my control that made me lose contact (moving away, breakup, for example).  One guy I had broken contact with because he was acting too strange in bed and was starting to stalk me (I'll have a post about him in a few days), and only one was completely random, spur of the moment (NYE).  Plus, I am rather picky to who I share the bed with (even if they end up being a "mistake", so it's not like any Tom, Dick, or Harry can jump in with just a moment's notice.
   
  For someone like myself be such a wild child, I have my chaste moments.  :-)

• sexconfessions69 said on Jan 25, 2009....

  Solarpanel (again),
   
  That is something I'd never do, get paid or pay for sex.  It just seems so dirty when you have to pay someone for something you love to do.  How is it that you can't find someone to fuck, so you'd have to pay for it instead?  (shudder)

• solarpanel said on Jan 26, 2009....

  Exactly, I didn't go that far in my response but completely agree that IF you HAVE to pay for it then there are other issues that need to be addressed for your own personal health. Paying to have sex is treating the symptom, NOT the problem. People that like sex a LOT are not the people we are talking about here, rather normal persons with a high sex drive or desire, that's all. do think there are men you pay for it because it has a certain excitement and/or risk, but that's a whole other matter.

• sexconfessions69 said on Jan 26, 2009....

  Yes Solarpanel,
   
  That is true, there is a reason for everything...it's a rather strange contradiction when it's acceptable for people to pay for strippers for a bachelor/bachelorette party, but not acceptable for a person to pay for a prostitute...I guess we do have to look at the reasons as to why they had done it in the first place, rather than looking at the act itself without the reasons...

• solarpanel said on Jan 28, 2009....

  S....69 You are so right. There is almost always some underlying issue driving the behavior and most people just look at the end result and judge it based on what they see, not what is really going on. There are healthy ways of getting our needs met and unhealthy ways and it is the wise person who knows the difference and acts out of full awareness.

• sexconfessions69 said on Jan 29, 2009....

  Yes, Solarpanel, to see is not to completely believe, it is to contemplate in fairness over all options and possibilities...

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