Hubby and I are faced with one of the toughest decisions we will possibly have to make.
 
Our dog, strauss, she had her cancer cut out not too long ago and seemed a little better but... well apart from being old she's showing signs of having poor quality of life.
 
She's got a very very bad hip, and leg, so bad she won't put pressure on it, her bladder control has disappeared pretty much completely.  She pee's and not just a drop or two but a whole wee where ever she is, lying down, sitting down, getting up to walk. She tries to clean it up herself, whimpers a lot, can't run can't do most of the things she's done all her doggy life.
 
We've been giving her pain and swelling relief every day now since she came out of hospital, it helps a little but buzzes her out.
 
We know that at some point she will lose her ability to use that hip and leg completely, then what quality of life will she have being in pain all the time.  Of course we can give her drugs, but what kind of life is that? we also have stairs here, she can't climb or descend them well now, what then when she can't walk at all, leave her downstairs and not see her, she won't see us, she will be drugged all the time and unable to be the dog she was.
 
Its hard to explain, I love my dog so damn much but I don't want her in pain or drugged out, uncomfrotable and unable to run, walk even.  We're thinking out our options, but it ain't easy.


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  • fragglesrock said on Jan 23, 2009....

    oh lucy! such a decision i wish noone ever has to make.  only you know your dog well enough to decide when the time is right. what you have to ask yourself...am i only keeping the dog around for myself at this point? if the answer is yes then it is probably time to start preparing to let her go. i'm sure you have already been preparing.  it's a really awful state to be in...one that i've been in so i understand.  at the shelter that i worked in i soothed and consoled soooo many lovely people that had come to make that final decision.  it is never easy.  the guilt of not letting them go is as bad as the guilt from letting them go.  she is a beloved family member.  you have to ask yourself this also...in her bravery and strength is she just being brave for you, her "person"? if she could talk...what would she say? a dog's eyes hold a lot of answers.  i'm here for you and stand behind whatever decision you make. lots of love to you...fraggles...ps...i've missed you

  • uniquely-ironic said on Jan 23, 2009....
    Whatever you two decide will be the right decision.  I know this is hard for you.  I'm here if you want to talk.
  • wombat said on Jan 23, 2009....
    Sorry to read this. I've never had to make that decision with a pet before, but I know it would be painful to make. 
  • wombat said on Jan 23, 2009....
    I feel for you and your hubby on this.  (no edit ability, but I still wanted to add that.  Sorry for the two comments) 
  • gingersoul said on Jan 23, 2009....
    Lucy......two years ago my cat Allie was dying of feline leukemia....she was all bones and couldn't walk anymore..she wasn't drinking or eating anymore by days and was bleeding from her fecis...The vet told me that he could have "tried" a treatment that would have costed hundreds of dollars in drugs but wouldn't be sure to be successfull. The only thing sure was that it would have caused her extra pain.


    The decision has been actually easy for me at that point....i just couldn't stand to see her suffering in that way. It would have been selfish for me to prolongue that situation only to have her with me a little longer.

    I hugged her bony body and handed her to the vet.

    "Stop the suffering" i told him. He nodded and took her away.

    She was my favorite cat.

    In my family we had to put to sleep one by one each single dog we have had.
    Each of the four boxers we have had.

    Anytime time an infinite sorrow.
  • woman said on Jan 23, 2009....
    If you live long enough and you have pets, you are faced with this decision. I have had to put down cats from various diseases and 2 dogs from illnesses. In all cases they would have only lived a few more suffering days but it was not easy. In all cases I stayed with them as the Vet gave them a shot and they ever so quickly and gently stopped breathing. They weren't frightened because we were there with them. Holding them, petting them, telling them we loved them. What wasn't quick was recovering from the sad feelings that come with this experience. Not only have you lost your pet, you were part of their death. In my case, if they were in pain or would not recover, I did not want to watch them suffer. Once I held on a little too long with one beloved dog and I have always regretted doing so. It was for me, not for her that I kept her here with me. Lucy Luc. I'm sorry. Your heart is going to break with whatever decision you make.
  • diabolicdame said on Jan 24, 2009....
    That really is not an easy decision.. either way there will be pain.. I feel for you.. I'm so sorry! 
  • cuppajava said on Jan 24, 2009....
    I was in that position whem my 11 month old puppy had mange - she had had it for 5 months - and i began to question whether it was my own selfishness keeping her in this way,as it was no good for her - or was it really the right thing to do?
    I eventually had to make 'that' decision,and it wasnt easy - but i was there when the vet out the iv in and i stayed with her to the very end.Had her cremated,and kept the ashes for a week - before i took them out the sea and let them go.
    Sorry Lucy - but if it were me,when it comes to quality of life for an animal you love - you cant be selfish,its just not right
  • hotaka said on Jan 24, 2009....
    My parents have had to make the hardest of decisions three times in their lives and they don't want anymore dogs or pets. When their dogs became old and decrepit and life was painful, when eating was a problem and the dog lost too much weight, when physical pain and discomfort interupted sleep every night, when the dog could neither rest without pain nor more freely, when life for the dog became one of suffering they made that decision out of mercy for their beloved. I couldn't really disagree. To keep a pet around that suffers daily is not really love, is it? Or is it?
  • Lucytorial said on Jan 24, 2009....
    Frags ~ Your working in that area would definitely give you understanding, sometimes you just have to let go.
     
    Uni ~ I know you're always there.
     
    Wombat ~ We are atthe very begining of realising we may need to do this in the near future.  Kind of scary
     
    Ginger ~ My dog too is a boxer (crossed wgerman shepard) its not difficult to know we must do it, its diffiult knowing they will never nuzzle us again this is what I struggle with, a selfishness that only someone who has loved feels I guess.  Thanks for your story
     
    Woman ~ My heart breaks now, just knowing this journey with her will and must end at some point, suffering is just not something I will allow her to feel.
     
    Dbabe ~ Thanks hon
     
    CJ ~ I will be staying with her, we actually want to bury her here on the property she loved so much, but aren't at that point just yet.....
     
    Hotcakes ~ Love for a pet is a strange thing, in selfishness we wish to keep them, in selfishless feelings we do not wish them any harm, ill will or pain so one can onloy come to a single decision and that is as Ging said "stop the suffering"
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