• wishyouwerehere said on Jan 15, 2009....

  Hi Nick -

   

  I am glad you dropped in - was wondering how things were going with the military.  Since my divorce, I have learned that there is a big difference between being alone and being lonely.  I would encourage you to do things that you enjoy - use your  time to pursue your own interests.  That should build your confidence also - mine was really shaken too when my ex-spouse was unfaithful.  Slowly, you will find that you cannot blame yourself for someone else's choices.  I used to think that something in me was lacking and that is what contributed to my ex's infidelity.  Now, I realize that it was something he was lacking and I can just my myself.  I am a complete person on my own - though like you, I hope to eventually find companionship.  Just don't rely on anyone else to give you value - you have tremendous value all on your own.

  All the best to you - Wishy

• killingme4u said on Jan 15, 2009....

  hey you.....nice to seeing ya back.....all i can say right now is if you was here i'd give you one big hell of a hug.so i'll send a hell of a big air hug but you'd better catch it-and hold on.b/c i need it too.    ;>))))  i missed you.

• uniquely-ironic said on Jan 15, 2009....

  I get that feeling.  All singled up and no place to go.  I'm sure that she's marrying the dirt bag does sting, but isn't it also a kind of revenge that now she will be his little bit of hell instead of yours?
   
  Give it time.  I'm also still learning my way around the block of being single.  Of course in my case I am like a sugared up 4 year old, running around giggling and enjoying the playground and everyone in it.  Everyone copes differently.
   
  I'm here if you want to talk.

• SlickNick said on Jan 15, 2009....

  Awww... (Blush) Thank you everyone. Thanks for the big hug killie. I needed that. I'll keep it close and hold on to it tonight.
  Been thinking and I guess I just don't know how to act, or how I'm supposed to act. It's so much easier for me to give advice than to take it. I wish I was excited to be single. I know I should be because of all the possibilities, yet I can't help but feel overwhelmed. I try to come off confident, yet funny. The thing is deep down I'm a quiet, deep, and very passionate person. Sometimes I'll walk past a person who I'm attracted to and I'll look into their eyes hoping someone will see the real me and fall hopelessly in love with me. That's just not reality. How do you express kindness, passion, and intelligence to a person you just met? Either I come off hitting on a woman joking around and she takes offense to it or I don't say enough and they think I'm boring. It's so frustrating! So I crawl back inside of myself and give up for awhile.
  Why is it everytime I try to fix myself I feel its too late for me? I am a quiet type. I don't speak much because I let my music, art, touch, etc, speak for me. Why don't people get that? I guess to be strange is to be lonely. I think to myself "What do you have to offer a woman?". I am sad to say I have a hard time answering that. I just know I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone. 

• pearl35 said on Jan 15, 2009....

  I am sorry that  things are going so bad for you.  My problem is that if a man loves me then I question it because I don't see what is so special about me. As badly as I want love, I think I sabotage it by my insecurities. 
   
  I sometimes feel that love is meant for everyone but me.  We are both in a vicious cycle, I think.

• diabolicdame said on Jan 16, 2009....

  Hey.. nice to see you back!! Things are still bad you say but they are getting better right! You just have to hang on!! Its great that you're reinventing yourself.. I think it'll help you hav a new feel to everyday life.. forget about the past a little.. and just know that everybody feels like you do right now until they find someone! That will happen for you as well!! Wont be so hard with someone who gets you.. just keep doing things you like.. have fun with your friends n family.. and when you're not even looking you'll find someone. All the best!!  :-)

• fragglesrock said on Jan 16, 2009....

  hey nick! she's getting re-married? seems ridiculous to me.  she's being very hasty.  i'm sorry i know that it still hurts :(

• Hegemone said on Jan 16, 2009....

  Hi Nick ... nice to meet you, first of all.  Second, I'm sorry you're dealing with this type of a situation.  People are just too impatient nowadays.  If they'd spend more time getting to know people, well, then I believe there would be more chances of good relationships happening.  You sound like quite the keeper of a guy, given from your slight description.  Don't fret, that girl will come along one day, maybe not tomorrow, or maybe not next week, but she'll come around.  I think it's the cosmos' way of saying 'Hey, you need to get a little more established in your 'new you' attitude and get to liking yourself more comfortably ... then we'll give you somebody else to bounce that off of.'  Just a thought.  Again, glad to have made your aquaintance!

• woman said on Jan 16, 2009....

  Hi Slick! You know, as sad as you are now about the past I sense a new strength and some hope for life around the corner. You keep up that good work. Nothing more attractive than a confident man!! The world is still a wonderful and exciting place Slick.

• Lucytorial said on Jan 16, 2009....

  NICK! Yay you're back! happy new year btw.
   
  Ehh Uni is right, she's his hell to deal with now, you're far to good for that kind of person no matter how much love was there before.
   
  Singledom can be difficult from what I've heard but so can being with someone, you can get just as lonely married as being single.
   
  New clothes, new attitude, go out there and enjoy a bit of life.

• Bosun said on Jan 18, 2009....

  Think of it as early shoreleave. Have fun. Go out there and do things.

• SlickNick said on Jan 19, 2009....

  Yeah I'm supposed to go out with my brother to celebrate him getting off house arrest. Hopefully we don't have too much fun unless we'll be on house arrest together. haha!

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