Here are the facts before I state my not-so-big-of-a-deal thing:
- I've dated JC, my current boyfriend, several months earlier before I've even met/got to know DJ.
- DJ is a guy whom I always treated the way how you treat a FuBu. You call 'em when you are bored, you don't say anything serious afterwards.
- I kind of promised DJ a weekend hookup which was supposedly this weekend (9th and 10th).
- I backed out of the hookup with DJ days after the "agreement" because I was already planning on being JC's girlfriend.
- DJ has been upset and told all things that he thought I wanted to hear, like the L word, and stuff like that.
- I've been avoiding DJ's calls, messages, and YM's. I've even set my stealth settings to permanently offline to DJ.
As far as I know, fubu relationships are not something that you take seriously. When one starts to want to cross the line, that's when you try to evaluate things. For me, I chose not to even go there because I knew that I couldn't because of JC. And how do you break things off with a fubu. You don't, because there was nothing there to begin with. Just ignore, and he'll take the hint. Meaning, the minute the other person notices that you won't want to hookup anymore, he or she starts looking for another bootie call. That's just the beauty of it, I think. I know I am being such a jerk, but I did tell DJ that I don't want to do it because I am not serious about him, and I know that he's not serious about me. I mean all we talk about is sex and nothing else.
I thought he took the hint when he stopped texting and calling. But then days before the "promise" he starts calling again. I'm tempted to respond and say, I don't want to go through with it, but I don't owe this guy anything. I mean, why should I explain? Right?
He just texted a while ago and still asking when we could hookup? Gaaah, its like Ron all over again. Jeez. Oh well, one solution, ignore. As for JC, he never ever must know about DJ. Ever.
Just getting it off my chest,
Jackie
