A little backstory: I was a hard core heavy smoker before I got pregnant. One or more packs a day. I found out i was pregnant i started working on cutting back. Im now down to a half a pack a day maximum, most days less.
My doctor (who is biased just by being a doctor) assures me that im doing wonderfully. He assures me that with an addiction to cigarettes like i have its amazing that ive been able to cut back like i have in such a short amount of time.
He assures me that my baby will be perfectly healthy. He says that all the statistics that every antismoker drags out are not very impressive. Most all of them its near impossible to tell that cigarettes were the direct causing factor.
He tells me to keep up the good work and keep the smoking to a minimum and the baby will be fine. He said that their are almost always signs that a problem exists and can be solved before delivery.
Based on that, he assures me that I am the perfect picture of health.
My mom dropped by my work (with my Tia) to pick up some tax info. When she came in I was smoking a cigarette. She didnt bother asking "how many is that today?", or, "How are you doing on cutting back?". She skipped the hello's and said, "I cant believe you are still smoking! Your baby is gonna be retarded, I know it!".
I was a little surprised by her cruelty, she knows what I know, I tell her what the doctor tells me. Still she ignores what the doctor and I say because of course, only she knows.
"What?!"
"Yea! Your so selfish! Smoking makes babies retarded"
"No it doesnt"
"uh huh, and my grandson is gonna be retarded because of his dumb mother"
Thats when my Tia butted in "Oh jeanette, leave her alone, she is trying her best and doing what the doc says to"
Thats when my mom freaked out and started yelling at my tia cindy telling her to mind her own business.
I told her "i like you a little bit less everytime you do this"
Shes says "thats fine, i dont care"
I told her that "my pregnancy is supose to be a happy time im supose to enjoy it. All these cigarette nazis are ruining it for me. You are making my pregnancy suck. You dont have a madical degree and somehow you think you know more than my doctor. Mind your own business and let me be, the baby and I are fine"
I guess that was just too much for her. She burst into tears telling me how cruel I am and how mean I am to her and how i dont appreciate her love.
She and tia cindy left.
Dad came in a bit later and I asked what i did to mom.
ME?!
My dad and I understand eachother. I didnt even have to finish the story and he already knew how it ended...
Part of his antidote for me was "Dont worry about it Christina, every once in a while i find myself walking on eggshells because of you mom. Then i stop and think "WTF?!". I swear to God, my very presence irritates that woman 70% of the time. I just dont care anymore. Its amazing that i dont irritate anyone else ya know? So she obviously has a screw loose."
This helped me.
Sometimes i forget that my mom isnt this crazy only with me.
Sometimes i forget that my mom isnt this crazy only with me.
Shes like this with everyone.
She will be the rude mean heartless one and the second that somebody tries to tell her anything she turns it around and we are the ones that attacked her...
I have thousands of these types of stories about her and her craziness.
Its just really frustrating for me.
Usually i can handle her but she seriously is sucking all the enjoyment out of this pregnancy.
