• cuppajava said on Jan 04, 2009....

  Hi DD - now a day or so ago,you were happy to hear his voice on the other end of a phone and now you are questioning your feelings towards him? I think you may be over reacting.I mean you have got 6 months to go before the both of you are together and i think you have exceptionally well,considering the distance that is between you.
  Cheer  up and stop those negative feelings from creeping in.Before you know it,they will be all you think about.My mail box is always open if you want to talk
  

• Lucytorial said on Jan 04, 2009....

  I'm going to slap you silly girl! stop that right now..... distance can be a bitch you know that and I don't think you are living an illussion lord if anything else a dangerous game of catch up, cause when you do catch up its going to be fireworks and bright lights, bangs fizzes and all sorts of amazing things.
   
  If you begin to question you are pre-empting something that isn't there, do you want to create a feeling of negativity around yourself? its time, wait be patient and talk to him about the fact you miss him so! silly goose

• queenparanoia said on Jan 04, 2009....

  i understand what you mean... seriously i feel those emotions sometimes. but then i realize that i should stop being negative and just be happy with all of the stuff that's going on right now. that that wait is worth waiting for.
   
  so stop being negative. you will be with your love and it would be okay... ;-)

• fragglesrock said on Jan 04, 2009....

  oh sweetie! ((((((((((big hug)))))))))) since i haven't been around as long as the others i don't know all the details but i agree with what cj said! and...if i might add..you were very busy with school before...and now without school you have more time for your thoughts...just don't go "over" analyzing to the point of stressing yourself out about every single scenario and possibility, it sounds like there is a light at the end of this long tunnel and someone who loves you who will be standing in that tunnel with open arms!

• rupert7 said on Jan 05, 2009....

  Diablo.....True love comes and grows, the other kind just comes and goes but true love comes to stay.  Love never fails! Come on M'Lady, you must throw doubt in the trash can.You can't build a fortress on quicksand, and you can't build a relationship on doubt! You love each other,hang onto that thought!
  
  
  
  

• gingersoul said on Jan 05, 2009....

  Diabolic...........your feelings are perfectly understandable......don't deny them...just feel them and compare them to the other feelings you have for him..
  
  Stop and pause...you don't need to go in any direction right now...
  
  Give yourself the time to recompose your heart and see what it comes from it..
  
  Whatever it will be....its the path you will have to follow...
  
  You are young.....your heart is just a little tired, maybe?.......
  
  
  

• Hegemone said on Jan 05, 2009....

  DD, understandable ... but where are these feelings coming from?  Perhaps I missed a post, I'll check back ... but for now, assuming I didn't miss a post, because I don't think I did ... what happened?  I do agree that you can't ignore these feelings, you really do need to explore them and see what's at the root of it.  Perhaps also talking to him and finding out what his TRUE intentions are would help?  Don't rush into that conversation though, make sure you've processed through your own thoughts and have an organized thought process before going to him with it.  You never know, you may not even need to have that conversation once you've muddled through your own thoughts.  Chin up, it'll be ok one way or the other ... just take the time to think about things and don't dwell on any one thing for too long.  You've got SO much going for you, so don't let the anxiety about any or all of it hold you back.

• diabolicdame said on Jan 05, 2009....

  cj: Thanks cj!! You always think straight, dont you! and thank god for it! Yes I was overreacting.. we had a little tiff because he was busy.. and I got all hyper thinking that we have no place in each other's lives etc.. I'm always happy to hear from him.. just wish it was more often!! It is all clear to me now though.. I gotta stay calm.. and I gotta hold on.. thanks cj.. I'll fill up your mailbox next time I'm low!!  :-)

  Lucy: (((((hug)))))).. thanks for that slap!! I needed it!! hehehehe.. yes just being silly.. I forget sometimes that he's working there while I'm sitting on my bum enjoying my holidays.. and then start wondering how it is that he can be so busy!! Poor guy.. I put him through hell too.. cause I did call him and go on and on about this.. can you imagine?! hehehe.. Sense has returned to me though!! Thanks for always being here to let me know when I'm being silly!!

  queen: Thanks!! Yes theres no point being negetive.. its just that little tiffs can get magnified due to the distance you know.. I got a little upset and then all these thoughts started coming.. and then I start wondering if any of it is real! BAH! I can be stupid sometimes.. and hugely overreact!! The wait is worth it ofcourse.

  fraggles: (((((((hug)))))))) right back to you! Thank you so much! You're right you know.. suddenly being free and having all this time on my hands.. I sit here and over analyze everything!! Then I wonder hoecome he doesnt have as much time for me as I do.. which is ridiculous since he's working and I'm sitting cozily in my parents home doing nothing!! Thanks for reminding me!! And I see the light at the end of the tunnel too.. its a good light!! hehehe..  :-)

  rup: Yes.. true love grows.. just like absense can make the heart grow fonder.. or it can make the heart go wander!! hehehehe.. mines grown a lot fonder.. I'm gonna hold on to that.. thank you!!  :-)

  ginger: Thank you!! Yes I think my heart gets tired somtimes.. because I have to fele my own feelings.. as well as his. I think the toughest is when I doubt his feelings for me.. because he cant just come over and explain.. hehehe.. doubt is futile though. Today when he told me he loves me.. I chose to believe him and rid myself of all doubts!! Has done me a lot of good too!! Being sad sucks!!  :-)

  Hege: Thank you!! No you didnt miss a post.. what happened was that we had a little fight because he was busy when I was trying to talk to him.. and that went to me wondering if I belong in his life at all.. and that became this post.. I went from normal to distraught in record time!! Lol.. I called him this morning to have that conversation and before I could say anything he was already reassuring me all he could.. I think all my efforts to analyze stuff do NO good and are the root cause of everything! I'm just not going to bother doing that now on! Phew!!  :-)

• madstorm said on Jan 05, 2009....

  I know the feeling... I fell hopelessly in Love with a German woman 5 years ago when I was living in Almeria province in Spain... after a few wonderful months together she went back to her ex-boyfriend who she told me had been the worst relationship she ever had. I was confused & heartbroken but not angry or jealous... I stayed friends with her & a few weeks later she found out he was seeing another woman.

  Anyway... to cut a long story short I´ve stayed by her side as a friend for 5 years now... I moved with her to another area of Spain & still see her every week. Most people would think that loving someone from a distance would be miserable but it´s not... I know I Love her & that is good enough for me...

• Hegemone said on Jan 05, 2009....

  Well I'm glad things have worked out then.  Sometimes anxiety about different things will do that ... you begin doubting things ... and that puts stress on it.  I'm sure you guys have a very strong love, which will mean that your relationship can endure those times when it's hard.  Glad to hear you've got it all figured out, and it sounds like he does love you very much if he was outright reassuring before you even had to open your mouth.  That tells me that you two are really in touch with each other.  Feel lucky and enjoy it, because that's REALLY neat that even though you aren't in the same area physically, you're still SO connected!  Hope all is still well DD.

• mOOn_platOOn said on Jan 05, 2009....

  O
  I fear that he holds the "power" of this relationship. You deserve to be worshipped. Perhaps you should plant the seed of doubt in his mind - and not by getting tricky, but by gearing up to a bit of emotional independence....
  O

• diabolicdame said on Jan 08, 2009....

  moon_platoon.. you're very right.. in fact before this one, I did a post about the 'power' of love.. saying that he hold the power over me. So I get it.. emotional independence.. I need it.. I dont know how to get it though.. I will try though.. I better!!  Thanks  :-)

• diabolicdame said on Jan 08, 2009....

  mastorm: Thank you for dropping in.. yes I know that kind of love.. just feeling that love for someone makes you lucky.. not a lot of people even have that.. love is a wonderful thing.. from up close as well as from a distance!! hehehe..

• diabolicdame said on Jan 08, 2009....

  hege: Yeah he always does that.. I never thought much of it.. but I guess you're right.. he's always reassuring me and apologising for stuff if he thinks he didnt treat me right sometime.. so yeah in that way atleast I dont have to break my head explaining my thoughts to him! Thankfully!! hehehe.. feels good to not be mad you know..  :-)

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