Washing dishes, yet again.
I know it sounds petty, but I really hate getting stuck with the dishes at every in-law family gathering. It's like they think because I am the only sister-in-law that I have the lowly status of permanent dish washer.
Sitting and waiting for them to start them doesn't work. They just remain seated too. I've never seen anything like it. They sure have a way of making a person feel excluded and outside of their little sister club.
When there are twenty plus people, that's a lot of dishes including pots and pans. And of course, my mother-in-law has to drag out the good China. That in itself isn't so bad, but the table manners exhibited don't match the fine dining formality she tries to put forth.
Then there are always the stories about who has Grandma's dishes and where they found a second set to match them. That story was fine the first twenty million times I heard it.
This was the Christmas gathering and the little ones wanted to open up gifts. They got the answer, "after the dishes are done". grrrrrrrr
I was the last one to assemble in the family room to open gifts. I don't suppose they missed me much.
A word about the family room...
My mother-in-law has had a new family room added to her house. It is not homey or welcoming at all. It is a big space with a few sticks of mismatched furniture, a tv and some of the most blinding lighting you can imagine. It doesn't scream "family" to me at all. It feels more like a waiting room with less decorations on the wall and zero reading material. She's very proud of it though.
Did I mention I hate doing their dishes?
I'll live.
Thanks for indulging my dish washing rant.
CW
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CreativeWoman posted on Dec 29, 2008
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MissMimi said on Dec 29, 2008....
I kinda like doing dishes to be honest (great way to avoid having to be sociable, and excellent meditation time), but I hate that they seem to take it for granted that you will do them. I wonder what would happen if you just sat, like they do. Sounds like they might just stare pointedly at you as if to say, Well, CW? Hop to it. -
CreativeWoman said on Dec 29, 2008....
Mimi,
I think that they would just sit there. It isn't that I wouldn't offer to do the dishes, but I don't like being expected to do them. It's a very awkward feeling.
CW
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queenparanoia said on Dec 30, 2008....
what the fuck???? excuse my french...
why???? why do they let you do the dishes alone??? i dont get it???
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CreativeWoman said on Dec 30, 2008....
queen,
I really don't know their logic. I don't get it either.
CW
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queenparanoia said on Dec 30, 2008....
creative: maybe theyre just too lazy??? or too stupid??? i dont know...lol... -
GirlWithAlterEgo said on Dec 30, 2008....
I would totally tell them that I'm not doing the dishes without a minimum of 2 helpers! No helpers, no service! And I would totally make my husband tell his mom how crappy he thinks it is that she (and everyone else) takes it for granted that you'll do the dishes, and that if she expects you to wash the dishes this time, she'd better plan to either help or make sure a few others plan to help.That's just what I would do, but then, my mother in law already knows not to expect me to jump at her command. -
crudebusinessman said on Dec 30, 2008....
hahahaha I definatly understand what you feel when it comes to that dishwashing status
but however I remember when I was 18 years old I was working in a restuarant before I knew what I knew today. it was a small italian style restuarant and what happend was we'd have 60 - 120 customers per night, all their plates were fine china and silverware cutlery.
now every night I had to wash through mountains of dishes with a huge sink and sponge. I would go through about 20 plates in 4 minutes when I got those done. another 30 would come back after all the orders.
the amount of stress and the temperature in the kitchen aswell was a joke.
I know what its like to put in hard work hahaha you shouldve told them "I'm taking a vacation from washing the dishes so you'll have to get one of the other in-laws to do it." hehehehe.
that'll pop their eyeballs out.
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CreativeWoman said on Jan 02, 2009....
queen,
They are just plain weird. They definitely don't see me as an equal part of the family. It used to bother me a lot, but I've realized I don't want to be in their little club. I'm too normal. lol
Girl,
My husband won't do that. That's a large part of the problem with our relationship in general.
crude,
Maybe I'll make a t-shirt to wear to the next family gathering..."Dishwasher On Strike". Maybe they would get the point. :-)
CW
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