So Nate moved back to New Jersey this week and yea I am pretty depressed about it. Not sure what to really do. We want to keep this going and see where it goes. Christmas night we talked on the phone and he told me something I have never been told....that he needed me. I have had guys tell me they loved me and wanted me in their lives, but Nate is the first one to say he needs me. He also said some other things that coincide with my own thoughts on relationships like he doesn't like calling me his girlfriend but rather call me his partner because that's how he sees me and that one day he would like to see me in the role of mommy which i kind of liked hearing.
I admit I am head over heels in love with him and I didn't expect it to happen, he didn't either because he knew he was moving soon. We didn't intend for it to happen. We just said hi one day started talking and realized our feelings for each other shortly afterwards. Both admit it really sucks that we found each other and he had to move away. My mom isn't happy that we started something and decided to keep it going. I have already started thinking of how I can go visit him and talking to him about him visiting me. But one of the biggest things I have been thinking about is he has asked me to follow him when he moves to myrtle beach (which is why I asked if anyone is from there). I want to...I really do, but could I leave my home to follow him? I told him I needed security if I was going to follow...I mean what happens if I follow and he decides he doesn't need me, or what if I do follow and we do get married like he has been talking about recently (oh yea we;ve only been together for a few weeks). We both admit we haven't felt like this before and when he talks about me to his family and says he loves me everyone is surprised at that.
GRRR i hate this...I want to cry....
rmuxagirl posted on Dec 27, 2008
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cntlvmenuf said on Dec 28, 2008....
Ah....wish I had the perfect answer...alls I know is that nothing in life is for certain, and sometimes we gotta take the plunge especially if its for something we want or one of those once in a lifetime chances. It does sound like you are both heading towards marriage, which means he's gonna be your first family so your home will be where you both decide. Do whatever feels right for you, always.
As for what happens should he stop needing you, don't make the mistake many women confess of doing once they get married...lose your identity, not have a life separate from that of your husband. Don't ignore your own needs and keep on discovering yourself. Security is an illussion....its like chasing the wind. The finish line somewhat gets moved. Take this one day at a time and keep on weighing your options, the answer will come to you, just like love came to you. -
queenparanoia said on Dec 28, 2008....
aw crap that is hard.... but you know wat??? you'll never know until you try it... who knows... he might be "the one" for you... ;-)
love is simple. but things makes it complicated... so just take the plunge... you'll never know...
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rmuxagirl said on Dec 28, 2008....
cnt: when I talk about security i mean like knowing I am taken care of: having a home, a job and yea his love. When I asked him last night what happens if he decides he doesn't love me anymore he said that wont happen because he intends to marry me. Another obsticle is that we have just met. We've known each other for oh about 3 or 4 weeks. but I mean when you know you know right?
queenie: I am very close to just taking the plunge it is how those around me will react to me taking the plunge so soon after the break up with Todd.
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queenparanoia said on Dec 28, 2008....
rmuxagirl: well how about if you guys take things slow and let's just wait and see... -
rmuxagirl said on Dec 29, 2008....
queenie: He wants to marry me -
queenparanoia said on Dec 30, 2008....
rmuxagirl: what???? well that was fast... seriously just take things slow... -
rmuxagirl said on Dec 31, 2008....
yea I have talked to him about it
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