• Lucytorial said on Dec 24, 2008....

  Why are you alone christmas ever honey??

• fragglesrock said on Dec 24, 2008....

  lucy -i knew that the presents under my tree were going to be slim this year, i didn't want the kids to think that santa hates them so i suggested that they spend the night at their dad's house b/c i knew that santa would be very good to them over there :(   i know that they are old enough to understand, but still, i never want them to know of how hard i struggle...ya know? plus they have a new little brother and i thought they would enjoy spending christmas with him (he's only one year old).  i have barely any family and since i don't have a husband or boyfriend...it's just sucky aloneness.  it'll be ok though, the kids come home to me tomorrow and then we go to my mom's...just gotta make it through tonight....which is really tough.  i'm crying right now b/c i'm thinking of how happy i felt last year at this time.  no matter how it ended up w/ rat bastard...at this time last year i was happy. we stayed up late and drank spiked cider and watched the christmas tree blink, we put out the presents from santa after the kids went to bed, and i slipped into a special nighty that i surprised him with...i had someone who loved me.

• Lucytorial said on Dec 24, 2008....

  Awww Frags... I'm already crying... honey I'll keep ya company I am just about to crack a beer a christmas beer myself so we can talk all ya want.  If I could you'd hear my voice on the other end of the phone gorgeous.... ♥
   
  I think your kids like Uni's won't really care as long as you are with them, kids like gifts but they prefer the company the hugs the laughter and the silliness.

• fragglesrock said on Dec 24, 2008....

  thanks...i know your right about the kids...i don't want you to be sad.

• Lucytorial said on Dec 24, 2008....

  I'm sad because I'd love to be there to make you giggle and laugh and feel good.  You are such a good wonderful and caring person....... beer? I'm drinking a corona right now and thinking just what a white chrissy would be like? dunno... can I take a photo for you off my balcony? the day? would you like to see?

• fragglesrock said on Dec 24, 2008....

  i would looove to see! even though i'm a snotty mess at this moment i have been a busy bee tonight and i have some "gifts" i need to upload and post on destiny's blog :)

• beyondtheveil said on Dec 24, 2008....

  fraggles- We just had pizza too. And speaking of dogs, the girls are playing a game, so I'm going outside with the dogs. Its shirtsleeve weather, should be nice.
  
  If you were here, I'd break out the Crown Royal.
  

• Lucytorial said on Dec 25, 2008....

  
  
  Here you go Fraggles, christmas in the Vivian household, its rather warm, a little breeze and very very green!

• fragglesrock said on Dec 25, 2008....

  hey beyond!!! thanks for popping in :) sounds like you are having a nice holiday, i'm so happy that your enjoying yourself :)  btw...you'd have to teach me how to drink crown...i'm a newb on that front.

  omg lucy you live in a paradise woman, i can now see why you put up with the frogs and ungodly humidity :) THANKS!!!!

• seekingwisdom said on Dec 25, 2008....

  Fraggles, Christmas is a lonely and confusing time for many people, even if they are surrounded by family, because while we all need the exchange of love, Christmas seems to be focused upon physical things like the gifts, the dinner, the tree, the lights and so on. The true message of Christmas is Jesus' central teaching (and first and foremost commandment) to love God with all our heart and soul. This is the real meaning of Christmas because by following this teaching we develop a relationship with God. Having a relationship with God means an exchange of love. The trick is that when we exchange a loving relationship with God, we become fulfilled. Should we become fulfilled, we will no longer feel the emptiness and loneliness that Christmas tends to bring because of the unfulfilling nature of physical things. So you may be physically alone, but you don't have to feel lonely because God is with you and you can share Christmas with Him. Be well.
  --c.w. adams http://www.thescienceoftruth.com

• lilhidee1 said on Dec 25, 2008....

  Hey you gals I'm here too wishing you a safe wonderful Christmas this year! I'm a gal too wishing a could climb into the picture Lucytoria has shown here! We have snow here for the first time at Christmas since 1971! I just learned today that Roast Beef is served at Christmastime too. I always thought that only turkey and goose was served now. Why is this? Do either of you know? Signed lilhider*

• fragglesrock said on Dec 25, 2008....

  seekingwisdom - thanks for taking the time to share and comment.

  lilhidee - thanks for the well wishes...i have NO idea about the roast beef..lol! i think i remember in the cartoon version of the "grinch" that the who's ate roast beast??? i know, that's not even remotely helpful...haha! thanks for stopping by.

• woman said on Dec 25, 2008....

  I would suggest going to bed early. Tomorrow will be better. I'm sorry it is a difficult holiday for you Fraggie. Hugs

• fragglesrock said on Dec 25, 2008....

  woman thank you soooo soooo much :)  i'm already feeling a bit better. just being here on sc and chatting with friends has really elevated my mood!!!  i also had a really good friend call and we talked and laughed...i'm sure tomorrow will be better...and yes, i need to hit the bed soon...thanks :)

• mobil said on Dec 25, 2008....

  We just got wound down here, everyone's gone home. Too bad about your lonely dinner, maybe next year huh?

• Expendable said on Dec 25, 2008....

  Hope you have a wonderful day anyways.

  -ex

• cuppajava said on Dec 25, 2008....

  Hello one and all - Fraggles - you are not alone on Christmas eve - I am alone too -have been for a while now.I know that i 'have' Pusscat but,she is about 15 000 miles away,which i guess doesnt help,if you know what i mean?
  I actually popped in here last night,as I felt like i wanted to post something.But then i looked at the 'create post' icon and i thought twice about it.I know that this time of the year is a happy time for most.So I didnt really want to get all morbid and spoil it for anyone - besides - it didnt look like too many people were around anyways.So i decided to put the computer off and sit and watch a bit of TV.Then my cat decided to come and sit on my lap,and made himself comfortable.So I guess i was there for a while,before i realised what time it was.I had been to my in laws earlier as they were doing a bbq and wanted me to do it,as i can be a bit of a Jamie Oliver at times.So that kept me busy most of the night.My BiL had bought the children a pool table for Christmas,so that was put up out on the verandah for them to play.
  So now it Christmas day - and i am here - alone.It would have been my wedding anniversary on the 22nd and it was my late wife's birthday on the 28th - so this isnt ever a good week for me.Like i said - i didnt want to get morbid
  The whole sinus thing went ok yesterday.I felt like crap for most of the day - but am feeling a little better today.Still have a horrible salty taste in the back of my mouth though,and i hate salt -EEEEEEEEEEEEeeeeeeeeeeeuuuuuuuw.!
  I am going back down to my inlaws a little later.They are the only 'family' that i have in this country,as my own family left the country earlier this year,and i am yet to find out if i am gonna be seeing them in the near to distant future - but we shall see.
  I am doing some volunteer work at a local hospital for most of next week - so i think that will lift my spirits somewhat.
  But please dont think you are alone - for you are in my thoughts.
  Take Care
  CJ
  x
  

• winterslight said on Dec 25, 2008....

  Frag
  merry christmas sweetie....
  your are never alone! you may be  the only one in the house but never alone!
  but i want to let you in  on something..
  dont ever be afraid to let your kids no times are hard..
  i let mine in on everything.
  and what my little angel has done. because she has been given gift already she has put some aside to take to school and give to friends who she knows is worse off than us.. she is my giver.. at 5 she cut off all her hair to make a wig for a child. it was like 14 inches we cut.. i miss all that hair.. but it was her idea.. kids are very smart. and you can make things fun for them to help the pocket book.
  like my oldest helps me come up with meal ideas to save us money..
  and even tho you think dad  can do better for them. you are so wrong there. why.
  because of you. your love is stronger. your hugs are better. your booboo kisses heal. all they need in this world is you.. no gift no toy can ever out do you!
  so please dont frown cause things are tight.. because your all they need. a loveing mom. who makes there life great.. and you are a great mom.. cause you shared them with your ex..  i hope today is special and you all have a fun day today..
  big christmas hug and kisses for the sweetiest girl i no!

• CayenneMan said on Dec 25, 2008....

  
    I sure could have used you here fragglesrock. I have two tall dark and handsome nephews here who are bored to the bone. My son bought me a golf cart. It's been a real life saver today but I wonder if I'll ever get a turn to ride it ?
  Merry Christmas fragglesrock.
  

• CayenneMan said on Dec 25, 2008....

  Oh and by the way it's Christmas Day 10:00 am
  

• Me-Myself&I said on Dec 25, 2008....

  Merry Christmas! (hug) Hi! it's Christmas day and all is quiet. i got a call from my son earlier. *smile* boy i miss him! anyways.... it's sunny and cold but i need to get out of this house for a nice drive. then i have some plates of goodies to deliver. that helps "me" and my loneliness. it will be night time by there, so i'll drive some more and look at the lights on everyones homes......lol....well i was on pause there....  :~) so thats what i am doing this Christmas day. ohh for dinner, we are having smoke elk, potatoes and sugar(candies)! *smile*

  sigh....... well Fraggle, keep on rocking! x take care ~see ya

• fragglesrock said on Dec 25, 2008....

  mobil - thanks for stopping by..next year will indeed be better :)

  ex - thanks! i'm having a much better christmas day than christmas eve :)

  cj - i know EXACTLY what you mean about not wanting to drag people down! for me it felt good to let it out :)  i'm sorry that you were alone too.  especially given the significant dates that surround you....it's amazing to me, after all you've endured, that you forge ahead the way you do.  you are lucky to have pusscat, even if she is so far away, her spirit is one of the most genuine and calming that i have ever seen.  i understand that it must be frustrating to have her be so far away.  i'm really glad to hear that your sinus thing was ok :)  i'm sure this week will be hard for you. take care of you. thanks for being such a friend!

  winter - merry christmas to you too!!! it sounds like you really do have a little angel there! but, i'm sure you realize, it's cause you have set such a great example for her :)  you are right that kids are smart and only wish for the hugs and kisses...my boys should be coming home soon and i can't wait :)  thanks for your friendship (pssst...i left you a "present" on destinydiva's "secret santa" blog)

  cman - hello and merry christmas!!!! did you say tall dark and handsome?! i think i could help you out...lolol!!! i CANNOT believe that you got a GOLF CART!!!! that is sooo cool!!! i bet you were like a kid!!!  what a sweet son you have :)  btw...i don't golf but i do drive a mean cart! thanks for the video (took me back a ways!)

  me-my - so sweet of you to stop by!!! goodies, yummy!!! bring some over my way!! smoked elk? i've never heard of it. wondering if it tastes like chicken???  i will always keep on a rockin' :)  merry christmas!!!!!!!!!

• RollingC said on Dec 25, 2008....

  Merry Christmas Fraggle and Happy New Year.
  
  Rc
  
  ps.  Don't be lonely...we're here for you !
  

• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Dec 25, 2008....

  
  Fraggles (((((((((((warmest embrace))))))))) !
  
  I saw your post (I think just about the time you posted it) and my browser froze before I could comment :( ...
  
  I have known great Christmases, I have known extremely painful Christmases...I can emphatize...
  
  I am sending you warm fuzzy good thoughts on this day, as you spend them with your boys and mom.
  
  Merry Christmas
  
  <3
  
  paper ~
  
  p.s.
  
  you are a great mom... and I bet your boys thinks the world of you
  
  blubbiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeees
  
  
  
  
  
  

• fragglesrock said on Dec 25, 2008....

  rc - thank you, i've had a much better day today :)  merry christmas and happy new year to you also!!!

  paper - thanks for understanding! i spent a wonderful day with the boys today :)  i appreciate the warm fuzzy thoughts and blubbiiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeees :)

• queenparanoia said on Dec 27, 2008....

  fraggle... {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

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