• bloc said on Jun 06, 2006....

  bad parents are the worst! Are these military families?

• SOLDIERCIPSWIFE said on Jun 06, 2006....

  YES--which would make you think that they would have more disciplined and well mannered children. I pride myself on the fact my son is so polite and respectful. I would absolutely die if he ran across someone elses yard and threw trash in it....Plus these people are always yelling at their children..I feel so bad...I am so glad my children are loved and disciplined...Balance of the two is key I believe to healthy adulthood.

• bloc said on Jun 06, 2006....

  Unfortunately military people are often, well, what you described :( In the barracks people were disgusting. I usually had to clean the community bathroom and people would do the lamest things like throwing chicken bones in the urinal when the trashcan was just around the corner. I had to pick chicken bones out of the urinal!

• anonymous said on Jun 06, 2006....

  It's your duty as a good Christian to report them. You know the right thing to do, God knows this and shame on you if you don't do the right thing. You shouldn't be angry with them! Accept them as they are, for they are sheep who stray from the flock. Quiet your anger and report them. They need to be disciplined themselves. How do you expect them to discipline their children, when they are so in need themselves?

• anonymous said on Jun 06, 2006....

  I have to say that I am a christian as well and maybe s... should report them but it is not your place anonymous to tell someone what he or she should do. Shame on you as a christian for that post. Everyone in life needs a place to vent and be heard in all the hardships that life is, without judgment. Maybe it would be nice to hear love and support from a fellow christian instead of hard words. S... life is so frustrating I understand. Sometimes things just suck.

• fairydustdesign said on Jun 06, 2006....

  I hear ya soldiercipswife!!! It's absolutely ridiculous. I am so sick of all of these parents not taking any responsibility for their children. Even the media is full of children 'out of control'. Who's to blame?...the parents! These mothers who say that their children run the household and they don't know what to do.....how ridiculous!!! If I had talked to my mother the way some of these kids talk to theirs or behaved in the same manner, I would have gotten smacked! Maybe you should have a real chat with your neighbour about the things her kids are getting up to. Something needs to change for the childrens' sakes as well.

• GospelSongbird said on Jun 08, 2006....

  Some people are just lazy, and some are hopeless... ...But somewhere along the way, somebody will notice your good example, and you'll make an impression for being responsible. Keep up the good work, and always take the high road.

• SOLDIERCIPSWIFE said on Jun 09, 2006....

  It just kills me because all these kids want is some attention...they are now my grass watering helpers :)

• hotaka said on Jun 09, 2006....

  Thanks for reinforcing the belief that I don't want kids. If mine behaved like your neighbour's I would sell them to a band of gypsies.

• SOLDIERCIPSWIFE said on Jun 10, 2006....

  Hotaka--LOL Kids are a product of what is taught and reinforced at home. I cannot imagine life without my children. My husband and I stare at my son in his crib and he grabs my hand and tells me " How can you describe the love for a child? How is it that you feel it so deep in your soul? You did so good on him babe- He is absolutely beautiful!" Having a child love you is like nothing else in the world. When I see my neighbors kids I thank God he sent me Anthony and Joshua to take care of and love, and to see they have wonderful lives. I feel bad all children are not as loved and well taken care of as mine :)

• PitchPatch said on Jun 13, 2006....

  Okay, I intend on having kids in the future and someone PLEASE SHOOT ME if I am ever that bad - a messy house is one thing, but an unsanitary house is an entirely different subject, and not watching a 2-year-old is just -asking- for disaster.

• Tappa said on Jun 16, 2006....

  Oh, wow. I can remember that as a kiddy, you just didn't do Anything naughty, Anywhere. Why? 'Cos any neighbour seeing you acting out would correct you - maybe a yell or a growling. Or you'd walk in the door at home and Mum would be on the case cos the neighbout had phoned home an told on you. Mum would now be mad on two counts - 1 you did bad and 2 someone else saw you (shame). So, you learned to behave. With my own kids, I always told the parents of playmates - if he does wrong, feel free to let him know - you don't have to wait for me to tell him. I accepted that in her house, her rules. My kids learned to respect people and property. These days? See a mini-villain acting bad, tell him/her it's a bad thing they're doing, and get a mouthful of abuse in your face. As a teacher - if I needed to discipline a clasroom mini-villain it was most often a case of the kid fooling around in class time, so I'd expect them to then work during their "play time" or after school. Not a big deal, you'd think, being a natural consequence of the actions. But, the number of times I'd get a parent whining at the door how the minivillain shouldn't have to stay in after school with reasons such as... {followed by my thoughts to myself} "I have to take him now, we're going shopping" {and he holds the credit card?} "He can't stay in after school - his aunty's having a baby" {and he's an obstetrician?} "But we're moving house" {and he's a heavy vehicle driver?} [i]the worst ...[/i] "It's not fair!" {and my inner voice is speechless}

• hotaka said on Jun 17, 2006....

  One thing I love about teaching kids here in Japan is that most mothers want their children to behave. Just the other day I sent two kids into the hall for interupting the class activity far too many times. They aplogized and I let them back in. When another wouldn't listen to me I put him out and he ran away. Shortly after another teacher came by with him and he was in tears. She asked what happened and I explained. His mother came to pick him up and asked what happened. When the Japanese teacher explained the story the mother apologized to me and told her son to apologize too. The mother of one of the other misbehaving kids also apologized to me. I told them their boys are normally good and that just today they weren't listening to me. But every week is the same. Sometimes you just have to say when it's enough and send them outside. After almost six years in total of teaching here, only two mothers I have encountered have ever defended their children's misbehaviour. The rest apologize and tell their kids to apologize too. I wonder how much longer this can last.

• SOLDIERCIPSWIFE said on Jun 20, 2006....

  hotaka- I think well behaved, well mannered children are one of the best things in this world. It is rare and I do not understand. The only time I had to "defend" my son from his teacher was when his teacher sent a note home saying he was missing 10 homework assignments. I do homework with my son every night. So, my husband and I are going to the school with my son telling him basically his life is over:) I explained I didn't do homework with him every day for him to just not turn it in. Well, we get there and the teacher says that it was a mistake and that he just forgot to mark that everything was turned in...OMG, my father never would have taken the time to go to the school. I would have just gotton a beating and then grounded. I explained to the teacher that he needed to be more careful when sending notes home telling me that my son is not doing what he should. I know alot of parents do not have the time to take off work and head down to the school. It was kind of funny though because my son looked at me and my husband and said " I TOLLLLLLD you I do all my homework and turn it in!" KIDS!!!!

• twist said on Jun 29, 2006....

  soldiercipswife, I am coming a little late to this one, but aren't blogs wonderful outlets, to keep your sanity - keep blogging, you'll be ok, until your husband returns. The saying goes: absence makes the heart grow fonder, and I really don't see, how your heart could grow any fonder

• SOLDIERCIPSWIFE said on Jul 17, 2006....

  Twist--YOu make my day!!! Thank you for your encouraging words!!

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