I need some help!  Anyone, please HELP!  I recently started seeing this woman that I really like, (it's been about a month)  The woman, we will call her "D" is in AA (Alcholics Anonymous)  When she admitted this to me, which was the first night, I really did not think that it would be a problem, but it sure became one!  She's 41, I'm 26, it's not a matter of the age diffrence, because I've dated women older than her, and it's never been a problem.  What the problem is that ANYTIME that I just want to have a drink, for example, a glass of wine, I'm prohibited from doing so!  I usually have my glass of wine with a meal, but she finds that VERY WRONG! 

Now, my question is, do I have to pay back for all that she has done in her past?!  It's not my problem, and/or my fault.... I tried to tell her that I wont drink around her, but it's just not me??!!  I just got out of a 4 year controlling relationship to come back to another one!  I want to be able to "be myself"....  I cant be with her and keep myself, too, this is what she is making me see.  So I tried to solve all issues and I told her that I need "time with my friends" that way I can have drinks and talk, like we usually do..... she said no problem, but then she calls me ALLLLLL night....... tells me "Im drunk" tells me "she hates Alcho.... now.... do I really need to put up with that?  She's been sober 5 years (as per what she tells me) she should be sure of herself!  I told her not to reflect herself on me, because Im getting really upset.... we got matching tattoos, we got each other rings, and now we're not together, because "Alcohol is an issue"..... she's telling me that Im choosing alcohol before her, and its not that, Im actually choosing "me" before her or anyone..... there is no need to change yourself....time can change you, but you cant change time!  Shes giving me the guilt trip, she's playing the victim, and Im not going to let this bother me, because I KNOW that I have done NOTHING wrong!  Then she tells me, how could I love her so much one day, and be so cold and strong the next day?  That's my personality but it does not mean that I dont care for her, I just have realized many things, we are two worlds, but one heart!  What do I do in a situation like this?  What can I say, if anything?  Please, I NEED SOME WORDS OF WISDOM...... I've never been through this and I'm going crazy!