• fragglesrock said on Dec 06, 2008....

  you have been ill...that really can make you feel depressed.  on the flip side...being depressed can cause you to get ill easier (imo)...i don't know the details that the situation entails but i know that you can only do what you can do and if your children are old enough they will understand that...most mothers want to do best for their kids...you just can't think you are letting them down. again, i don't know the situation.  i know that even as adults we have overly high expectations of our mothers, we see them as super human.  maybe you need to let them in on the secret that you are only human??? they won't like it, they might pout, but...they will still love and hopefully understand.  i'm sorry if i'm talking out of my ass and way off base...just trying to reach out :) sending good thoughts.....

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• pusscat said on Dec 07, 2008....

  Right then my friend.  You promised to 'do your best by both of them'. . .that does not mean never arguing with them.  It does not mean always agreeing with them.  Put it like this - if I were wanting to jump off a cliff and you argued with me about and kept grabbing my arms so I couldn't do it, does that mean you are letting me down?  No - it means that arguing with me and grabbing at me WAS doing your best by me.
  
  You children are adults and both know about life.  They pretend sometimes to be needy but they both cope well enough on their own.  K always had your help and support when she moved out on her wown, when she had your beautiful granddaughter and when she wanted to be a publican.  C always had your support with problems with your mum, problems with his own anger and girlfriend upsets.  You have done your best by both of them.  K is now managing her first pub/restaurant and I am so proud of her.  C swatted like crazy and passed his driving theory test then the practical test with not one fault!  These are adults my darling.  As adults we have to learn to take the shit with the sugar.  We have to learn that not everything is snowflakes and faires.  Life and the truth can be tough.
  
  When it comes time for C to go it alone he won't really be alone.  You will help him just like you did with K.  They do both need to understand though that if they continue to wear you down in any way, they will not have a fit, well mother to help them at all!  Just remind them now and again about our night at Pilgrim Hospital.  I had to wait 6 hours to see if your brain had been starved too long of oxygen.  They are lucky to have you at all.
  
  If you find it hard to speak to one of them about something, try writing it down lovey.  I find it much easier to write my feelings down.  This is something they can read more than once too which will help it to sink in.
  
  Take care darling
  
  Love ya
  
  xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  

• travelr712 said on Dec 07, 2008....

  i'm sorry to hear you're having a rough time, i hope things get better for you soon.

• Hegemone said on Dec 07, 2008....

  Lionesss, I'm so sorry to hear you're having such a rough time.  I don't know the details, so I can only make a meager attempt at offering any words that could help.   I'm not a mother, so I can't even begin to try to give any kind of advice from that vantage point.  From the kid perspective, even though we're all pretty damn stubborn and want ALL of you ALL the time, no matter who else we're supposed to be sharing with, we do realize that our parents are just trying to do the best they can by us, even if it does really tick us off.  I know there's been plenty of times I've driven my parents to wit's end and I realize they are right and I'm wrong, but I'm too darned stubborn to admit it.  Your children know you're doing your best by them and I doubt very much that the thought of 'She's failing me' or anything like it has crossed their mind.  They'll come around and realize this soon enough and it will be ok.  I agree with a lot of what Pusscat said, and I know you two are good friends, so I hope you'll definitely take what she says seriously. 
  
  As you were so generous with me a while ago when I was having a really rough patch, I would like to offer support to you.  I know you have PC, and perhaps even others (I don't know, and I will not assume either way), but if you ever do need to talk to somebody, even if it's just to let loose or whatever, I'm just a PM away.  I hope you'll be a bit better by the time you read this.  I really don't know what else to say except that I wish I could take some of your sorrow away.  Take care Lionesss.   Oh, and I think you need this .... ((((((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))))))))
  

• lionesss said on Dec 07, 2008....

  fraggs.thx you for your kind words, sometimes i have to sit and remember to take time out formyself and not be so involved,i just hate to think im letting my kids down....x
   
  pc...i shall see you soon and talk over a coffee,just a blip........x
   
  trav...thx you.....x
   
  hege...thx you for sharing your thorts and extending the hand of support.....x

• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Dec 12, 2008....

  
  
  I hope you are feeling better, dearest lionesss <3
  
  
  paper ~
  

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