Well we finally broke our news to our families on Thanksgiving. Actually Nat told her mom sooner because she wasn't planning to join us for the holiday. She had other plans. So Nat sent her an email with the sonogram picture in it, and then called her right away and told her to check it. Her mom didn't seem to comprehend right away what it was she was looking at. She even asked Nat if the picture was actually hers! Duh. Why would she send her mom a picture of someone else's little baby sprout?
But she was really excited once she realized the sprout was ours and that she'd get to be a grandmother again. (Nat's sister already has two kids.) But she was very insistent that the baby was a girl. Nat and I both disagree because we think it's a boy. And we told her mom not to run out and buy frilly pink stuff just yet. And Nat begged her not buy frilly stuff period because even if it's a girl, she doesn't want to dress her in foofy outfits all the time.
Her mom did a good job keeping it under wraps though, because we had asked her not to blab it to Nat's dad or to my parents. They were all going to be at Thanksgiving dinner, and we wanted to wait to surprise them then.
I kind of had visions of us making this announcement over dinner during some sort of heartfelt speech about what we're thankful for. You know, typical cheesiness. But I also knew me, and my mom, and I knew I'd be lucky if the secret stayed secret for more than 10 minutes. My mom is incredibly anxious to have another grandchild. She told me before that she had high hopes that Jack would have 2 or 3 kids and I'd have the same, and she'd be crawling with small children that she could spoil and love and give back to us at the end of the day.
But since Jack only had one child, and for many years it seemed I was a lost cause who would never reproduce, she sort of gave up. At least until I met Nat. And then about 3 weeks into our relationship I think my mom was praying I'd knock her up. So basically every time we see her, one of the first thing she asks is, "when are you guys having a baby?" And it's always lighthearted and joking around. She's never put any kind of pressure on us or anything. But she is VERY persistent.
So this time was no exception. We were helping her in the kitchen about 15 minutes after we got there. And she tossed out her question again. Usually I answer by saying to her, "OMG, Mom, be patient!" But this time I just told her, "soon...." Cryptic enough, but different enough that it sparked her interest. She asked me, "how soon? When?" And I could see her excitement level rising, and so could Nat. She decided to tell her that she was gonna give me a baby for my next birthday present.
My mom laughed about that and she said, "oh now that would be a great present!" But she didn't think it was serious. She thought Nat was just being a smart ass. So I told my mom, "no seriously, that's what I'm getting." And I watched her wheels turn as she did the math in her head. She was trying to figure out if Nat was already pregnant, or if we were just going to try for this or something. And once she thought back to Thanksgiving 30 years ago when she was pregnant with me, she realized, oh my God!
It was so cool to see her that excited. And she kept telling me that we better not be joking or else she'd have to smack me up. But we weren't joking. And she squished us both with hugs until I told her we couldn't breathe. And that can't be good for the baby right?
But then she proceeded to basically burst out of the kitchen and tell everyone, "Kyle and Nat are having a baby!" So much for my beautiful announcement over dinner. But that's okay. I'm not good with cheesy speeches anyway. And the excitement was still excitement whether the announcement came from me or not.
My dad was really happy and Nat's dad was really happy. My grandparents (who I see exactly once a year and I'm not close to) actually seemed happy. And that's no small feat to make my grandma happy because she's about as crabby assed as they come. Jack and his wife already knew though. But not my niece. She's not a good secret keeper. But once she found out she told Nat very happily, "now you'll need new clothes because your stomach will get fat!"
Ahh yes, this is what kids are like. So honest and straightforward. I guess we better get used to that! My mom got on Jack's case though because he already knew this good news and didn't tell her. Which of course was at my request. But she had asked him last week if I was ever going to have kids and he told her I'd said, "never!" And that made her really sad and apparently even more determined to ask us about it at every turn. He got the mom smack down for lying and making her sad, but he had a good reason! He was throwing her off. And it really just made her even happier when she realized he was a big fat liar.
But it was a really good day and I was happy to have good news to share. The rest of the day was typical Thanksgiving stuff. Lots of food, lots of disapproving glances from my grandma about our clothes and our language and our bad habits. But lots of laughter and fun too.
So now everyone knows that needs to know. It still doesn't quite seem real though. But Nat's pants are all getting really tight and there is a little bump on her belly that we both notice. I don't think anyone else would know yet, but since we both see her naked a lot we can tell :-P But I'm sure once other people start noticing, the whole thing will really sink in. We're having a baby. For real! It's awesome, but it's just so unreal.
I never thought it'd happen to me I guess. I wanted it to, but I still never thought it would....
evil_twin posted on Nov 29, 2008
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diabolicdame said on Nov 29, 2008....
Oh how could have expected your mum to keep the secret!! hehehe.. I'm stunned at how Nat's mum was able to keep it to herself that long!! hehe.. you're having a baby!! yay!! :-) -
Mr_Box said on Nov 29, 2008....
I always knew it'd happen eventually. And I'm really glad it happened when it did. It was a good holiday, but I think your good news cheered the place up pretty well.It'll start feeling more real here soon enough. Now that everyone knows, it's likely going to be the only thing anyone talks about from here on out. Then it'll start feeling real!Congrats again. I can't wait to be an uncle. -
quietone said on Nov 29, 2008....
I can feel such excitement in your writing kyle. You and nat will make great parents, no doubt... and we here at SC will get to see yet another "mininat" or "minitwin" grow. I never had a child of my own, so this is like the next best thing. :) -
husbandhater said on Nov 29, 2008....
Oh Gosh that Harper is something else.Hahaha. I loved this story. Wow I'm so happy and excited for you both. The baby will be beautiful and sounds as if she or he is lucky to have such a LOVING family to enter into. The greatest adventure awaits you both enjoy! -
gingersoul said on Nov 29, 2008....
Kyle....lol....when my ex husband an I told my parents the news about our daughter my mother wouldn't stop laughing. I mean, hysterically laughing.
She just couldn't freaking believe us!
I always said i didn't want any kids. So she was truly convinced she was not going to see any grandkids from me.
We had to repeat the news at least three times before she finally believed us.
Your niece is just a little stinker.....lol.....
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fragglesrock said on Nov 29, 2008....
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Lucytorial said on Nov 29, 2008....
gotta hand it to your niece to keep things real! your moms going to get exactly what she wanted huh? well you two be careful, I can see your baby being kidnapped by her at every opportunity LOL -
evil_twin said on Nov 29, 2008....
dia--I kinda knew that if I told my mom first, she'd run through the house and tell everyone else :-P But that was okay! I think it worked out just fine. And luckily Nat's mom kept her mouth shut....
Uncle Box--I do think that this is all most people want to talk about with us right now, but that's okay! It's fun and exciting to talk to about :-) I know you're gonna make a cool uncle.
quietone--I am really excited. I don't think I've ever been this excited over anything! And I look forward to sharing this journey with everyone here :-) Thank you for being a part of it.
HH--Harper really is something else isn't she? :-P She's so funny. I think that our baby is definitely going to be very loved :-)
ginger--I can see why your mom would be so surprised if you said you never wanted kids. I bet she was really happy when she finally realized you were serious!
fraggles-- :-)
Lucy--I think the cool thing about my mom being so excited is that we've probably got a babysitter anytime we want one!
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queenparanoia said on Nov 29, 2008....
that is so great kyle!!! and on thanksgiving!!!such a wonderful blessing!!! congrats!!! -
moonriver said on Nov 29, 2008....
who's having a baby? you and nat? how is that possible? duh. i take a short break from soulcast and this is what happens. lol. hey man, can i give you a high five from faraway india? that hotaka dude from japan should also be here to give you lots of advise... :-)
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scipio said on Nov 30, 2008....
Congrats ! Good Luck.!With the amount of buns in the ovens of our popular Soulcasters next year will bring increase in the population of the Soulcasters.Time to start a soulcast nursery ! Any volunteers ! -
Me-Myself&I said on Nov 30, 2008....
love and babies are the best gifts in this world. they do funny things to a person. *smile* huh well your excitement is felt thru this screen. this is a wonderful learning experience. but just wait till next year at this time. too cool! it will be real nice to read your ups and downs the next few months. hold on! this is the ride of your lives. all the best to you and Nat. take care ~see ya -
CreativeWoman said on Nov 30, 2008....
I'm so happy for you guys. Isn't it wonderful how a baby brings joy to everyone around you? It's a great blessing. Congratulations again!
CW
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wombat said on Nov 30, 2008....
Well, you didn't get to make the "big moment" speech, but still--I liked reading how things went. Continued blessings from me to you and yours--sounds like a wonderful family you have there.....and growing! My best to you and to that sweet lady, also!
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PassionTraveler said on Dec 01, 2008....
Seeing as I'm likely the only local Soul Caster near you, other than your brother of course, I volunteer for the occasional babysitting duties. ;) Congrats.
PT
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evil_twin said on Dec 01, 2008....
queen--Thank you :-)
moonriver--This is what happens when you go away for too long! Yup, Nat and I are having a baby :-) Thanks for the high five and Hotaka was here for the announcement, but I haven't seen him come back yet. He promised me advice! He's got a few months to get back here and tell me all the secrets....
scipio--There are an awful lot of expectant parents here huh? We do need a Soulcast nursery! Thank you :-)
Me-Myself--This is definitely going to be an interesting learning experience from here on out. I am excited though. I'm ready for what's next. And I'm glad I get to share it all with everyone here. Thank you :-)
CW--It is wonderful how a baby can bring so much joy, even before they're born! Thank you :-)
wombat--Thank you so much :-)
PT--I haven't seen you in awhile. I'm glad you stopped in. Thanks for the congrats and the babysitting offer :-P
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hotaka said on Dec 02, 2008....
I always enjoy your family posts and reading about your mom's excitement made me smile ear to ear. My mom was so excited because with my sister still not married at 33 and me dating the same girl for 8 years she was hedging her bets my way.
By the way, I thought for a week on what to write for my post about becoming a father and I nearly gave up trying to put everything down in under three pages. But tonight I had a spare moment and slapped something down off the keyboard. It's not quite how I imagined I would express myself but you might want to read it anyway just to know one person's point of view.
Oh, and those larger breasts? You might not get to touch them as much as you'd like if Nat's breast feeding. They leak and you have to be careful.
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one_wired_kitty said on Dec 02, 2008....
WoOoOoOoT .... I'm so happy for you
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motherofchicken said on Dec 03, 2008....
Surely coming in late Kyle, but wanted to say it anyway - congratulations :) so happy for you! -
starchini said on Dec 04, 2008....
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evil_twin said on Dec 05, 2008....
hotaka--Thanks for writing that post. I hope my baby is as happy as yours is. And thanks for the tip about the leaky boobs. Huh. Well I guess I'll just enjoy looking at them if I'm not allowed to touch! ;-)
kitty--Thank you :-)
motherofchicken--Hey! Good to see you. And thank you :-)
star-- Thanks :-)
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Mamie said on Jan 06, 2009....
sorry to have been mia for a bit, I am so happy to read this story!! How is Nat doing? I am thrilled for you both!! For all of you really!! Best of luck with everything....how are "names" coming along? best to your bride!!xo, M -
evil_twin said on Jan 07, 2009....
mamie--It's good to see you! Better late than never ;-) Nat is doing really well actually. She hasn't had any real problems at all with any of this. We're supposed to find out if it's a boy or a girl on the 23rd of this month, and then we can pick a name. We've got a little bit of a list going, but there are a lot more boys names than girls :-P -
Mamie said on Jan 07, 2009....
oh I am so excited for you! I think Mamie is a swell name, don't you? :))
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