• kruuyai said on Nov 23, 2008....

  lol.... hmmm, I do like my men to wait on me..haha (but I don't ask them to)

• beyondtheveil said on Nov 23, 2008....

  Come on by, miss kruuyai,
  I'll serve you a BLT.
  Stretch your legs, lounge around,
  watch the dark chocolate fly.
  

• evil_twin said on Nov 23, 2008....

  I have problems asking anyone to do anything for me. So I'm definitely not the, "go get me a beer!" type. But I do kinda like being taken care of when I'm sick. But I do the same for her too. I can get my own Band Aid though....
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• beyondtheveil said on Nov 23, 2008....

  ET- Now that you mention it, I've always had that asking for help problem too. Its kind of strange that I don't mind asking for directions (the usual women's dig about men), but other help I ask for rarely. 

• mobil said on Nov 23, 2008....

  I'm like an outhouse, just keep shitting down the hole, no flush no muss. I don't need much and don't ask for much. My wife, she's the same way.

• beyondtheveil said on Nov 23, 2008....

  mobil- I've found in some ways we are much alike. Although I've never compared myself to an outhouse (leave that to you to come up with), there is something 'down to earth' about them, isn't there? 

• mobil said on Nov 23, 2008....

  There really is, and literally too haha. I've always checked out the work of the handi man who built the crapper. You don't need a magazine, just sit there and look around. Evaluate the place ya know?

• kruuyai said on Nov 23, 2008....

  beyond: My, oh my... we are waxing poetic today, aren't we?  A BLT and dark chocolate?  How could I pass that up?  I'm on the phone to my travel agency.

• Hegemone said on Nov 23, 2008....

  Hmmm, lol, interesting outlook.  I tend not to like being high maintenance, it makes me feel guilty or as if I owe somebody something, so I try to do as much as I can on my own.  If I ask my husband to do things, it's generally something like cleaning the fan blades (he's tall, I'm not), cleaning the toilet bowl (no matter how drunk I am, I STILL cannot pee outside of the toilet bowl, sorry, I've paid attention) or things that directly relate to him or a shortcoming of mine that makes it very difficult for me to do. 
  
  So far as men being high maintenance though, while females are the ones who get the stereotype usually, I agree.  My husband is one of those crabasses when he's sick.  He's ok if I'm waiting on him hand and foot, making him soup, handing him tissues, making life easier for him and leaving him alone ... or if he gets a cut he doesn't want anybody but me to help him clean it up.  Part of that though, I think is that a.) he doesn't know how to do some things because he was never taught and b.) some things he asks me to help with just SCREAM 'I could do it myself, but I want you to feel like I need you.'  So his high-maintenance-ness is not necessarily all blind, sometime's its aimed at making me feel necessary to him.
  

• secretlife said on Nov 23, 2008....

  high maintenance i always associate with what it takes to keep me "up"-  like in my younger days it was jeans, tshirt brush thru the hair and go-  i never colored my hair til a month before i got married, and then only to give myself highlights.  i wasn't much for makeup unless there was an occassion...i had a sister who would spend about 2 hours every morning in the bathroom-  she'd do her makeup and her hair and for years nobody saw her without these things done.  she was what i called "high maintenance".
   
  so i was going along fine being low maintenance when all of a sudden i hit 30 and got a bunch of grays in my hair......then 35 and i'm not liking how my skin looks so much- dark circles, some puffiness......then 40 i discovered how great to get my nails and toes done for me.........and ta-da...all of a sudden i have become high maintenance!!!! 
   
  i don't like my men to wait on me.  i'm more of the other extreme so to speak......but i do like to be "together" and the older i get, the more it takes.......

• gingersoul said on Nov 23, 2008....

  BeyBey...i associate being high maintenance with being demanding on others.
  Whining or fussing over the stupidest things, manipulating people for making them doing stuff to you, having he delusional feeling you deserve the best because you believe you are the best....
  
  Not my kind of cakes (since we are in mood for chocolate cake here, right my friend?.....lol...)
  
  I actually like "serving" my loved ones.. i don't think its anything humiliating for me preparing sandwiches if asked in the right way and if not expected. Or taking care of them. I do like cook for them, throwing parties, buying stuff...
  
  I have had only one high maintenance man.....and he lasted only few months...lol....
  
  For me...i am not high maintenance at all.......as long as i have my lipstick, my hair look good and i wear my favorite jeans i am ready to go.....lol...
  
  
  
  
  

• Lucytorial said on Nov 23, 2008....

  LOL @ Ginger... thems some maintenance requirements dear... the jeans.. who can find a good pair these days I tell ya!
   
  Never needed to be like that... Its just alien to me to behave that way or associate with people that do too.

• travelr712 said on Nov 23, 2008....

  i get my own beer, do my own dishes, cook my own meals, but i do like it when someone does something for me just because they're thinking about me.

• diabolicdame said on Nov 23, 2008....

  I am not high maintanance.. I don't need to keep cleaning my place all the time.. I like a lil mess.. I take ten minutes to get ready and out the door (sometimes 5).. and I can live on bread and butter without complaints if I have to!
   
  Oh and I hate those wussy guys! Ugh! Such a pain! They're like lil kids just needing someone to do stuff for them. My god!

• uniquely-ironic said on Nov 23, 2008....

  I haven't decided if I'm high maintenance or not.  I don't think I am, but I do have a few things that I like to have someone do for me.  IDK I guess I'll find out.

• lionesss said on Nov 23, 2008....

  hello everyone.. wel i can honestly say im not high maintenance at all, i do every thing for myself, i cud say im miss independant,lol, wen im poorly i dnt like others flapping round i just want to be left to get better without any fuss, BUT i love to look after others, my kids are very pampered,even now they come hme to get better,im single so i dnt have a man to cook/clean/lookafter,BUT if i did im sososo sure i wudnt run about after him eitha, BUT  if i did have a partner i wud expect him to help now and again... :)x

• queenparanoia said on Nov 23, 2008....

  well i whine a lot... lol...

  but i'm not really high maintenance. i dont demand something for myself. if i could do it myself then i do it.

  although i like to be pampered when i'm sick...lol... ;-)

• Lioness said on Nov 23, 2008....

  beyond, you are one of a kind. :D
  
  I don't consider myself high maintenance either. As much as possible, I do things on my own, even now that people think I should mellow down considering my situation. I dunno, I  find satisfaction within knowing that I made use of the faculties God has given me. Ever since, I hate delegating to others things that I can do myself, and I agree, it's hard living with people who demand and depend a lot on others, even for the simplest of things. 

• yani said on Nov 23, 2008....

  Nope, Im not high maintenance either, I do things on my own. I do appreciate it when someone does something for me out of thougfulness, but even then, sometimes I just don't know how to respond hehe
  
  On the other hand, I fuss over my love ones, I feel good to be able to do little things for them, though I don't wait on the like a slave either.I just want them to feel that they are well-taken cared of by me, is all.
  

• woman said on Nov 23, 2008....

  When I read your title I thought you were refering to personal high maintenance. The type of maintenance you refer to doesn't apply to me. I am independent and llike to take care of myself. Annoys me to have people fluttering around me. (though I do like to help others) BUT, like Secretlife, I am very "high maintenance" as far as personal care. I remember when showering and brushing my hair did it. But times have changed. I have to be pulled together all the time, even running to the store. I guess it makes me feel better about myself and it hurts no one.

• Hegemone said on Nov 23, 2008....

  Well, I already posted my comment about the other kind of high maintenance.  But in so far as personal high maintenance, I don't think I am at all.  I barely ever wear makeup, if I do it's a stick concealer (liquid or compact type concealors are just too complicated for me) that's easy and I can pop on anywhere, on wherever the blemish or whatever is.  My lip color of choice ... chapstick, so no, not even a true lipcolor, just a little moisturizing.  I so rarely use this stuff that I have only had to buy makeup twice ... once when they didn't have the stick concealor yet, and once when they came out with it.  I can get ready to go out faster than my husband even.  I'm starting to gain a little more preference on how I look though, as I don't like my hair to be all frizzy, so I will stop what I'm doing and give it a brushing through, but not if it's going to cause major issues for whatever is going on, only when it's convenient.  I don't know if it's just that I don't care, because I do, but I feel no need to go to all the trouble ... or perhaps it's laziness ... but I also think it's a little bit of lack of knowledge, as about the time I should've been getting into all the frilly,girly, make-uppy stuff, my parents divorced and I lived with my dad ... so I kinda had to teach myself all that girly stuff.

• MissMimi said on Nov 24, 2008....

  Not particularly high maintenance.  I'm far more likely to serve than to be served.  Unless I get pissed off.  Then you can serve yourself.  ;)  I enjoy taking care of someone as long as I feel I'm doing it because I want to, and not because I have to.

• destinydiva said on Nov 24, 2008....

  lol  nice post beyond :-)
  
  my ex was high maintenance...  it gets ridiculous!! and way too much effort..  he was like ..man flu constantly!! he'd be laying on the couch seriously.. with a cold.. going oohhhh  get me some water... oohh  I need a cuddle ..oohh I need some lemonade.. rah!!! drove me potty!!!
  dont get me wrong, when the kids are sick I pamper them, but there is something odd about pampering a 30 year old man who irritates the hell out of you on a good day!!!   :-)
  
  I am defo not high maintenance, quite the opposite!! I am very independant, maybe it's cus I'm not used to it, but it feels weird a man doing everything for me!!
  I dont like it :-)
  
  I think if I really loved a man with man flu.. I'd look after him and make a fuss tho :-) xx
  
  
  

• beyondtheveil said on Nov 24, 2008....

  hegemone- My wife would love it if I took over the toilet bowls. I clean them sometimes, but usually act busy so she'll do them. And I've noticed something else you said, its amazing some of the things men aren't taught at a younger age.
  
  secret- My wife saw those 'grays' coming in and couldn't tolerate it. I've probably bought more hair color for her than any other one thing in life. It works for her, she looks quite young for her age. I think you're right though, more maintenance comes with age.
  
  ginsoul- Your first paragraph describe the people I'm talking about. And doing things for other people isn't 'serving' if done out of love - its those who 'expect' to be served. What color lipstick do you use? - I'm painting a mental picture of you. I've got the hair, butt, legs, eyes, and boots down pat, I think.
  
  trav- I really couldn't agree more.
  
  diabo- I know! - don't wussy guys with a scratch turn you off? And a little mess is ok - looks lived in so long as its not food. Food laying around bothers me.
  
  unique- If you haven't decided, you probably aren't. Don't you think?
  
  

• uniquely-ironic said on Nov 24, 2008....

  well I  think so, but I've heard from other people that I am high maintenance.  It's a little confusing for me.  I've always seen myself as low maintenance, but how objectively do we really see ourselves?

• diabolicdame said on Nov 24, 2008....

  Yeah I agree.. I don't like food laying around either! But I like to haev a t-shirt thrown around on the bed.. cushions.. books and newspapers around me.. yeah that kinda stuff..   :-)

• beyondtheveil said on Nov 24, 2008....

  lionesss- There's nothing wrong with wanting to look after others, especially kids. I think kids need more looking after nowdays than less. And I think your partner should always help.
  
  queenie- I've been accused of whining too - I have my moments. Next time you're sick, blog about it and I'll pamper you.
  
  lioness- You know, a bit of mellow might be good for your situation, especially later. Mellow always feels good, keeps down the stress. Thanks for the compliment (one of a kind. :D). You need to blog more, girl.
  
  yani- I think you've got it down right. Couldn't have said it better myself.
  
  woman- You're right. That kind of high maintenance hurts no one. My wife does that. Makes her look good anywhere.
  
  hegemone- To each their own need. I think some people simply require more for their persona. As we've seen from the comments, age seems to matter.
  
  mimi- I feel you're not alone in that 'being pissed off' mode. In fact, I wouldn't want to be served by anyone in pissed off mode - never know what you might get. I look at you as a more 'laid back' girl. Am I right?
  
  des- Oh, your ex must have been a thrill at times. That's the exact whining I'm talking about. Its the part of the post where I don't understand. I'm sure he had his good qualities, but this would drive me batty.
  
  unique- And I think you brought up good fodder for a post. How about writing of how objectively we see ourselves? Something similar has been done before, but its a great subject.
  

• gingersoul said on Nov 24, 2008....

  BeyBey......wait a second....lol....you got the mental image of my butt??
  
  And how did you come up with that?....LOL....now i am really curios......
  
  You crack me up.....:-D
  
  Btw, my favorite shades of lipstick are mauve, berry and dark rose. They go well with my skin tone.....or......are you gonna tell me you have already an idea of this too?.....lol..  

• fragglesrock said on Nov 24, 2008....

  i used to think i was LOW maintenance with a capital L.  but the older i get the more it takes to maintain me :)

• beyondtheveil said on Nov 24, 2008....

  ginsoul-  Aw shoot, I had a mental image of your butt a long time ago. What you seem to forget is the hints you've given about yourself in posts and comments. I'll start working on your toes pretty soon. And yes, I think I've got the skin tone now, too.
  
  fraggle- You aren't alone there. Just about everyone needs more maintenance as years go by. I don't know if that applies to men, though.
  

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