• wishyouwerehere said on Nov 19, 2008....

  Tricky, Fraggles - but why are you so sure there is no future in it?  And would it be ok if there wasn't?  You can live in the present moment?

• queenparanoia said on Nov 19, 2008....

  it's funny the right person for us is never the person we thought we ended up with...
   
  so go for it!!!!
   
  besides is the sex better????
   
  then go for it!!!!!!!!!!!
   
  whaahhahahhahahhahahhahahhahaha... ;-)

• fragglesrock said on Nov 19, 2008....

  wishy - it is tricky, i am sure there is no future, but i am all about living in the present...which is why i'm blowing through all the caution signals ;)

  qp - i am far from believing that he is 'mr right' but i do know that he is 'mr right now' which is all i need. i will refrain comment on the sex ;)

• fragglesrock said on Nov 19, 2008....

  p.s. wishy - shouldn't i be doing the responsble thing and NOT let myself get wrapped up in a young guy who is undoubtedly going to fall head over heels madly in love with me because i'm fabulous??? or....what if it's the opposite way around? (blasphemy)

• mobil said on Nov 19, 2008....

  Because you're not hurting anybody, you like the guy and you're have a good time?

• lionesss said on Nov 19, 2008....

  Hummmmm, age matters why? and your both single,not hurting anyone,your both having a good time, enjoying life,i dnt know why you just go enjoy life as life is too short to be thinkin about things,its early days you go for it {{hugs}}x

• fragglesrock said on Nov 19, 2008....

  mobil - i likey the way you thinkey :)

  lionesss - hello! thanks for reading - you are so right, life IS too short, and thanks for the hugs :)

• secretlife said on Nov 19, 2008....

  my sister was 28 when she began dating a guy who was 18.
  he didn't look 18.  he was working in NJ, but was from Louisianna-
  we all thought she'd lost her mind.
  she was robbing the cradle for heaven's sake!
  at age 30, my sister married a 20 yr old from Louisianna.
  They've been married 12 years now, and have 2 children.
  You never know!!!!

• fragglesrock said on Nov 19, 2008....

  secret - what a great story! love it! and you are right, you don't ever know :) i say...when there's fireworks you gotta at least look, well, i don't really say that, i only said it just now, but maybe now i'll start saying it :) thanks secret.

• MissMimi said on Nov 19, 2008....

  if fraggle and friend M play safely, and both have their eyes wide open, then where's the harm?  You know what, sometimes, you just have to go for it, even if it seems way too unlikely.  Really ultimately, it's nobody's decision but yours and M's.  I say go for it.

• uniquely-ironic said on Nov 19, 2008....

  What MissMimi said.  dating involves risks, but at least you know what risks you're taking.

• mischavalentine said on Nov 20, 2008....

  I must say you put some sunshine into my dull life today I'm sorry for laughing but the way you put this was quite funny.
  
  You are definitely in a great position, test the waters while you can.
  Before you know it you're on a leash tied to a pole in your backyard and God forbid you should even take a tiny peep at the world on the other side of the fence.
  
  Go for gold fraggles!
  

• sweetsoul said on Nov 20, 2008....

  Agreeing with Mimi as well.
   
  I don't know how old you are but as long as he's of legal age and your maturity levels are similar, I don't see that 10 years' age difference is a big deal. Yes I know the 'rule' used to be that she should be 4 years younger than him, but that was generations ago. All sorts of people date/marry with larger age differences.
   
  A reminder that no one says you have to marry everyone you date. If you've just gotten out of a bad relationship, a non-serious dating relationship might be just what you need.
   
  My only caveat is that you two need to talk and make sure you're both in the same place...have the same intent. It's the same as having casual sex...nothing inherently wrong with it as long as both people involved agree that it's casual sex...not love of my life, going to be together forever sex.
   
  My personal philosophy about age is that life's too short to eliminate possibilities. When I was younger I dated older men. Now that I'm older I tend to date younger men....though a few close to my age were delicious as well. ;)

• CayenneMan said on Nov 20, 2008....

    This makes me think back in the day but it still rings with some truth today . . . I had to go deep into the recesses of my mind, I've been there done that . . . by the way, between you and me . . . my "Mrs. Robinson" was my Spanish teacher in Jr. High School ;0)  if I had to live my life again I wouldn't change a thing , heck the only thing I would do differently would be to bring my "Mrs. Robinson" flowers . . .

• beautymark said on Nov 20, 2008....

  I say go for it! You never know what it coulda been if you don't persue it. Chemistry and passion is crazy that way. Besides I'm sure u deserve the smile, even if it turns out to be short lived. At least you can looked back on it and say you felt something and went for it!You never know what could happen, it could indeed be a move for ur future. I don't know how old you are but look at demi and ashton. They r going strong!!!!

• pusscat said on Nov 20, 2008....

  Hey Mrs Robinson, what's age got to do with it?  How do you know that there isn't any future in it either? 
  
  I don't think love ever has a strict pattern.  There is no rule to love except when you find it, you just know.  Nothing on this earth is guaranteed forever so take this chance while you can :)  Yeah - you could meet and marry a man the same age as you with no fireworks and live 'boringly ever after' or you could 'go for it' now with M and have the most amazing memories for the rest of your life. . .
  
  
  

• fragglesrock said on Nov 20, 2008....

  hi mimi - eyes wide open is a good thing for me to keep in mind :) thanks for the encouragement!

  hey uni - i agree with you, at least i'm aware of the risks :)

  mischa - i am sooo happy to bring the sunshine and the laughter :) i love your comment about being tied to a pole in your backyard...hilarious! thanks for reading and making me laugh!

  sweetsoul - i thank you for your in depth comment, we are both of legal age, and i  did just recently get out of a bad relationship, good reminder to me that not everyone i date has to be "marriage material", i needed to hear that :)  and we did talk, and we do have the same intentions, hang out, have fun, not get tied down to eachother etc...thank you for great advise :)

  cman - spanish teacher huh?! you could always send her flowers now....:) thanks for reading!

   

• kruuyai said on Nov 20, 2008....

  Age is nothing but a number.  My last boyfriend was 24 years younger than me.  The guy that you're looking for doesn't always come in the package that you expect.  The important thing is how you feel when you're with him, and if you still feel good about yourself when you're not with him... common interests, values, and blah, blah, blah.  People mature at different ages.  He may even be more mature than you, or you may be a great match, but if you break it off just because of a number, you'll never know.  I agree with wishy and mobil... don't worry too much about the future right now.  Just try to enjoy the present.  You go girl!

• fragglesrock said on Nov 20, 2008....

  kruuyai - thanks for sharing! you are very correct, i just need to enjoy the moment :)

  beautymark - thanks for reminding me that that i deserve a smile :) thanks!

  pusscat - good reminder, nothing is guaranteed :) "boringly ever after" ROFLMAO!!! thanks girl!

• yani said on Nov 20, 2008....

  fraggle if you're having a grand time with M go for it! :)

   

• wishyouwerehere said on Nov 20, 2008....

  Fraggles - I still see no reason why you shouldn't go for it - you're not hurting anyone!
   
  Have fun :)

• fragglesrock said on Nov 20, 2008....

  yani - thank you for the encouragement!!!

  whishy - fun is my middle name...fragglesfunrock :)

• Hegemone said on Nov 20, 2008....

  Frag - Well good luck with all of this.  I'm happy for you, yet another sign of moving on.  I say go for this ... and with that said, it's because I agree with a lot of things I've seen commented above.  Keep everything up front and open, make sure you're both on the same page, make sure you both know where this is going, could go, want it to go, etc. (basically, get to know each others expectations).  Also, yes, dating does not have to lead to marriage, it's just something to occupy you both, to fill some void, to make you both feel good.  Who wouldn't want to do that?  It takes the fun out of it to think too far ahead, so try not to do that either!  Like me and what I'm having to do, I'm enjoying the fact that things are good right now, I am not going to dwell on what was or what could be.  So the heck what about age, how old you are has to do with how you act, the numbers and dates are just a technicality, so don't even worry about that.  I hope this will give you some much needed happiness!  Go Frag!

• fragglesrock said on Nov 20, 2008....

  hege - hi! i hear ya...it does take the fun out of things to think too far ahead and may i add, to think to hard about them...i'm just scared of getting hurt i guess, but yes, being up front and being on the same page should keep things in safe territory.  thanks for cheering me on!

• Hegemone said on Nov 20, 2008....

  Anytime frag, you've done such a wonderful job helping me out, I really do appreciate all your words.  I just try to offer any kind of outlook I can if it'll help you.  : - )

• RollingC said on Nov 20, 2008....

  You never know Fraggle.....don't throw in the towel or put a negative spin on this.  Just wait and give it some time. 
  Wishing you the best.
  ♥
  Rc
  

• woman said on Nov 20, 2008....

  Fraggie~From an older woman's perspective. Life is short. Few men will say something like "Don't worry, I've got you." If I were you, I would be careful, in every sense of the word, and then I would let myself enjoy this experience.

• starchini said on Nov 20, 2008....

  I dont know, i have mixed feelings...Completly ignoring my own experiences i would say go for it and just have fun...however thinking of my own experiences id like to add that people with broken hearts often do things they regret later, its usually in an attempt to heal faster or forget your feelings when u realize uve made a mistake.  So, in attempt to fuse my mixed feelings together, i say: Proceed with caution, remember your in a fragile state, and dont give your heart away before youve glued it all back together... 

• fragglesrock said on Nov 20, 2008....

  rc - thanks for the sound advise...time is a wonderful friend. :)

  woman - i understand what you are saying about being careful, i think, and i will try to enjoy while still being careful, in every sense of the word, thanks :)

  star - very wise words about my heart, i can tell you've been there before?  so, yes, i will take it catiously and remember my fragile state and i'll try not to lose the death grip that i have on the pieces of my heart...thanks :)

• Lucytorial said on Nov 20, 2008....

  Fraggles.... you aren't that fragile.. bwa ha hahaha

  Stop right there, yep there... now sit down..... stop fidgeting... for crying out loud look at me not over there, or there... FRAGGLES!

  umm whats wrong with that? why not put your car into 3rd gear, slow down a little but enjoy the ride and see where you end up.

   

• fragglesrock said on Nov 20, 2008....

  lucy's here!!!!!!!! how did you know i was fidgeting?...and your right, i'm not that fragile :)  3rd gear...taking deep breath...i can do 3rd gear....can i still have my aviator goggles and scarf???? thanks lucy.

• Lucytorial said on Nov 20, 2008....

  We don't get many chances, your friend T has every right to try keep you safe from hurt but I still think love deserves every chance there is.
   
  "Don't worry I got you?" WTF if any man says that.... woa

• fragglesrock said on Nov 20, 2008....

  right? woa. right?

  my friend T does have only the best intentions to keep my heart safe, and he knows that i know that, but does T know that i appreciate it even if i do the opposite and take a risk? and if T knows that i know what they knows that he knows....just being silly now.

• Lucytorial said on Nov 20, 2008....

  oooooooh I know....... :-D
   

• starchini said on Nov 20, 2008....

  oh yes, been there, and am still not recovered an entire year later, scarred for life.  But im about as healed as im gonna get.  Ive made peace with it all.  But it always hurts to think about.  Just hold on to the pieces, and take care in putting them back where they go.  : )  You'll be just fine. 

• Anonymous1 said on Nov 25, 2008....

  
  Enjoy life now while you can.......As long as you don't hurt anybody then you might as well use it....or lose it.......
  
  Bwahahahahahahahaha

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