• Me-Myself&I said on Nov 19, 2008....

  hey i am sorry to hear you didn't get the job. it just wasn't meant to be. you'll see, another one is wanting on you that is just meant for you. bless your heart.... please don't put down yourself so, ok. i'm sending my prayers and thoughts your way..................xo take care of yourself. your time is on it's way, wait and see. i'm miss know it all, don't you know! *smile*

• queenparanoia said on Nov 19, 2008....

  memyself&i: thank you memy... it's still sucks though.. :-(

• quietone said on Nov 19, 2008....

  It is sad to say that there are a lot of society that do judge people by how they look.  I, myself do not see you "fat" I see you as a wonderful, wanting to be happy person.  Don't sweat the job, there will be more.  {{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}} I am fat, old and ugly, so just think, if I went on a diet, I'd still be stuck with old and ugly!  LOL  But, I still know I am a good person.  Keep on keepin' on queenie, you are a wonderful person, and one of these days, things will fall right into place where they should.  and yes, in the mean time it does suck.

• fragglesrock said on Nov 19, 2008....

  qp - life can be sooo unfair sometimes.  i'm sure you were dazzling in the interview. please don't lose hope. i realize that there are cultural differences b/t where i live and where you live, but intelligence is intelligence no matter where you live and someone is bound to see it.  keep your chin up. 

• queenparanoia said on Nov 19, 2008....

  quietone: thank you i need that hug... i know there would be more ii'm just sad that they hired the wrong people... i'm so bitter about this but i can't help it... this really sucks...
   
  fraggle: thank fraggle i know it's their lost and  i know i could get a better job... for now i'm still piss about this... life is so fricking unfair...

• CreativeWoman said on Nov 19, 2008....

  ((((queen))))
  
  I think that if the truth be known, it wasn't your looks at all.  They may have thought that you were overqualified for the job and wouldn't stay there long.  So, they went with the girl with less experience because they thought you would move on to bigger and better things.
  
  That isn't necessarily a bad thing.  Aim higher.  :-)
  
  CW
  

• uniquely-ironic said on Nov 19, 2008....

  Queenie I know your weight has weighed heavily on your mind for awhile.  I'm not going to say don't worry about it, because I know that you would feel better and be healthier if you were slimmer.  I will say that you need to balance the concern to slim down with your mental well being.  If it becomes an obsession you are just trading one problem for another. 
   
  I'm disappointed that the people doing interviews didn't see what a gem you are.  Perhaps this wasn't the place for you if they can't see how smart, pretty and nice you are.

• SeanRenaud said on Nov 19, 2008....

  I've never been to the Philipines to make a fair comparison.  I do know that Asians as a whole are a petite people, but yes as an American you'd be about average.

  I hope you went to the new interview though, eventually if you keep trying you will get a job and obviously thats more important than your pride and of course it will help with your self esteem to be employed and that in turn will help you get other jobs. 

  Sorry you didn't get the job, what exactly IS a barista anyway?  I'm not familar with the term.

  Also Starbucks is doing well here.  So well that they closed a few thousand shops and you can still stand on your car top and point to three.  And if you drive to one of those three you can see three more.  I'm fairly certain they have mathmatically calculated how far a person can walk before emptying their cup and have strategically placed refill stations.  I know one place that has two in the same parking lot (a stand alone and a Barnes n Noble) and then a third directly across the street.

• Shawnnessy said on Nov 19, 2008....

  damn it woman! ur freaking hot. u should move to the to the states. there are lots of fat ppl here. and there for, we are more accepted. (better than where ever the hell u r)

• Wingl3ssDr3am said on Nov 19, 2008....

  I think your very pretty,
   
     But as a chubby person myself, because you and i are about the same size and your not fat - I hear you on feeling like someone didnt hire you because of your size. Although i HOPE for your sake and my own that CW is right. That they hired her because she was less experienced. Aiming higher is never a bad thing =)  Gl in your job hunt and feel better soon.

• zykore said on Nov 19, 2008....

  firstly, to all the expected critisism for what i'm about to say: I DONT CARE. an opinion is formed from the state of mind you inhabite at the time of vocalising it, there is no choice in it, its a symptom of your surroundings, upbringing and previous experience of life. there is choice however, in being strong enough to stand by it.
   
  queenparanoia. yes. you are fat. you're not obese, you're not groutesque, you're not abnormal. at this point in your life, you are fat.
   
  being big is to a degree genetics. but if your food input is more then your exerted output, then yes, you're going to put on weight. its a very simple equation.
   
  now, to focus on my point, you have 2 choices:
  1) do nothing
  2) do something
   
  if you're not happy with how you look, dont tell the world about how you get depressed and dont exercise. tell us how much better you are for looking after yourself, eating the right foods and doing more energetic things.
   
  its not a sad way in which the world judges peoples apperences, every single living being looks at what it knows and understands and evaluates it based on what it believes to be true. this fact will never, ever, change.
   
  QP, you're no different to everyone else on the planet, and the sad fact is, its a dog eat dog world. everyone wants to look better, everyone wants something else, everybody believes they deserve it more then the next person.
   
  if you want it QP, go get it.

• diabolicdame said on Nov 19, 2008....

  HEY!! Don't you let those people make you feel bad about yourself! So what if you didn't get this job? Maybe something better is waiting around the corner! I know how it feels to not get what you want.. but I also know that some of the things I have cried about most in my life have turned out to be blessings in disguise. How do you know you didn't get it because you were 'fat'? Maybe you were over-qualified fot it? In any case, keep your morale high, chin up and you'll find something worthy of you. Have patience.. don't get depressed. And about the weight.. you already said its becuase of the hormones.. you've already lost some since you've been on medication.. and you're watching your diet now.. you'll be fine! Cheer up ok!!  ((((hug))))
   
  :-)

• starchini said on Nov 19, 2008....

  hehe, sean i think u might find it funny that, where im at, there isnt a starbucks within 400 miles!!!  Omaha has starbucks and so does Sioux Falls.... I can stand on my car hood and point to maybe one Caribou Coffee...I think those coffee shops are putting all the Starbucks under...

  QP youve got your head on straight and it seems you know what counts and what doesnt.  Your right about everything youve said and youll get through just fine.  I know it doesnt make u feel any better, but u are beautiful, and what other idiots think doesnt matter. 

• starchini said on Nov 19, 2008....

  zykore u say "fat" like its a bad thing.  People are perfectly capable of being extremly healthy and still being fat.  Health is what matters and if u have good blood pressure and low cholesteral and can run a mile without having a stroke and eat right  you are healthy.  It just so happens that people can excersize and eat right and take care of themselves and still be fat.  Queenie didnt say anything about wanting to change herself.  She said something about wanting to change other people attitudes toward fat people.  People these days act like being full figured is a disease and its not.  Its the pin thin supermodels that have a problem.  The bigger problem is the media and the society that the media influences that brainwashes everyone into thinking thin means healthy and thin means beautiful.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and not worth discussing bc its an opinion.  But health on the other hand is not based on weight alone and im sick  and tired of people looking at full figured curvy women and telling them they have a problem and assuming they want to change.  Im not specifically talking about QP, i dont know her health history im just saying in general its not very nice to assume that a woman of shape and curves is unhealthy.  Its equally unhealthy to have below average body fat.  Most of the super skinny women in the world are just as unhealthy as the obese ones.  Granted statistically, obesity is  a bigger in your face danger than being too skinny.  But i think u get the point im making.  Your comment was great and i believe you have good intentions.  And in no way was this rant specifically directed  to u and shouldnt be interpreted as an attack.  Your comment just struck a cord in me and like you i wanted to voice my opinion on the subject.  I think that scales should be thrown out the window and people should weigh the weight they feel healthiest at...thats all...

• mobil said on Nov 19, 2008....

  You're not fat Queenie, maybe a little chubby, you keep trying. Things happen for a reason, who knows, maybe you'll get a job as a bank president.

• SeanRenaud said on Nov 19, 2008....

  LoL.  Why didn't I think of that?  Anna Kournikova has a problem!  It's called Tennis.  Same with the Serena Sisters.  Honeslty if we didn't have fuck tons of female athletes to parade around as healthy icons I'd agree with the rah rahing going on here.  I'd bring up gymnastics but most of them are underaged so it's not a fair comparison to an adult woman.

  Go Zykore go!  Hell you were even tactful about it.

• zykore said on Nov 19, 2008....

  im glad you did voice it star, your just as entitled to your right to speak your mind as i.

   

  as a former fat person (fattest in the school,,,,, no big about it,,, just fat) its not a question about being big and healthy, i'm well aware of what it is to be a larger, healthy person, but the truth is, i dont see it as being acceptable to be fat. to be big is nothing to do with it. being fat is a product of a sociaty that is so scared of speaking out against its own demise, it tolorates all and any self inflictions simply to keep everyone happy. to me, everyone is no happy, everything is not fine

  but i digress.

  again, QP, to reiterate my point, the only person stopping things hapening is you. if you want it, go and take everything.

   

  starchini, again, thank you for the reply. your decorum in commenting did not go unnoticed

   

• starchini said on Nov 19, 2008....

  sean, u know im not talking about athletes, although a few have died of massive heart attacks from steroids and dropped dead from an addiction to excersize, people can take it too far, but yes your right female athletes should be role models, but id like to add it was rumored that miss kornikova had an eating disorder.  After she was dumped by enrique she lost a bunch of weight.  I saw the pictures and she was grotesquely skinny for a while, i think shes fine now, i dont know but even athletes can be unhealthy.  But no, you know good and damn well im talking about super skinny people that are mistaken for being healthy just because they are skinny.  Im talking about super models whos diets consist of cigarettes and grapes.  Im talking about regular women who are just far too thin.  Often times being thin is not a product of excersize and good health, its a product of self deprivation and vanity.  Often times people are blessed with high metabolisms and are naturaly pin thin, but because of that they feel no need to eat right or excersize.  I knew a girl who ate nothing but junk food her entire life, plenty of it and was winded by getting off the couch, she was 5'8 and weighed 94 pounds.  She was thin, but not healthy...My only point, is that weight often times should not be a measure of ones health is all...

  Thanks zykore for taking what i had to say for face value,  my only point was that many things go into health, and weight is a very teeny part of it. 

• SeanRenaud said on Nov 19, 2008....

  But nobody likes runway models.  Those are the ones who are unhealthy skinny and nobody likes them.  And everybody, pretty much everybody just got finished making fun of Britney Spears for being a fat cow because she actually looked like she might have broken the 100 lbs mark.

  Yes there are some people who break the rules but they aren't the norm and we shouldn't talk like they are.  You can tell me about overweight people in great shape and I can tell you about Marines who smoke a pack a day, have no breathing issues or cancer and run five miles every morning before getting together.  We both know that the AVERAGE overweight person is unhealthy.  We know that that overweight people out number underweight people by something like six to one in this country.  We know that if you have to choose between two extremes being underweight is generally preferable as it has less health risks AND it's easier to gain weight than to lose weight.

  I'm blessed with both a metabolism that does what I ask before I ask it and a frame that conceals whatever weight I put on it well.  I need to lose about twenty pound and I keep telling myself the age old lie of as soon as X happens I'll start going to the gym.  Least this will be my first year making it a New Years Resolution.  (Have I mentioned that 2008 was about as horrible a year as I've had and I can't fucking wait for 2009?) 

  Anyway I find it extraordinarily frustrating to listen to people argue about skinny people with health problems because it seems like we have one problem that is bigger (no pun intended) and should be the focus.  I basically hear people saying.  .  .

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pMD0RyQQhAk
  
  

  And yes I'm aware that your argument is a little deeper than that, but honestly not much.  I mean I could point out that smoking supresses appetite and has been used to aid weight loss.  Shouldn't we just be pushing a HEALTHY image period and by American standards a healthy body is skinny.  People are always telling me I'm skinny but I'm not, I'm overweight and well overweight at that, about thirty pounds depending on the chart.

  I love those commercials.  Most anti-smoking ads make me want to go hand out cigarettes at the local preschool as protest.
  

• queenparanoia said on Nov 19, 2008....

  creativewoman: i know i may seems overqualified but i want the job... maybe i'm little bitter about this but that's what i feel... don't worry i'll aim higher...

  uniquely: i know i have an emotional problem with weight... and unitl now i'm still dealing with it. it's not easy but i' doing aomething baout it... this just sucks that's all... but thank you...

  seanraud: barista is the one who makes the coffee and serve it. i'm not going to that interview i feel sick right now. i know there would be other better jobs. i hope i get the right one... and in my country people here are petite so i'm fat...

  shawnnessy: thank you dear... ;-) i know i'm sexy...lol... sexy is a state of mind... ;-)

  wing: well maybe the next few days i'll find a better job... thank you...

  zykore: ok first of all i appreciate your comments... i know you sound blunt and i like that. i like honesty. but since you never read me before let me pint out some few things... i dont really have a problem with me being fat...w ell sometimes it gets me but i'm okay with it. i'm more mad with the world judging me by the way i look that what i think... that's the reality i accepted now and that really sucks... and i know it's my fault being fat.... a few years ago i realize i was an emotional eater. i eat when i'm angry , sad or depressed. i deal with that everyday becuase i wanna be healthy. and yes i did something about my being fat... i went to the doctor i few months ago and i learned i have polycystic ovaries. she said it causes me to gain weight fast. in four years i gained fifty pounds. that's why i'm watching i eat right now and i have meds to deal with my polycystic ovaries. i know i'm no special here but i rant and whine about this becuase i wanna get it out of my system before i explode. i have no place to turn to except soulcast. i can't share this to my family... all my friends are left back in my hometown... so there. i hope you unerstand my situation... although i'm not saying you are wrong. so thank you for your comment i appreciate it... ;-)

  diabolic: yeah i should be happy because i alreadyy lost some... ;-) and maybe there's a blessing in disguise after all of this...

  starchini: thank you... ;-) how's the little bump???

  mobil: i dont wanna be a bank president. i wanna be a pastry chef... ;-)

  by the way. i dont like runway models... they don't have any boobs... too skinny is not okay with me!!!

  again, i'm ranting because i just want this to get out of my system... so thank you all for your comments... ;-)

• Wingl3ssDr3am said on Nov 19, 2008....

  Hope that means your feeling better queen ^^
    Gl!!!

• queenparanoia said on Nov 19, 2008....

  wing: well a little bit. i have this fever so physically i feel kinda weak... but dont worry about me i'll be okay...

• wombat said on Nov 19, 2008....

  I'm sorry for both your being sick and also not getting the job.  Get well first, then worry about the job thing later.  I'm sure the right thing will come along.  I had given up, but then boom---saw my old job was hiring and they took me back at a higher pay even.  Good things will come.  (and you are lovely as ever and not that f word!)

• Lioness said on Nov 19, 2008....

  The say that oftentimes, the "wrong" persons are being hired. I don't know if this is true, but by the way you put it queen, it seems that the girl did not deserve being hired (must be true!). Anyway, we all have our shares of being turned down. . I am sure a much better job awaits you.
  
  Goodluck on your next interview.
  
  

• TinSoldier said on Nov 19, 2008....

  Queen, I'm really sorry that you didn't get the job. I would have hired you!
  
  
  I hope you're feeling better, and I hope you find a better and more appreciative employer.
  
  
  
  

• yani said on Nov 19, 2008....

  Queen, im sorry that you didn't get the job but im sure something better is out there waiting for you. Im sure the interviewer has her own set of criteria in hiring people, aside from the necessary, she might feel that if she hires you, you'll steal the limelight from her heheheh....... cheer up bunso, as you said, being sexy is a state of mind :)
  I hope you feel better now  {{{{{hugs}}}}
  
  

• queenparanoia said on Nov 19, 2008....

  lioness: thank you ate lioness... ;-)

  tinsoldier: i hope so too... thankyou... ;-)

  yani: hay... hirap talaga maghanap ng work... i feel better now thank you... ;-)

• hotaka said on Nov 19, 2008....

  Hey, queenP. Before you explode, or maybe after, I'd like to give you a friendly hug. I was once going to write a post about the staff at Starbuck's because I really liked most of them. Sure most of the girls are slim but not all. My reason for wanting to write the post was that everyone at the two or three StarB's I visit smiles and is friendly, even when they are running full tilt during everyone else's lunch break. Since it's the face you are dealing with I think a bright personality and cheerful smile are the most important. It always makes an impression on me. I think you would have been great for the job. I have seen your smile in photos and it certainly looks charming. I am sure your best side would have made you the favourite of many customers.
  
  Yes, it's their loss. Keep fighting. Getting a job is like dating. You have to find the one that suits both you and the employer. Along the way are plenty of inspection dates that go nowhere.
  

• one_wired_kitty said on Nov 19, 2008....

  So sorry, sweetie! I'm sure you'll find a job!!

• one_wired_kitty said on Nov 19, 2008....

  BTW ... You're really cute :D

• satanx said on Nov 19, 2008....

  Hmmmmmmmm

  trust in me

• crudebusinessman said on Nov 19, 2008....

  sounds like the interview went well!? I dont get what the hell is wrong with that employer
   
  I employ a couple of people if you said that to me I wouldve had the job for you right away! lol
   
  but some times it might not be you. sometimes employers just get lazy they keep interviewing people when they already have someone because they havent taken the advertisement down.
   
  i'll keep tabs on you might have a job for you if I ever go back to the phils ;) anyway ingatz hahaha

• danetteb said on Nov 20, 2008....

  Awe... its the sad and stupid truth.  People judge each other every day - based on completely irrelevant things.  Makes me angry, but then again, it makes me think, and reminds me that I too am sometimes guilty of judging people based on appearances and assumptions which are most like inaccurate.
  
  Good luck in your job search!! I really hope that you find something where you will fit in, and where people will appreciate you for the person you are :-)
  

• queenparanoia said on Nov 20, 2008....

  hotaka: yeah it's their lost i feel okay now hotaka... thank you... the money was used fr little box anyway... that sucks...

  one_wired_kitty: i'm sure i can find one. thanks kitty... ;-)

  satanx: huh?

  crudebusinessman: pinoy ka??? hehehe sige i'll wait for you!!! ;-)

  dannetteb: thank you dannetteb... i hope i can find the righ job... ;-)

• FutureGoddess said on Nov 20, 2008....

  Queen - did you think about it this way?  Many employers nowadays are concerned that employees are going to leave if a better position comes up.   Regardless of how much you may protest that this isn't the case, you were obviously overqualified - educationally, socially, character - and they may have been frightened that if you took the job and they spent the money training you, you would quickly leave if another, better job offer came about. It happened to me recently and I already was working for the restaurant  but he knew I wasn't going to stay so he cut his losses early and let me go. 

  If you really want to be a pastry chef, or work in culinary arts, then find a job in a bakery, or a restaurant where you can "train" for your chosen career at the same time you are in school. 

• queenparanoia said on Nov 20, 2008....

  futuregoddess: yeah i'm planning to have a job in a bakery i just want that job in starbucks... maybe youre right.. i was overqualified... but nvertheless i would still work hard for that job... don't worry though i'm looking for jobs in bakeries...

• pickersplock said on Nov 21, 2008....

  I hate Starbucks.
  It takes five minutes to ask for a coffee.......I hate Starbucks.
  I hate that stupid menu board with the grande, tall, blah, blah, blah.
   
  Coffee...medium....cream and sugar....that's all I want....stupid Starbucks.....over priced too! 
   
  And now I have another reason to hate them!

• queenparanoia said on Nov 22, 2008....

  pickers: heheheheh awwww but please don't hate coffee pickers... ;-)

• pickersplock said on Nov 22, 2008....

  I don't hate coffee...I LOVE coffee.  I just hate Starbucks!
  You're better off without them!

• queenparanoia said on Nov 22, 2008....

  hahahahah yup!!! i was overqualified pickers!!!

• sadhappy said on Nov 29, 2008....

  Hi queenie I'm new on SC and I've read a few of ur posts....read this one and saw ur pics u r fucking bee-you-ti-full!!!!! Fuck starbucks they don't deserve u to hell with them! Keep ur head up honey....hugs for you and a few cheeky kisses;-)

• queenparanoia said on Nov 29, 2008....

  sadhappy: lol thank you... dont worry. i'm so over with starbucks... ;-)

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