I had a cousin/friend who is certified Playboy. He changed girlfriend once a week after he score on that girl. He is attractive gentlemen that you can't even resist his charm. But sometimes you can say he's evil due to his playing with lots of girls. But as a cousin, I knew why he doing this. He still hurt. and this is the story:
My cousin had once a steady girlfriend about for 6 years. They're so sweet and love eac other. They always date everyday (I sometimes their chaperon =() . To some observers they are perfect couple. Both are smart, attractive and both same liking. I would say they had a perfect relationship.
It was a 7th anniversary that my cousin shared me a secret surprise gor the girl. It was a diamond ring or let say "engagement ring". I was totally supportive to him to go for it. So he prepare everything from dinner and surprising his girl. It was perfect and romantic.
So the dinner was great that he made her girl smile. And when the time was right, he kneeled down and show the "ring". If your thinking that the girl was smiling, think again. The girl cried..(not happy). So my cousin apologized to her as if he done a wrong move. The girl stared at my cousin with eyes of regret and told him this very words "####, I already engaged". It was an explosive answer. My cousin 's girlfriend was a bride of an arranged married and she didn't defend her love for him. My cousin was devastated and angry to the girl. ...he walked out and never again look at her....
After that day, the girl married with the arranged groom. While my cousin drunk and drunk..and never went out the room. After few days, he went out the room and he changed. He became a womanizer and not like old cousin of mine.
Sometime when we are both alone, he say that she still love her...but he still wounded and he think..it will never healed...
monozuki posted on Jun 05, 2006
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Iocus said on Jun 05, 2006....
Dear Monozuki, let's just hope he will find a good girl. And let's jsut hope does smutt romance novels stories do exist. Well, at least the heroins one. Perhaps, should you make him write a blog( haha)? There a many people like him( hey, he got friends), like her( grimace), or planning on acting like he is now (* remembering a certain soulcaster named dearalvin in mind* more grimace) Anyway, too bad he didn't realized she was engaged. He shouldn't just get mad at that. Maybe there are some problems about her engaged that make her unable to refuse...< or she loved him more than she loves your cousin> (Bad Iocus Bad *knocks on head*) Look, I'm a girl too, and although I'm not much of a love-believer, I do believe that once you had committed yourself to someone, NEVER betray. If she was engaged from the starrt, she shouldn't go and look for other boyfriends. And if she already had a boyfriend, she shouldn't go and get engaged. Send this to your cousin for me: Chill up man! At least she didn't take the ring. As for the humiliation you got, many would think your a nice guy, and she's the player. And this case ain't enough to be a player. -
Iocus said on Jun 05, 2006....
Forgot to paste this... P/s: Man, he needs a dose of virtual reality! -
lidstrom06 said on Jun 05, 2006....
That is heartbreaking. I am sure your cousin loved her very much (and still does, in some way). If she wasn't willing to pick between your cousin and the other guy, it was best that they didn't marry - if she wouldn't stand up for their relationship then, she might not have in 10 years if she was tempted to cheat. She put your cousin in a no-win situation. Your cousin (understandably) would rather enjoy women on a carefree level rather than invest emotionally in them. But he won't get any fulfillment from that, either. In some way, your cousin must heal and allow himself to be open to love again. And this is why: if he continues to womanize, it risks hurting many women as badly as that girl hurt him. Just because he got hurt, doesn't mean he can stop caring if HE hurts others or not. He has you to talk to and confide in. He needs someone to walk with him through all this hurt and to face it head-on, because he's not being himself right now and he will hurt women if he keeps on with his playboy lifestyle. Maybe that means talking to a counselor. Maybe that means praying to God. Those would be two of the best things to do, and although a blog helps gets feelings across, sometimes responses give you so many points of view that it's too confusing and there's no clear answer. Blogging is fun and rewarding in many ways, but it is important to avoid making it the top authority in one's life, and it's also all too easy to complain and be negative in blogging - all the time. Your cousin will benefit by reaching to something more stable than being a playboy. -
monozuki said on Jun 07, 2006....
Thanks to you lidstrom06 and Iocus (I told him and he just give a smile that's all) for the comment. Yes, I still beside him to listen what he felts and sometimes scolded him everytime when he does his THING. He knew that I hate his playboy style cause I knew how girl feel cause I'm a girl also (a female cousin as he state it). But as usual he just give me a cool smile and a serious look. I hope and prayed that he'll changed for the best because I knew that he is also hurt deep inside as he play with girls in bed. I wish a girl will appeared and return the true cousin of mine and be happy ever after. -
Iocus said on Jun 09, 2006....
monozuki, I hope, well, not only for me, but for all girls under the sun, advice him to think about, say, 2.718 times before thinking of playing a girl's heart. What would he feel if you are fooled like that? -
monozuki said on Jun 10, 2006....
Well honestly I dont need to ask him he showed already. He always ask me who is that boy I with and is he dating me blah blah. When he always around me, he treat me like a kid even though I a lady.. If that happened to me, I'm sure he gonna comfort like he do when I sad and lonely during some family issues. And he willing to kill/humiliating anyone who make me sad. Kinda scary...
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