So which is it? My new job that I'm getting or your going to school? You choose.....

What kind of a question is that. How can you make someone choose of trying to make themselves better and try to soon in time, help out even better within the household. For some reason, I think he just wanted to have an argument although when I had started going back to school earlier this year, it had all of a sudden became a problem. When he got this new job and thought that if my school schedule would all of a sudden conflict with his work schedule, that I should give up going to school all together... I told him point blank, NO! And I doubt that the new manager wouldn't be able to accomandate in some way, in which of course the manager did.

I feel as though that I had put myself behind and on the back burner for everyone in the family. I quit my job after giving birth to our second child to at least save cost of daycare for two kids. I knew deep down that I really wasn't feeling to be a stay at home mom. I knew deep down that I wasn't one to be sole dependent on one person when I knew I could help in some way. Of course, I was helping to make sure things got taken care of like bills, household, children and him. After having our third child, I really wanted to go back to school to get a degree and find something for later on that would benefit everyone. I talked to him about it, what I would be able to get to fund the schooling, what out of pocket money may be used and so forth, so on. He was in agreement. I even planned things around his current job so that it could work for both of us, for me to go at night so that he could be with the kids and vice versa.

Well now, I have been told that I am really selfish that I don't think about anyone else. I don't get him at all. My head hurts in trying to figure him out and so I just stopped even trying to do so. When I came up with a solution for me to not be so engrossed with homework while I'm home, it was for me to stay a couple of hours after my class to do what I could for my classes. He didn't like that. Now I'm spending too much time at school. Well, what else can I do? I can't do to much while I'm hear at home with the youngest because he is wanting attention. If I come home with my classwork to do, then I can concentrate either because he wants to talk continuously about whatever things that happened between us or an argument that we had, that I thought was done and finished with. I can't do it if all the kids are at home and he is at work or if he is not at work because the kids want to be crowded around me and not him.

Pretty much, I'm still trying to do what I need to do for school whether with his support or not. I think since he isn't getting as much attention as he did when it was just me and him and that I have found something to do to better myself and occupy my time a bit other than him, he doesn't like it........