Every now and then I find myself being "dragged" into a situation where I prefer not to be and sometimes it will take an incredible amount of energy and effort to extract yourself from it. Becoming a "victim" of someone elses' plans and schemes is not all what it is cracked up to be.

 

There is always that person who pretends that he or she is your friend and before you know it you are knee deep in horse "doodoo", yet feeling very special because you have become a full fledged member and have gained entry into their "inner sanctum". (Well aren't you the special one). Feeling so close to a person you have long admired is at this level an historical event, and you want to shout it from the rooftops like you have just one the lottery or something similar.

 

How and why does a person feel so victimized when at the end of the day you have played your tiny role in their "kingdom or Queendom" to their idea of perfection. As time has passed and you eventually find that this person you so looked to previously, is slowly drifting away from you you begin to question your own "motives" in becoming entangled is this individuals' life. More importantly, you soon discover that you have been "played" for a sap(sucker) and all this time you were made to feel as if you were a true bonafide confidante of this person.

 

With the realization comes the pain and emotional scarring that is surely to come along soon after you have been "booted" out of "heaven". Now you are feeling as if you have been used and ultimately betrayed by the very people you gave your trust to and all you have to show for it is a loss of trust which shortly turns into anger and the seeking of revenge against this "person". Well here is a little advice and please heed it carefully okay. When a person seekd retribution for being "played" like this you must remember not to lower yourself to their "level" because this in the long run will only cause you more rage and emotional pain. This is just what they would like to see happen to you and of course they know as well as you do that revenge is just another word for having not learned your lesson well.

 

Your motives, your intentions: Be care cautious on how you use them and learn to be more selective in your choice of who to place your trust and faith in. Good luck to all of you and be kind to yourselves.

 

 

 

                                                Timm17