Reason for being. What's yours? You've been here long enough, you can take a guess, and play along as if there is an actual reason for your being here, or let's say, a chief task for you to do while you're here. This is actually not funny and not superficial.
Granted, it's a stretch to make the assumption that there's an actual reason or two why you're here, and a lot of people will have a problem with that concept, but just play along. Don't question the concept. Accept it as a given, for this purpose, and see where it leads.
The first thing that comes to mind for me concerns my wife Shelley. I may be here for her. To give her a home and security. To influence her. Just look at the obvious. I met her in 1969 and we're still together. So by longevity alone, that could be the main reason I'm here.
We could get into a whole discussion about what kind of influence I am on her, besides just the fact that I pay the bills and provide a secure life for her and our kids. She is like a child in some ways, a dreamer, doesn't take care of the basics. On her own she'd be a bag lady. Her sister's life is in shambles, with the boyfriend drug addict in jail for shoplifting and her unable to support herself without one crisis after another.
On a more everyday level, I hit her with my sense of humor all the time, and knock her out of her negative moods, her martyr moods. My sense of humor is really childish, just a lot of name-calling and making fun of her. How many times have I made fun of her butt? I think I have passed the million mark. It cracks her up every time. I know my audience. And she knows she can't get away with her martyr crap, how hard she works, how much she does, blah blah blah. I go Yeah, the human tuchus was not designed to be the size of Idaho.
lfbno7 posted on Oct 11, 2008
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the_infernal_optimist said on Oct 11, 2008....
To offer comfort and peace, to be a calming influence...to offer moments of soul-deep rest in this crazy world.
I like this post. :)
~Infernal
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Mamie said on Oct 11, 2008....
I'm just here to help and be helped. *sigh, it is a full time job! -
gingersoul said on Oct 11, 2008....
Lenny.....without probably wanting to do it...you wrote a beautiful and touching dedication to your wife....
I had to stop if not for the French title...you got me with that one...:-)
I think we have different raison d'etre depending of our age and life situations.
Before my daughter was born i would have told you many other reason d'etre ...none of them would have included her...
Since she is born she is my main raison d'etre.
I know, maybe i might not be indispensable to her as caretaker, bread winner. She would easily live with her father if i would miss and financially she would be more stable and secure. I can't offer her much.
But i know she needs me for many other reasons that money.
Beside her, my raison d'etre is finding my place in this world.
With the right people to help and be helped by, with the right love, in the right place for me.
Its a constant changing and ever ending quest.
Until my roots are planted .... this is my raison d'etre...
Beautiful post, Lenny.
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lfbno7 said on Oct 11, 2008....
I'm glad you liked it. I have been reading a book that discusses this subject among others. -
gingersoul said on Oct 11, 2008....
Which is the title of the book? -
moonriver said on Oct 11, 2008....
lenny -- i'm not sure i can say what's mine with certainty and completeness. but one thing seems clear and consistent over the years: it has to do with finding out an important slice of truth with the help of an important soulmate, and to share it with as many people in this lifetime. i'm probably a mature or old soul, either king or warrior... i have no way to be sure.
i see you've been reading messages from michael. it's been one of my favorite bibles for the past 24 years (minus the dogmatism and some over-simplistic thoughts that i refuse to internalize). i had devised a psych-test type questionaire years ago to help friends determine their type of soul, but i abandoned the effort.
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Jenna said on Oct 11, 2008....
lb.....nice post......You are a good soul......your reason for being here probably runs deeper than you know....... I know why I am here....and I sometimes fight it. I am here to teach and touch young hearts. I truly believe that and feel it in my soul. This is my lot in life....and I am blessed. I love it.....But I fight it because....I wanted my reason for being here was to be a great mom. I dreamed of being the perfect mom.... but it did not happen. I have faults and the kids have seen my faults. But I did try.....perhaps they will remember how I did try. -
Lucytorial said on Oct 11, 2008....
Gorgeous you have written a lovely post. What baught this deep thinking on?
Sometimes I sit and wonder at the reasons, they usually come to me in those moments where time stops. Its an understanding of myself in the universe and beyond that I cannot explain it further. I do know one thing, my husband and I are meant to be together, he was meant to live, I was meant to be by his side, we are meant to experience this thing called life together.
Together we have our own mantra ~ Show the extrordinary in the every day. I think we're getting there slowly. Even if it is just ourselves being ordinary sometimes.
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RollingC said on Oct 11, 2008....
I guess my initial reason for being here is curiosity...then I found that the actual people behind the anonymous names and titles have life problems, joys, ups and downs just like I do....imagine that !
Then this place (and the people in it) starts getting under your (mine) skin and it becomes personal. You pop in to take a quick look to see what's happening and what if any nutty idea someone has come up with.
Sure in RL I could occupy my time doing things and stay away from Soulcast and reading the blogs of everyone here...but I'd miss it the same way I'd miss a friend that moved to another town.
I suppose that there are deeper psychological reasons that keep me here but heck, if I want to go deep sea fishing I'll charter a boat and go (if that makes any sense...I just woke up, having strong breakfast and getting ready for work later on).
Rc
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Lucytorial said on Oct 11, 2008....
MORNING!!!!!!!!!!!! hey its morning here too, 09.45 to be exact. Ohhh how lovely to have someone else close to my time frames!RC :-} have a glorious day. -
KathQuiet said on Oct 11, 2008....
I am fairly certain my reason for being here is to listen to others and observe as much as possible. It's always been, since I was very young, that people - friends, family, strangers, anyone - would open up to me and talk, talk, talk about their lives. Usually, the talkers aren't seeking advice or comiseration. They just want to be heard and I have always had the gift of hearing deeply. When I am not the sounding board, I am usually alone, but reading or other occupations have never settled well in situations outside of home: the best has always been to watch. My head is full of ideas and pictures I'm hoping some day I'll have the skill to share. -
RollingC said on Oct 11, 2008....
Thank you Lucy....hope you have a good day also kiddo.... ♥Rc -
Lucytorial said on Oct 11, 2008....
Roling - I've been pottering today, it being sunday I am allowed to potter. Also I am watching the Bathurst car race on telle.ssshhh don't tell anyone I am a rev head. -
RollingC said on Oct 11, 2008....
A rev head ? Does that come in red also ?My cousin married a rev head....he's into watching racing cars and such.... -
Lucytorial said on Oct 11, 2008....
I only watch this race because Bathurst is my old stomping ground as a teen. Also my first car was a 1973 EJ holden - classic, re built that car from the bottom up and enjoyed every second of it. This is a motor race that stops the nation....I think that it only comes in red heads... I think. -
lfbno7 said on Oct 11, 2008....
Ginger, Moon immediately answered your question about the book I just finished reading a few minutes ago.
Moon, I've been writing up and back with Shepherd Hoodwin, author of Journey of Your Soul, another Michael channel. Recently I told him that I don't accept the statement that we must all experience every kind of death, by starvation, by suicide, by violence, and so on. I said I'll let someone else go through all that, and tell me all about it. I also said I prefer not to shove a little model of the Statue of Liberty up my nose, or staple-gun my lips together, and again I'll be happy to read someone else's enlightening experiences when they have done those things. His reply was that essence seeks to experience all things, and I've probably been through all that already so I can experience things with joy.
Jenna, I had a similar experience with my kids. When they were little I was sure I was the perfect parent, giving love and attention and humor, never violence or screaming. But when they grew up I thought I wasn't as strict with them as they needed me to be, and they grew up with character deficiencies.
Lucy, leave your stupid husband and come to me.
Rolling, your comment about everyone else having all kinds of problems reminds me of a line in a Dar Williams song called What Do You Hear In These Sounds, about her visiting a shrink. She says she feels like someone in East Berlin who thinks everyone over the wall in West Berlin must be so together, and then the wall comes down and she finds them to be stumbling and bumbling around just like her.
Kath, what you said about people talking to you and confiding in you reminds me of my father. You could drop him in the middle of anywhere, and pretty soon a stranger would be sitting next to him in a deep conversation, and the stranger would most likely be a completely different age and race. Like the time my dad, an elderly Jewish man at the time (now deceased) was sitting in a park in Brooklyn, and next thing I know, this young Rastafarian guy with dreadlocks is sitting on a bench in deep conversation with him. -
MissMimi said on Oct 12, 2008....
I think I am here to offer understanding and compassion. I've always been able to sense other people's feelings and empathize and sympathize. I'm a nurturer and a caretaker. -
Lucytorial said on Oct 12, 2008....
Well what are you going to do about YOUR wife though??? I'm not good at sharing?Tee he hee the best man won the race, Craig Lowndes... he's a pocket rocket in a car I swear. Its the hardest race of the season and this guy has nailed it three years in a row... woohoooo -
RollingC said on Oct 12, 2008....
Lucy....You're not good at sharing? And I wanted to ask you for a threesome pajama party....hehehe.....winkwinkwink...Rc -
Lucytorial said on Oct 12, 2008....
Who with?? **grin** -
lfbno7 said on Oct 12, 2008....
Miss Mimi, could you please lend me $300. I'll gladly pay you back next Tuesday.
Lucy, you are my girl. I won't share you with anyone. I want to tie you up and beat you and, and, and, hold on it'll just be a second ....... ahhhhhhhhhh. oh that was good.
What the hell was I saying? I forgot, doesn't matter. -
Lucytorial said on Oct 12, 2008....
Right so should I leave now? I'm trying to seduce Rolling? **grin**Ifbno you are my first love here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! when you tie me up and beat me can I ask that you also scream out loud one thing? -
RollingC said on Oct 12, 2008....
Why......Me, Myself and I of course..... *smile*Rc -
moonriver said on Oct 12, 2008....
lenny -- i didn't know michael had another channel. i'll look for a copy of the hoodwin book. yup, that's one area that's too difficult to accept -- a dogmatic jump from the understandable necessity of "learning all of life's lessons" to the curious need to "experience all forms of deaths." i hate some kinds of death -- like by having a miniature statue of liberty rammed down my trachea. if i were a soul planning his next stint on earth, i'd beg my entity-mates to please let me skip that part... lol.
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lfbno7 said on Oct 12, 2008....
Yes Lucy you can ask whatever the hell you want but it doesn't mean I'll do it. Anyway as long as one of us is whacking the other (your choice) I think I'll be fine. I was born in mid November, and you know those Scorpios, or do you?
Rolling C, keep in mind that Lucy is my girl. But then again, nobody else seems to let that bother them, so why should you?
Moonie, Shepherd Hoodwin is a good author and a nice guy. It's easy enough to get an email conversation going with him. He changed the name "slave" to "server" and he changed some of the names of other descriptions like "retardation" and "stagnation" to more positive words. If you send him forty bucks he'll tell you if his Michael contacts report you as being a king or warrior or something else, and your overleaves and the rest. You probably are a mature or old soul considering that he says that almost everyone who takes an interest in this stuff is a mature or old soul, the younger souls being less excited about it. I have been waiting several weeks for him to email me my own Michael chart. Hopefully I'll get one soon and it will make sense to me. I have my ideas about what I think I am. -
Lucytorial said on Oct 12, 2008....
Ifbno ~ I am very aware of Scorpios.. my husband is one. -
RollingC said on Oct 12, 2008....
lfbno7.......Thank you for being so understanding.... :^)
Oh and by the way what game are you talking about with Moon? or maybe it's not a game at all in which case .... sorry to intrude. I don't have much time for games and initially role playing games mildly interested me but first player shoot-em-up games do.
Rc -
Lucytorial said on Oct 12, 2008....
Ohhh now this is a rather interesting situation.... Ifbno, Rolling and Lucy! all we need to do is maybe invite Missmims... -
RollingC said on Oct 12, 2008....
Lucy.... heh....used to have a t-shirt that I got in New Orleans long ago that said :
" cut me, shuck me, eat me raw "
Those french restaurants are uuuuhhh LA LA over there....:^)
Rc
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Lucytorial said on Oct 12, 2008....
Okay, I'm going to see if I can't find any caviar for this situation.... -
RollingC said on Oct 12, 2008....
sorry....typo mistake....supposed to read ...." suck me, shuck me, eat me raw ".....Rc -
Lucytorial said on Oct 12, 2008....
Glad you took the cut me part back.. geesh! that would a kinda HURT! -
lfbno7 said on Oct 13, 2008....
Don't like cutting either. Not that into s and m. A spanking is fine though. Don't you think that Lucy going OWWWW would be sexy? The thing I was talking to Moon about was about what kind of soul you have, reincarnation and all that. -
RollingC said on Oct 13, 2008....
You mean that Lucy puts soul into the OOWWW ! that she exclaims ?I totally agree...that would definitely be very sexy !Who cares about reincarnation....:^)Rc -
lfbno7 said on Oct 13, 2008....
Margaret, if you come by and get po'd at me kibbitzing with Lucy, you can join in too. You know I love you to bits. I'd never talk to another girl. C'mere Lucy, sing me a chorus of Let's Get It On by Marvin Gaye.
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