• tsacluos said on Oct 08, 2008....

  I am no doctor but the morning after pill might have effect on fetal development. Tell your doc and do all the necessary tests. If something is found not right your doctor will recommend the necessary. Think about what your unhappiness is doing to you and how it will affect your relationship. Can either one of you be a good single parent if push turns to shove. All said, my wife and I did not want kids but we are now proud parents of a 21 year old son and a 19 year old daughter. Then again we were both happy to accept the gifts when they were conceived and this might be different with you. Hope this little bit helps you.

• SilentChaos said on Oct 08, 2008....

  Told the Dr. He said it's 100% okay-- won't affect anything.

• tsacluos said on Oct 08, 2008....

  Lady doctor? Men as OBs can be pigs. If a second ( lady doc) says the same, then you only have your own feelings to deal with.....docs will tell you that it is normal to feel blue and paranoid with the oncoming changes to your whole life... I 'll say bullshit to that. Nobody, not even your husband will know what you are going thru. Good thing your hubby is there and happy with you being pregnant. It will be doubly bad if both of you are paranoid. If you cannot take destiny in your own two hands ( and ultimately may take chance of being a single person again)...now is the time to negotiate with your hubby. Tell him what you expect of him during this pregnancy and also post-natally. By the way, these comments are only my two cents. They are frank thoughts of somebody, somewhere who don't know you are, hence it is biased or somewhat skewed. The right thing is that you wondered out loud into this space and there is response.

• SilentChaos said on Oct 08, 2008....

  About the pill, my Dr. Says it's okay. My doctor does not know about my contrary feelings. The only people, to my knowledge, who know how I'm feeling about this are the people who have read this blog and me.  I've told Brandon that I expect equal caring for this child, but other than that-- he was really worried about both me and our child when, for the first 3 months, I was a mess. So for both of our sakes, I covered it up and played happy for him too.

• allswell said on Oct 08, 2008....

  I remember when i found out i was pregnant with my first child, i did not want it...i  just cried, thought of every option there was, but in the end i decided to keep him. ....and you know what... the first time i looked at him and held him in my arms, i loved him more than i ever thought i would, and never have never regreted having him...i can't imagine my life without him. You may not think you'll feel that way right now, but your love  and want for your baby will kick in the second you lay eyes on her....just hang in there  it will all be ok :)

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• lionesss said on Oct 08, 2008....

  Awwww, bless you my dear, my heart really goes out to you,having to act out that your happy must be hell for you,and as time goes on you start to wonder the ''what if''', but actually thousands of other women,girls are thinking and going through what you are but wont say anything and not look forward to baby entering the world,now im concerned for you, as your going through this yourself, and really you need to talk to your husband and tell him exactly what is going through your mind,remember that you have thousands of hormones are running around your body so your going to be very emotional, and he cant suporrt you if he doesnt truley know how you feel, its ok for him as he hasnt to carry the baby and endure your mixed up emotions and i really do think he needs to be by yourside, talking about everything,if you dont then i know you will regret it and by not talking he cant supoort you, like you say he will share his responsility when baby is born but where his his responsability for your pre,natal dont please dnt keep things bottled up say something now, for your own sanity, you do know why you wrote this, your a worried lady carrying all your future and seeing yourself in a position that you are unhappy about and dnt have any answers to your million questions,,as time is moving on baby is growing and before you know it she will be here, and your not in the ryt frame of mind ,,,,so plz try help you no1 else,.. if ever you want to pm then feel free to do so,,massive hugs,,,:)xx
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   

• tsacluos said on Oct 08, 2008....

  Yup, demand from your husband what you emotionally need and tell him your hormones can make you cranky and he has to put up with it (hopefully till child's 23yrs old). Stay on this space if you need to shout somethings out and there will be us who hear you out. BTW I had morning sickness when wife was pregnant with my son. Her doc says not too uncommon. Take care :-)

• tsacluos said on Oct 10, 2008....

  Hi SC, How are you?

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