what'd i ever do to you mobil? and why are you sticking your nose into something that is not at all your business?
look, i stayed out of this, because until now, my name wasn't used, but now you've forced me to say something about it. you don't know any other females who i've tried this 'shit' with, because there hasn't been any. you've been listening to rumors and basing these accusations on them. but did you come and ask me about it? of course not, you'd just rather believe the rumors about me, like so many others.
this girl comes on my blog a few weeks ago, and starts openly flirting with me.
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blondee0718 said on Sep 22, 2008.... delete You have blocked this userunblock this user
I dunno...buy me a few drinks first and we'll see how it goes....
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blondee0718 said 13 days ago.... delete You have blocked this userunblock this user
Trav - I thought you'd be the one looking for my box....LOL
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that's when i noticed her. she seemed nice, smart, funny, someone i'd like to get to know. so i pm'd her as i have with so many others. we exchanged email addys. then pictures. then two weeks ago, she wrote a post about how she was sad and lonely and how she felt that nobody was interested in her. so the next day i wrote her an email and said that if she lived in my town, i'd ask her out. now true, i didn't phrase it like that, as i told her in the email, i was angry about something else and probably was going to stick my foot in my mouth. when she answered and said it made her uncomfortable, i wrote her back and said she mistook what i'd meant, and tried to clarify that all i said was that if she lived in my town, i'd ask her out. horrible thing for a single man to do to a single woman, right? i also deleted all the pictures she sent me and emailed her that i had. she came back at me with a baseball bat, much like she did on uniquely-ironic's post yesterday. so i emailed her again saying i didn't mean to make her uncomfortable, i was sorry, and it wouldn't happen again. that's where it ended for me.
the next thing i know, one of my friends tells me she wrote a post about this whole incident. so i went and read it. it said some pretty horrible things about me, made allot of assumptions that just are not true, and were totally out of context of anything that happened between her and i. when i read that, i knew i didn't want anything to do with this girl, so i blocked her to unsub from her blog, and to keep her from flaming me on mine. since i sent her an apology last wednesday, i've had no further contact with her.
just so everyone can see, here is the entire email thread between this person and myself:
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Hey Trav,
Some pics for you.
Some pics for you.
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ok, i can't quite close my mouth yet! OH MY GOD! you are absolutely GORGEOUS! i can see now why walmart guy let the ice cream melt!
sorry if i'm gushing too much, i hope i didn't scare you away by it, but i just couldn't help myself.
if i can be allowed one more small gush, i'd like to tell you what i told one of my friends today when i was mentioning you. i told him that i thought you were accomplished, smart, wise, and had a wonderful sense of humor. i told him that you must be cute, because of walmart guy. i can tell you this, N is a fool!
ok, i'll stop gushing now, i promise.
here are a few pics of me. i'm not a young, handsome, well built football player, but somehow, i think you'll forgive me that little flaw :-)
the girl in the pic is my daughter vicki
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Thanks Trav...your compliments made me feel great just when I needed a bit of cheering up.
Nice pics, btw. Thanks for sending them!
Nice pics, btw. Thanks for sending them!
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you're welcome for the pics. are you feeling down? you might have seen that i'm good at listening. so you can talk to me about it if you want. that's what friends do for each other, right?
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Hey. I am feeling down. I posted about it....figured I might as well share with everybody....LOL
Hope you're having a good day.
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Hope you're having a good day.
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Sorry...I forgot to tell you the name of the post...I think I called it "Down Again..."
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ok, so i'm angry right now, about something that has nothing to do with you, so i'm gonna stick my foot in my mouth and just say what's on my mind.
why the HELL don't you live here? where i could ask you out on a date, and take you to a nice restaurant and a movie, or a museum, or on a picnic, or a thousand other places where we could...
look karen, you don't know me very well, and don't know my history, but i've been just as kicked in the teeth, and in the heart, by the relationships i've been in as you have. i KNOW what it feels like! and all i want is someone to be by my side, someone i can share my life with, dote over, do special things for, someone i can help with the hard things and rejoice with in the great times, someone who can do the same for me, ya know?
and then i meet this beautiful, smart, funny, sexy, amazing woman on a blog, and she fucking lives in CANADA! i mean, what the hell? and the thing is, she doesn't live too far away for us to actually meet, ya know? and yes, i'm talking about you.
so ok, so i've stuck my foot in my mouth and swallowed, and i've probably scared you half to death thinking i'm some kinda whacked out stalker, and if i have, i'm sorry. i guess i just thought you should know that there's somebody out there that feels like you do, and, well, i don't know what the 'and' would be here.
i hope you don't hate me now.
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I don't hate you Trav, but I will say this honestly.
I appreciate all of the insight and advice you've passed on, but I'm not interested in having a relationship with you. I'm sorry. I like that we've developed a sort of friendship, but I kind of like the anonymity I can keep by blogging on Soulcast. A lot of things I share there aren't things I feel I can keep sharing with the people in my life...you know? I'm not posting all of those things about my dating life in hopes to get a date from it...it's a place for me to share my experiences and hear what others, who are unbiased, think about it all....getting friendships out if it is a bonus.
I'd hate to think any interest that you've taken in me and my posts have been fueled purely by some romantic desire that you've cooked up. If that's the case, then please move on and do not bother with my posts. It was never my intent for our communication to take this path, and the fact that you know so much about me and what I look like now makes me very uncomfortable.
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I appreciate all of the insight and advice you've passed on, but I'm not interested in having a relationship with you. I'm sorry. I like that we've developed a sort of friendship, but I kind of like the anonymity I can keep by blogging on Soulcast. A lot of things I share there aren't things I feel I can keep sharing with the people in my life...you know? I'm not posting all of those things about my dating life in hopes to get a date from it...it's a place for me to share my experiences and hear what others, who are unbiased, think about it all....getting friendships out if it is a bonus.
I'd hate to think any interest that you've taken in me and my posts have been fueled purely by some romantic desire that you've cooked up. If that's the case, then please move on and do not bother with my posts. It was never my intent for our communication to take this path, and the fact that you know so much about me and what I look like now makes me very uncomfortable.
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um, no, i don't have any romantic notions toward you. i don't know you well enough to have anything like that. i shouldn't have written that email when i was angry. actually, i'm still angry, but that's beside the point. i have in the past jumped too quickly into relationships that end horribly, so i don't do that anymore.
from time to time i do things without really thinking them through, and this has turned out to be one of them. i'm sorry i made you uncomfortable, i really didn't mean to do that. i guess i just felt like we had something in common, namely the way members of the opposite sex have treated us. and i also wanted you to know that i think you're worth having all those things you wrote about in your blog, and they all got jumbled up together. now it's true, i think you're a beautiful, smart, funny, sexy, amazing woman, but that doesn't mean i have any romantic notions toward you.
like i said, i stuck my foot in my mouth and swallowed. but you don't have to worry about me, i'm not going to start harassing you or anything like that.
thank you for not hating me. can we still be friends?
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Well Trav, what am I supposed to think?...in your previous email, you tell me how you want to take me out on a date. Then you go on and say how you wish you had someone to dote on, help out with hard times, and rejoice in the good, etc. and the next sentence is filled with compliments and then regret that I live in Canada. You tell me you told your friend about me, you figured out to the day what our age difference is, you gushed over my photos...Again...what am I supposed to think? I've been on the dating scene enough to decipher the differences between someone who wants to be friends and someone who is expressing interest in being more.... You definitely crossed the line.
Think about it...what a great game!...meet women on a blog, read about their vulnerabilities, insecurities, weaknesses, wants, needs, trials and tribulations, befriend them, support them, make them think that they can trust you, private message the ones that get your attention, convince them to send a photo, all with the guise of wanting to make them your friend, then pigeonhole them into an uncomfortable spot when you send emails like the one you sent.
Had you really paid attention to the kind of person I am, you would have realized Trav that I would have read that and went running. I've been through enough shit than to deal with someone who said they wanted to be my friend, and then pounces with the inapporpriateness. I don't appreciate that at all. You definitely put your foot in your mouth.
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Think about it...what a great game!...meet women on a blog, read about their vulnerabilities, insecurities, weaknesses, wants, needs, trials and tribulations, befriend them, support them, make them think that they can trust you, private message the ones that get your attention, convince them to send a photo, all with the guise of wanting to make them your friend, then pigeonhole them into an uncomfortable spot when you send emails like the one you sent.
Had you really paid attention to the kind of person I am, you would have realized Trav that I would have read that and went running. I've been through enough shit than to deal with someone who said they wanted to be my friend, and then pounces with the inapporpriateness. I don't appreciate that at all. You definitely put your foot in your mouth.
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first let me appologise for coming across like that. i can certainly see how you could get that impression. that wasn't the one i intended to give. again, i was angry, and i usually know better than to write like that when i'm angry. i will tell you this. if you lived in my town, sure, i'd ask you out. is there anything wrong with that? but you don't, and i have had enough long distance relationships to know that i don't want another one, so i'm only interested in friendships with people online.
so i'm sorry, it won't happen again.
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so you tell me mobil, what did i do wrong here? i've seen you say some really raunchy things to the women on sc in public, and you seem to think that's ok.
and i'll tell you something else, if this is the way she reacts to men who are around her that express interest, it's no wonder she's alone. and as far as any of us know, she's an alt of someone like andora and is just doing all this to set me up, and you got sucked into it.
as to women changing their screen names, yes, there was one. but it wasn't because of anything i said or did toward her. it was because people were spreading rumours about me, and just like you, she assumed them to be true. this same girl two weeks later revealed who she was. but did i have anything to do with her? absolutely not! both of these women are far too irrational for me to want to have anything to do with them. i don't know where either one of them get off thinking they're so 'all that' that every man they come across must want them, but it certainly shows to me that they have very low self esteem.
as for you, mobil, you who are always clamouring for the truth, for other people to back up what they say with facts, you certainly were willing to jump on the bandwagon with nothing but rumours, weren't you, you ignorant prick? from now on, stay the fuck away from me asshole!
