• uniquely-ironic said on Oct 07, 2008....

  Getting old isn't for sissies, for sure!  I'm not entirely happy with the laugh lines and other signs that I'm not 21 any more.  Like you I tried a lot of things to slow it down.  Now I've reached a point where I need to start accepting it, even if I still try to hold it back.  It helps to consider those wrinkles as proof that you've truly lived your life, and not sat on the sidelines.
   

• polarheart said on Oct 07, 2008....

  LOL, U-I, I like the bit about "not for sissies", how true!  Unfortunately I am still in the denial phase. . .a long way to the accepting phase.  I know its inevitable, but maybe I can get there with some "work" along the way. LOL!

• uniquely-ironic said on Oct 07, 2008....

  As some famous dead poet said ..... "go not gently into that dark night".  See how my memory has worked around the fact that I can't remember his name?  LOL
   
  You're still a very beautiful woman polar.  I think you always will be regardless of age.  Beauty on the inside shines through eternally, and you got that!

• Twylarants said on Oct 07, 2008....

  Aging doesn't suit any women, Polar...only men come out looking better than they did when they were young.
  We just look older.
  

• woman said on Oct 07, 2008....

  Amen Twyla. Most of us think we will be ok with this aging thing UNTIL it actually happens. It feels like betrayal. We look at ourselves and we simply don't recognize whom we have become. Do what you need to do to feel better when you look in the mirror but maybe you can also realize that it is a time to enjoy the growth of our spirits and and our minds. It can be a time to spread our wings and bravely reach for dreams that we couldn't/wouldn't pursue when we were younger. You know we simply can not return to the past, or hold on to our youth, so it is up to us to embrace the life we have today.

• CreativeWoman said on Oct 07, 2008....

  Polar,
  I know what you mean.  It is inevitable, but I want to do it as gracefully as possible.  I'll use whatever potions, creams, and hair dye I need to help me along the way.  :-)
  
  A great big CONGRATS on the weight loss!  That's awesome!
  
  CW
  

• mobil said on Oct 07, 2008....

  C'mon Polar, I've seen your picture. You have nothing to worry about yet, time will take it's course, it does with us all.
   
  You are looking at yourself too closely, you see every flaw that others do not see. Life is not about looks anyway, we all lose them, you have a great heart and personality.......why don't you quit looking in the mirror and take a good look into your heart.

• polarheart said on Oct 07, 2008....

  Awww, U-I, that is so very kind of you.  I really appreciate it, I guess I am just struggling with accepting myself.  You are beautiful too, my friend, and I am so glad I can share this phase of my life with someone who understands :-)
   
  Twyla, so true.  But there are women I have seen who look lovely in their mature years and I am worried that I have not done enough in my youth to preserve my skin.  I could just kick myself that I did not start caring until a few years ago.
   
  Woman, I agree with you.  I have certainly experienced that awakening and I feel really content about where "I am at" in my life. . .but its so true what you said about the betrayal. . .it feels like my body has betrayed my inner person.  But such is life and I know I will just have to lift my foot off the brake at some point.
   
  CW, thank you friend.  At least the weight loss has been a big boost for me. . .and come what may I never want to gain those pounds again.  Its the best gift I could have given myself.  I will also use whatever there is to stall the effects of aging for as long as I possibly can. . .so if you have any secrets or know about any new products PLEASE let me know! LOL!
   
  Mobil, your comment really touched my heart.  Thank you, I really appreciate it.  I know you are right.  This self-examination is over the top.  I was just thinking that I have this "need" to be critical of myself and for years I focussed on the flaws of my body and now that that's sorted out i suppose I am moving onto the next thing to beat myself up about.  Thanks for the encouragement :-)

• queenparanoia said on Oct 07, 2008....

  awwww pollie..... {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

  youre still young at heart for me.... ;-)

• RollingC said on Oct 08, 2008....

  You're not getting older Polar....you're getting better.  :^)   Rc
   
  (Now where have I heard that before....hhhmmmmmm)
   
  Your inner beauty will never leave you and that's the one that counts !
   
   

• cuppajava said on Oct 08, 2008....

  Hello Polar - Well,I agree with Mobil and Rc.My philosophy in life is that looks fade....eventually.But the person that you are remains the same and always will.

  I have seen your picture as well,and I have no idea what wrinkles or sagging you are talking about !!!! By the way,congratulations on your weight loss,thats a major achievement in anyone's books.

  Please do me and all of us here a favour,and stay as sweet as you are

  X

• scipio said on Oct 08, 2008....

  Smash the mirror and break the weighing scales.
   
  Grow old gracefully.  Beauty treatment will be temporary - after that what ?
   
  Enjoy your life and be grateful  that you are alive and able to move around freely.
   
  " I cried because I had no shoes - until I saw a man who had no feet."
   
   

• skald said on Oct 08, 2008....

  Poplar you look great and when you get older it would be ugly to look like a girl. I know older women who try to look like little girls and it is ugly. You are beautiful and you always will be beautiful don't worry about one or two little wrinkles. ((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))). 

• woman said on Oct 08, 2008....

  Wise words skald. We just look silly when we try and look like very young girls. We are who we are. We just need to make ourselves the best we can be for this age. You are fine.

• pickersplock said on Oct 08, 2008....

  Are you sure you don't have 40itis?
  Cheer up!  It gets better after 40!
  I look forward to being a crazy cranky eighty year old! :)
  They can get away with murder!

• polarheart said on Oct 10, 2008....

  Queenie, (hugs) baby, if only I had your youth!  Dont be silly like me. . .start looking after your skin NOW already :-)
   
  RollingC, thank you my friend, that means a lot to me.
   
  Cuppa, you are too sweet!  Thank you. . .I definitely know where to come when I need a "pick me up". . .now only if my skin and body could have an ACTUAL pick me up. LOL!
   
  Scipio, of course you are right. . .thing is that I didn't plan on feeling so bad about getting older.  I have a feeling that there are much deeper issues at play here ;-)
   
  Skaldikins, thank you mommy dearest.  I certainly dont want to look like a little girl, but it would be nice to have something for me to fill the cracks! LOL!
   
  Woman, do our best that's all we can do :-)
   
  Pickers, the sad thing is that I am not yet 40 and already I have 40itis! LOL!  But I will keep working on this body even if it gets old on me!

• pickersplock said on Oct 10, 2008....

  It gets better once you actually turn 40.
  The you think, "What the heck!  This isn't so bad!"
  It's the late 30's.....they suck worms!

• polarheart said on Oct 11, 2008....

  Pickers, LOL yes this late 30ies thing gets me down from time to time, but there are positives as well like the feeling that I am becoming my own person. . .that is very important to me :-)

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