• CayenneMan said on Oct 02, 2008....

     Well CreativWoman, I have this neighbor who often comes over to my house when he sees me working in my front yard. All he talks about are negative worldly issues and politics. Politics, politics, politics . . . I really have'nt much to say about politics. It's hard for me to have a conversation with anybody regarding political issues. I should be more aware of what's going on politically in our country but I admit I'm limited in my thoughts and ideas. Besides I don't need to get an ulcer worrying about it. This guy rambles on and on about this and that. And how bad this global warming issue is and the toxic air we're breathing etc. I never look foreward to seeing the guy walk up my driveway towards me because I know what I'm about to hear. He's always welcome to come over and I will listen but my oh my. Sometimes when I see him coming I just want to throw my thumb in my mouth and run to the house to get my security blanket !   :0)

• CreativeWoman said on Oct 02, 2008....

  Cayenne,
  I know the feeling.  It's too bad the guy is next door.
  
  CW
  

• MissMimi said on Oct 02, 2008....

  I live with a person with a pretty significant streak of negativity, or maybe pessimistic is a better word.  He sees life as half empty, and approaches most things with grim determination.  I don't think he ever relaxes and just lets himself be, unless he's had a few beers. 
   
  I've found if one (namely me) is exposed to this often enough, she does eventually adopt the same joyless attitude about life.  I really had to learn to tune it out.  Constantly being admonished, scolded, and lectured, over time, can make you start to doubt your own intelligence and ability to make wise choices.  It causes a hell of a lot of resentment too.
   
  I enjoyed reading the blog link you put up, CDub.  :)

• evil_twin said on Oct 02, 2008....

  I'm way too affected by other people's negativity. If I'm in a good mood, and the people around me are not, it brings me down instantly. I wish I could somehow turn that switch off or surround myself with a protective bubble. But I'm too emphatic. If someone else hurts, I hurt too. And it's not their fault. It's mine for not being able to protect myself better and stop taking on their moods.
  
  I usually try to avoid people that I know will bring me down. But sometimes it's inevitable. I'm glad you're finding ways to shake it off.
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• uniquely-ironic said on Oct 02, 2008....

  I wrote a blog about this not long ago.  I tend to become exhausted when exposed to negative people and things.  It's like I use up my energy trying to shield myself or to help them.  Like you I'm starting to recognize it now rather than feeling like someone steam rolled me.

• CreativeWoman said on Oct 02, 2008....

  Mimi,
  I'm sorry you have to go through that. Don't you wish we could wish it away? My dad was that way when I was growing up.  It's left its emotional scars.  I know that feeling of resentment all too well when it comes to my in-laws.  They are very judgmental people and that sort of negativity is probably the worst for me to deal with.
  
  Thanks for checking out my other posting.  :-)
  
  CW
  

• CreativeWoman said on Oct 02, 2008....

  et,
  I absorb that negative energy too.  It's like I carry it for them for a while.  It doesn't do me any good, so I really am working hard to let it go as quickly as I can.  You might laugh, but I visualize that protective bubble you mentioned sometimes.  I imagine negativity bounces off it like little arrows that can't get to me.  Sometimes I go so far as dusting myself off and saying..."get off of me". 
  
  Being kind hearted sometimes has its drawbacks.  I think you know what I mean.
  
  UI,
  I must have missed your post when I was away from here for a few days, but I do agree that negative people are draining.  I wonder if they feel better after they suck us dry?
  
  CW
  

• skald said on Oct 02, 2008....

  The negativity is worst for the negative one him or her self. We can surely avoid those people if they don't live with us and if they do we have to find a way to be above it. 

• Lucytorial said on Oct 02, 2008....

  This is a wonderful post.  If I have no escape plan CW it starts to bring me down until my Bitch comes out.  I can't abide negative people I can't stand it.  So I let my bitch in me fly by taunting them, flashing a mirror in their faces, showing them their negative selves, I enjoy every moment out of doing this because I know I have no escape from them and this in essence stops me from feeling down and negative.  Not better than them but not negative.  I don't play their game basically and end up laughing my ass off at them.
   
  If I have an escape plan CW ~ I exit, literally I've done this.  I've said to people look, I can't handle being around you right now, see ya! and I've walked, I've done this to friends and family I've walked away from my husband.  I won't place myself there to take on that kind of energy.
   
   

• destinydiva said on Oct 03, 2008....

  negative people really effect me, I can be down for days after being around them, even negative posts on soulcast can drown me for hours..
  I call them energy vampires :-) they drain my energy literally. 
  xxx
  

• blogacious said on Oct 03, 2008....

  Dealing with negative people used to affect me a lot too. Then I read about the idea of imagining yourself surrounded in a cocoon of white light. Sounds corny I know - but I tried it - and it helped. Maybe it worked because I believed it would work - but whatever, I'll use it. I also read about imagining a mirror in front of you that repells their negative energy back to them. Affirmations also help. I refuse to allow others to control or affect me in a negative way. It can have an energetic effect that can result in physical illness. People in ancient tribes knew this very well. 

• CreativeWoman said on Oct 03, 2008....

  skald,
  That's some good advice, but unfortunately there are a few negative people that I just can't avoid as much as I would like to.
  
  Lucy,
  Thank you.  I wish I could be more like that.  I have walked away many times, but that never seems to solve anything with this bunch.  The think something is wrong with me!  grrrrrr
  
  destiny,
  I think "energy vampires" describes negative people perfectly.
  
  blogacious,
  I do the visualizations too.  I think it helps.  Thanks for visiting my blog.
  
  CW

• queenparanoia said on Oct 03, 2008....

  sometimes it can make me negative too.... but i try to be positive to counteract the negative...

• CreativeWoman said on Oct 03, 2008....

  queen,
  That's a good attitude to have.
  
  CW
  

• skald said on Oct 03, 2008....

  Cw. Then you have to learn not to let them affect you too much. I know it is hard but I know one can do it, my dear CW. I know you can get mad and everything but in time, for your own protection, you will have to do this. And maybe after all they may have a point you don't see now. Let me tell you I speak from experience. Wish my mum had told me this. .  

• Lucytorial said on Oct 03, 2008....

  Well thats plain stupid CW ~ Emotional vampires as Destiny has so aptly said are definitely in their own selfish world without care or reference or respect to others.  Block! thats all I can suggest, block it in your own mind say to yourself "This is not my emotion or thought I don't want this No"

• CreativeWoman said on Oct 03, 2008....

  skald,
  I do better with it than I used to.  At least I'm recognizing now when I'm absorbing the negativity and can make a conscious effort to stop.  Hypnosis has helped me with that.
  
  Lucy,
  Negative people are selfish in my opinion.  Maybe I'm a little too sensitive to it.
  
  CW
  

• Taffy000 said on Dec 11, 2008....

  There used to be a person at work who would always have negative things to say.  This was an old woman.  She would talk about who slept with whom 30 years ago.  Why even bring that crap up!  I'm glad she's no longer here-she retired.  She called when she found out we were all having problems at work and she was so nice......but it was odd.  I don't worry about $.  Right now I think I'm in a good place.  I'm content.  To be quite honest I don't talk to a whole lot of people.  I think I may tend to be a negative person-at least when it comes to work.  If I HAVE to be around a negative person like a supervisor it really makes me mad and I think it steals a bit of my soul but hey what can I do? 

• CreativeWoman said on Dec 12, 2008....

  Taffy,
  It makes it hard when you have no choice but to be around a negative person such as at work.  That's when I try to think of things I'm grateful for.  It helps a bit.
  
  My best to you.
  
  CW
  

• witsend said on Sep 04, 2009....

  My mother in law is one of those nosey old types with nothing to do in llife except nag and question and to top it all she is negative and stubborn as a mule. whenever she is with us I am always tense and angry she works me up and she soaks our home with her negative vibes....it is so frustrating my husband tolerates her thinking that she has only a few more years to live and takes all her rubbish.She should get the next oscar as the best actress of the century she can really fake illness.....even hubby admits it! I wish she would go home to her place and stay there!!!

• CreativeWoman said on Sep 04, 2009....

  witsend,
  She sounds like a real piece of work.  I feel for you.  I know some of those kinds of people...my grandmother immediately comes to mind.
  
  Hang in there.
  
  CW
  

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