• hinana said on Sep 30, 2008....

  this is probably inappropriate atm but im always quoting to ppl ' lifes a bitch babe'
  =)
  didi this is the part where u think to yourself, sure u girls get to see him soon, but i get him all to myself in the end. right?
  ((hugs))

• diabolicdame said on Sep 30, 2008....

  Hehehehe.. you're right hina.. I should be thinking that.. you're a smart girl! And life is a bitch.. totally.. !!

• the_infernal_optimist said on Sep 30, 2008....

  ((massive hugs))
  
  It really doesn't seem fair when you love someone and other people get to see them, and take that for granted, but you'd give anything for the same opportunity.
  
  I don't think you'd be human if that never got under your skin and made you sad. But I hope you're not sad for long. I'm so glad you're around!
  
  ~Infernal
  

• evil_twin said on Sep 30, 2008....

  I understand how you feel. It is frustrating isn't it? And having a long distance relationship is really super hard. I can't believe you haven't seen him for a year! That's enough to make anyone really sad. I have to commend you for keeping it going for that long though. You must really love each other to be able to withstand that.
  
   Do you guys have long term plans to be together permanently? Until then, I guess you better just enjoy talking to him on the phone or online, but I know it's a poor substitute for the real thing sometimes :-(
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• skald said on Sep 30, 2008....

  (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

• diabolicdame said on Sep 30, 2008....

  infernal: Thank you so much for that hug!! I really needed it. Yeah.. sometimes it gets too much. Especially that thing you said about other people taking for granted what I so long for. You got it exactly right.. that part sucks!! But no.. I wont be sad for long.. it helps a lot to write here and share with you guys.. and I feel so much better already!     :-)

  e_t: Oh it is frustrating!! It really is. But it feels good to know you understand what I'm saying.. atleast I know I'm not nuts!! And yeah.. its been a year to the day.. it sucks. He the strong one though and he's always positive about it.. "Only one more year of this.. you wont even know when its gone! Whats 3 years out of our whole lives?".     :-)

   I do love him a lot.. and plans.. yes we do have plans. I'm planning to do my masters degree in the UK where we can be together.. that will commence after a year. And after that I have plans to be with him forever.. so that should be good.. hehe.. until then.. as you said.. the phone and internet will have to suffice. *sigh*

  skald: You're always such a sweetheart! That was much needed.. thanks a lot!!  ((((((((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))))))

• FutureGoddess said on Sep 30, 2008....

  DD - I hope the yenching made you feel a bit better - sort of cathartic isn't it? 

  You'll be fine!

• diabolicdame said on Sep 30, 2008....

  Yes it cathartic.. and I know I'll be fine.. we always find a way to be fine, don't we?      :-)

• Lucytorial said on Sep 30, 2008....

  You have patiences I'll giv eyou that... heck those girls don't know him the way you do! so hang in there.... he also doesn't love them the wayhe loves you so stay strong! have a whinge every now and then... it always helps... but hon? seriously! this guy's gonna get put in hospital when you see him, I kind of feel sorry for him!

• diabolicdame said on Sep 30, 2008....

  Hehehehe... yeah he'll be put in the hospitable for sure.. he has a lot to.. erm.. make up for.. and you know what I mean!!   ;-)
   
  Alrite alrite m gone to sleep now already.. thanks for wishing me luck luce! I'll let you know how it goes. nighty night!  

• gingersoul said on Sep 30, 2008....

  Diabolic......one year without seeing each other? Wow!!
  When we will see fireworks in the sky....we will know why....LOL...
  
  Anyway, I know two people here at Sc that have been 18 months before meeting for the second time and to say they are still going strong is an euphemism...right, Alyss?.......:-)
  
  So, yes, long distance relationships are hard but doable.....and i know what i am talking about, believe me...:-)
  
  Those girls ....well....i completely understand your frustration.....but you don't seem jealous of them so i  would say....don't think about it.....they are going to see him for a short period of time...the way you talk,  you are going to have him for life, right?...:-)
  

• RollingC said on Sep 30, 2008....

  Love sometimes is not very fair in that it hurts....and that's not what we imagine it should be but it wouldn't be Love if it didn't hurt a bit sometime. 
  It's only for the moment that the current situation will last for you so don't worry.....  things will get better.
  Rc

• cuppajava said on Sep 30, 2008....

  Hi DD - well,you know there is one thing that i have learned over time,and that is that life in general isnt fair.....but ours is not to reason why -we just have to make the choices and accept the consequences that come from them.
  Maybe it isnt such a good idea for you to read all the messages from other woman to him on SpaceBook (as opposed to MyFace).I mean,you know that they will probably upset you,so rather dont read them.I know that that sounds like a harsh thing to say - but - the both of you obviously love and trust each other a great deal,and if there was anything you needed to be weary of from one of those friends.I am sure that he would tell you.
  Regarding the fact that they can 'see' him and you cant.....well.If the both of you are serious about your relationship,then you would have your whole lives together.Its things like this are a test,just to see how strong your relationship really is.I know that when i was a child my dad was working in the far east for a few years and we were living in the UK.I mean he was in Borneo,Indonesia and Singapore for 6 months at a time for about 3 years.But they survived,and I am sure that you will too.
  Chin up and take care of yourself....and if you are looking for people to scream and yell at.I think you came to the right place
  CJ
  X

• diabolicdame said on Sep 30, 2008....

  ginger: Oh there sure will be fireworks.. to say the least! hehe.. yes I know long distance is hard but doable.. and for him I'd do it for as long as needed.. but as you rightly said.. it is frustrating sometimes! Though I understand what you're saying.. other people can see him now.. but now is not all I want.. so I can wait. Thanks.     :-)

  RollingC: Yeah.. love hurts! And I know.. its just momentary.. it will get better.. but sometimes I get whiny like this!! Thanks for listening!   :-)

  cj: That sounds very wise to me.. why read all the 'see u soon' messages and torture myself?! They always make me feel bad. So I'm just going to avoid that from now on. And thanks for letting me scream and yell.. hehe.. I feel better! I'm all chin up from now on!!    :-)

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