my girlfriend had started working with me at the publishing company in may. and at first, i didn't immediately realize that my girlfriend was flirting with me at the time. i had been seeing and been interesteind in a couple of girls at the time - including the infamous j of previous posts, and another girl, n. i had met n through the website collegeluv.com. and typically we spoke online for a while before speaking on the phone and i had then met her at some cheesy bar near union square. my intial impressions of the girl was that she was sweet but incredibly cheesy. but the more i spoke to her, she showed herself to be unbalanced. as i mentioned she was a horrible kisser too, and to make things worse, she never listened to anything i ever said with any interest.

i was never seriously committed to n. we only went out on three dates. and when i told n, fearing her response because she had been so irrational, that i just wanted to be friends. the girl cried like i had broke up with her after two years of dating. i was still somewhat friendly with her and when i told her that i was dating someone she was okay with it - until she had found out that i had worked with my girlfriend and that she was a little bit older than me. (i'm 27 and my girlfriend is 34. as another added fact, a lot of my friends are older than i am. one of my close buddies is 46, another friend is 42. i have friends my age too but after a while you stop seeing age and just figure out what you have in common. j's going to be 34 at the end of the year and i had a huge crush on her. i never saw it as big deal.) and when i think of what had happened with n, there's something that bugs me. why didn't i notice right away that she was absolutely bonkers?

she had talked in a way that really bothered me. like she had some sort of pent-up psychosis or something. i think the best way to describe her was to say that she was one of those sorts that smiled too much, and because of it you can tell that there was something seriously wrong with them. and her crying after someone telling her after 3 dates that they just wanted to be friends? 3 dates, man. what's with that?