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As this fuck up woke just now on this Sunday morning, he discovered that ALL of his coir pot sown poppies (150+) had been desecrated by a certain uncles dog, who spent the night here as I have a big property.  I am shattered as so much hard work, time and love went into sowing these.  Not to mention the garden beds and sunflowers, a tiny pincushion Aussie native tree, vegetables and my foxgloves, .  I voiced my concern over the dog being here yesterday as I envisioned this destruction exactly, but all I got was 'the dog wouldn't climb on the table'...yeah right he SLEPT on the god damn table and on top of my mass of coir pots and seedlings.  Hell they are strewn about the yard too.

My first instinct upon espying all this was for my blood to boil and a loud parade of swearing to emerge from my mouth, then I just thought 'why bother getting so worked up over it'.  It won't help the situation.  My uncle is reimbursing me $40 for everything destroyed but that doesn't ease the fact I would now have to repurchase the various strains of seed, buy all the pots again, prepare the coir (not fun!) and re pot...my concern is that it could be too late to sow more now as the new plants may not survive our Summer, it gets very hot.  I will re sow the poppies as I want to replace the lost plants, it just sucks that they had to be destroyed by a young border collie. 

Now I have another friend who is in his late 40's on his deathbed, and he has just been given only 24 hours or less to die in hospital...he has emphysema and smoking also contributed majorly to his demise.  Godspeed 'C', I will miss you and please say hi to 'W' when you get there. 

He is so scared to die and it breaks my heart that he hasn't had time to prepare for the fact that he is going to die within a day.  From the recent diagnosis of emphysema to his death, which the doctors expect will be today.  His family don't even care, in fact it seems they want him to die.  I believe he probably has money and his family know this, especially his wife. 

I too am trapped in the dark walls of nicotine addiction although I've quit smoking and only use a nicotine inhaler and occasionally, nicotine gum for the bad cravings.  In fact, when I seen the wanton destruction before my first instinct was to have a cigarette.  The cravings get me at the most vulnerable times but I am wise to nicotine now, how sneaky it is, and evil.  It has been over 3 weeks since I quit cigarettes and I really feel magnificent considering all the chaos in the world.  Has anyone else been having very bad dreams recently?  I was reading Matthew's messages and he mentioned bad dreams of recent.  These are my spiritual guidance and reading these messages from beyond really helps soothe and calm my soul and make me look forward to the future.  Things are changing on Earth, for the better, and it is becoming so evident...I live with the belief that Earth will again be a paradise soon.

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  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Sep 27, 2008....

    bookmarking to read tomorrow, dear Ton!

    <3
    paper ~


  • OscarB said on Sep 27, 2008....
    I am so sorry to hear about your friend... I too smoke and its always such a wake up call for me when I hear such things... I need to stop but I can't.

    You have actually taken your garden situation pretty well... I would have had to kick that dog to touch!!!  I would have been livid!!!
  • Lucytorial said on Sep 28, 2008....
    The evil curse of nicotine... this I can associate with.  Arrggghh for the dog! they can be soo cute but very very ugly when they destroy shit.. I have a dog... need I say more.
     
    As for your friend ~ I'll add my wishes of a quick and peaceful passing for him - I can't say much more than that as I don't know him, its a shame that life is measured in days and hours.  Maybe it would be best not to have told him?
  • evil_twin said on Sep 28, 2008....
    Aww man, I'm sorry about your friend and your garden. That really sucks. Your friend is so young too. That's scary. I'm an occasional smoker, but stuff like this makes me want to stop for sure. I think we all assume nothing like that will happen to us though, especially if we're young. I hope he passes quickly without suffering. I'm sorry.

    -evil_twin LA
  • diabolicdame said on Sep 28, 2008....
    Hey.. that totally sucks about your poppies.. and your friend too.. must be such a shock to him.. I'm sending prayers his way. And its really great that you're fighting your way out of nicotine. It really is evil. All the best.
  • thegayfuckup said on Sep 28, 2008....
    Thanks everyone.  By the way those 'new' tags that were added aren't mine, it's a result of, as Lucytorial said in a recent post...amoebic filth.  In my words:  Stupid fuckhead cunt losers with nothing better to do, hiding behind their anon comments like the little teen wankers they are.  Good luck to them.

    This time I am so much more prepared for this friends death and am handling it much easier and I've said my goodbye.  He had to be told so his family could say their goodbyes...unfortunately most haven't even bothered and that is so heartbreaking.  He only has his few friends and a wife who seems happier NOW that he is confirmed to die. 

    The poppies, well I've sow more and we'll see if they still sprout.  I imagine they might but it's warming up so fast here as we move through Spring, so the weather may be too hot for them as adult plants in Summer.  Summer hits my area in 2 months time.  At least the winds have died down a bit too! 

    Nicotine in my opinion is so much more trickier to beat than any other drug.  I just cannot go cold turkey as I become too edgy and snappy at everyone.  Good luck to everyone who smokes and tries to quit, it's a big achievement to stop cigarettes.  
        


  • lionesss said on Sep 28, 2008....
    hey,its a totall messed up head when you wake up in the morning and to find it was the favurate project you had all because the person who owned the dog didnt have control ova him, at least he could of slept nxt to him then put him on a leash at least or didnt they think to! a circumstances,that wud of messed up my head all the work they were close to being ready,,money will be helpful  for the next crop but its then not now maybe if you cover them over with a gardeners mesh and take them into a cool out house some where,as they wont hold their own in temp like that
    anyway i agree the nicotine is very hard to come off, and i quiete agree giving up drugs can be alot harder and dnt be punished by others saying cold turkey is the best way oh no its not at all, and i agree it will be a MASSIVE ACHEIVMENT to stop smoking ,,,,,,,,,,well done you, oh my son has started to pack up its his 2nd week now and not 1, im so proud of him let me know how your all doing plz....x.lionesss x
  • thegayfuckup said on Sep 28, 2008....
    The dog was bought over to run around our huge backyard.  All the peat pots of poppies were up on a big table, surrounded by pot plants for protection from wind etc.  I didn't want the dog here as I knew it was trouble, but the relatives I live with said yeah it's ok for the dog to stay...never again I can tell you that.  I have more in now and hopefully they will get to grow to adult size and give me seed pods to collect.

    Congrats to your son, it's so awesome when people gain the strength to quit smoking.  I have smoked on and off since I was 11 years old and I'm now 27.  It's always that 'one' cigarette I think I can safely have that re hooks me faster than I can say smoke!  Let us know how he is going with his quit attempt to.  I'm now at the beginning of week 4 and it is still hard, although the nicotine inhaler takes the edge off and reduces physical cravings dramatically, with only 1/10th the nicotine of average strength cigarettes.


  • thegayfuckup said on Sep 29, 2008....
    Update: Dying friend is still with us, he's fighting so hard to stay alive and wants to die at home but the hospital are unsure about sending him home. 
  • lionesss said on Sep 29, 2008....

    aww,i looked after my dad and granma at home before they died, i couldnt bare the thort of either of them dying in a hospital bed on their own, it was hard but they both got their wish and died in their home,, you have so much care and compassion in your personality im sure he is proud to be your friend

    my son is still smoke frree,i hope your coping well yourself well done my friend,i found that if i had a cigerettes in my house i wouldnt want any, but it didnt take me long to give up, only 2 days, i started smoking when i was 13yr, it was living in pubs that started me off but seeing my dad suffering gave me strength to give up and he didnt smoke at all, passive smoking eh more than likely, anyway keep me posted good luck xx

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