Hello everyone, I am seeking feedback from people that are more experienced than I...I am new and confused, and hopeful...I am married, but looking to explore some desires with someone that I have met.
I met someone about 8 years ago that we were on the verge of starting a physical relationship, but the timing, distance, situations were never right. I recently reached out to him to re-connect, and we have always been extremely compatible and had a lot in common.
Last night, as we caught up, he shared with me some interests that he has been exploring in his past few relationships. He realized a few years ago, that his "deepest darkest" fantasies have tended towards the dominant, and in building and relying on emotional bonds while testing the waters and exploring D/s behavior. The more we talked and shared, the more it became apparent that we have both explored these things, but I never realized that's what I was doing. I have always liked to have my partner very much in control during sex, and some rough play, light bondage, ownership, and instruction-following is a huge turn-on for me.
He does not want to push me, and I have told him that I am not ready to be physical yet, and he wants me to tell him when I am, so that we can plan a visit. Last night on the phone, he instructed me very specifically how and where to touch myself, and how to control my orgasms. He told me what a good girl I was for following his instructions, and I had to ask permission nicely to cum. It was one of the best orgasms I have ever had. If he is more experienced and knows exactly what he wants, am I about to jump in over my head? I never claimed to him to have submissive tendencies, but he told me that the experiences I described to him show that I have played a little bit in this realm.
How should I proceed? Do I need to educate myself more in order to make sure I am pleasing him correctly and doing things "right"? I am nervous, but so excited...
