• hopelessguy said on Sep 25, 2008....

  I should add how pathetic I feel too!!

• beyondtheveil said on Sep 25, 2008....

  I went through something like this in my early twenties. The only thing I found that helped was being active. I immersed myself in work, went places even though there was no reason to go and actually enjoyed it because I was around people. The hope lies in that it will end, and it will someday. You have to keep active until that someday. Lying around thinking about it only takes you deeper into where you are now. If you have interests, follow them. If you believe depression is the cause of this, you can find out and get help. 

• findingX said on Sep 26, 2008....

  i too have gone this road before and not that long ago ... its true the best thing you can do is being active, going outdoors, but i believe also letting go i had no one to talk to, i was all alone also cried myself to sleep many nights i didnt knew this sites even existed...you have a chance to let go your feelings with us, talk to us...where are here i think to support ourselves...i have read a lot of blogs but this is my first.so im new at this...thank God i found this site cause im also feeling sad and lonely not like before but still....but somehow i feel better after 30 mins of being here cause maybe its funny but somehow making a comment on your blog made me feel a little better and not alone....dont know how but eventually ....all that sadness will go away....and remember whatever activities you like do them....they will keep you busy and not thinking ....to a point when you wont noticed anymore that you were feeling lonely...and sad.......hope i helped i little....

• secretlife said on Sep 26, 2008....

  i agree with those before me-  keep as busy as you can.  make a list of things you want to do but never tried.  pick one thing, and vow to yourself to try it.  walk, run, join a church group, a social network, a gym.......join SOMETHING.
   
  think of this time as the time to improve YOU.  to know yourself, and to experience the world around you.  think of it as the gift that it is.

• bloggerport12 said on Sep 27, 2008....

  i can definately relate to what you feel..
  hang in there.. distract youself with some activities: like join a gym or hobby class or something...till about a month ago i used to have numerous breakdown many times a day.. without anyone even knowing about it. my closest friends also dont know abou how i feel. soulcast is a great place to express you emotions..

• Misty_Eyed said on Sep 29, 2008....

  This sounds like classic depression to me. No, you're not worthless, and no, nothing's hopeless (the way everything might seem to be right now). Finding a really good therapist (and psychiatrist or family to doctor) could make all the difference for you, if you haven't done so already.
  
  I avoided meds at first--probably due to the stigma attached--but they're awesome when you find the right one(s). They don't change who you are or your personality or anything. They just help you to feel like yourself again and take an interest in things (and get all your basic functions, like sleeping and eating, back on track a bit).
  
  You are not alone, so please don't feel lonely for too long.
  
  And yes, exercise REALLY helps to if you can make yourself do it. Just keep it fun so you can actually enjoy it.
  
  28 is so young. You have so much wonderful life left to live! It WILL get better. (You just have to know that and ride it out. Remember, if you're suffering from depression, it's not a personality defect but an actual medical disorder which can respond really well to treatment.)
  
  Good Luck
  

• Misty_Eyed said on Sep 29, 2008....

  OOhh. And secretlife is so write about trying something new. But make sure you have some good company, if needed, if you're going to try something a little daring--like karaoke. 

• blondee0718 said on Sep 29, 2008....

  Oh!  I swear last night I had the same episode, but before I went to sleep.  I'm right where you are right now too...and it sucks, but I've learned that sometimes we have to go through it to renew ourselves....remind us of what we want and how we can go about getting it, and to appreciate what exactly we have...it's kind of like a rebound effect.  I find that when I get down because I am alone, that I have to look at myself in the mirror, and remind myself that I'm a great person, who deserves all the happiness in the world, and for whatever reason, destiny has decided that right now is not my time...but it will come.  Hang in there buddy...as hard as it is to wait...you're time will come when it's the right time.  (wow...now if I can only follow my own advice....)

• hopelessguy said on Oct 11, 2008....

  So today is my birthday, and I have spent the entire day alone, with the exception of brother and parents no one has even said happy birthday. I feel like hardly any one even cares about me. I thought about going out to dinner or to a night club and the realization that I was alone made me burst into tears again, I hate my life right now. I just feel so lonely and horrible. I feel so bad about myself I cannot even get out and try anything, I wonder what the point is. I cannot this, I hate feeling so lonely.

• hopelessguy said on Oct 11, 2008....

  So today is my birthday, and I have spent the entire day alone, with the exception of brother and parents no one has even said happy birthday. I feel like hardly any one even cares about me. I thought about going out to dinner or to a night club and the realization that I was alone made me burst into tears again, I hate my life right now. I just feel so lonely and horrible. I feel so bad about myself I cannot even get out and try anything, I wonder what the point is. I cannot this, I hate feeling so lonely.

• sadsadgirl said on Oct 21, 2008....

  It doesn't help-being active; I work 13 hours a day six days a week; and I can't stop about being lonely; every day I die because nobody wants me; being active doesn't change that; hope is a tricky thing; I have had my hopes for many years now; nothing has changed; I am older, more depressed (even the antidepressants don't help) If it were so easy, there wouldn't be so many unhappy and lonely people. So maybe it's better jsut to die, disappear; hen this pain would end...

• secretlife said on Nov 01, 2008....

  hopelessguy-  i just wanted to wish you a belated happy birthday, and to tell you that although i have lots of times where i'm just very very sad these days, i also am very aware that i have the power within myself to change my outlook-  and i will never give up hope. 
   
  you have to reach out in this world-  be bold-  and go for things outside of your comfort zone-  you have to keep both your mind and your hands busy.  you have to have a stake in life-  do you know what i mean?  you have to care about life-  and then, whether or not you have another person taking this walk with you, you'll find meaning.  i truly believe this.

• anonymous said on Mar 11, 2009....

  you all are correct in suggesting that keeping yourself busy , will put your mind off for some time.But the basic question here is that no-one want me...and my problem is much different...I can't marry anyone because i don't get proper errection. I don't have any frds so close with whom i can share this...am the only son of my parents don't know how to tell this to them...everyday they are bringing new proposal for me....how long can i keep rejecting....secondly if i can't have a family then whats the point of my living in this world....I should have died long back...Atleast now i should put an end to this aimless line....Please someone reply to this post...I want to cling to 1% chance of living,,,,give me some hope........please

• b.dreamer said on Mar 12, 2009....

  It is easy to loose hope when you live in darkness, easy to loose your strength when the whole world is out to get you. But this is your life, and you only get one so it's important to make it count. You can sit in a hole and cry the time away, or you can get up and try to climb your way out. You might have taken a beating out there, but it's not over you still have life left. You can accomplish whatever your heart sets out for, and you cannot loose hope. You have to find new reasons to live, new reasons to succeed and prosper. You have to soul search and ONLY YOU CAN DO THIS!!! No one else can direct your life, you are in charge. Whether you win or loose, it's up to you. You need to fight and climb every day, you must overcome challenges everyday, or just live in the shadow for the rest of your life. The choice is yours.

• b.dreamer said on Mar 12, 2009....

  On another note kids and wives do not make you who you are. You decide who you are, and plenty of people live this life single. You do not need a fancy car, a big house, the perfect spouse, beautiful children, all those things are blessings perhaps, but they do not make you the person you are. There is more to life than family, and no end of people in the world. There are billions of people are also lonely and lost. There are many others suffering, even right next to you. Reach out to them. There are abandoned children, broken families, lonely women who don't care if you can "operate" or not, there are people who will accept you for who you are. Seek them out and do not live by so many rules, it is up to you what your life is and if you haven't died, that means God has a plan for you. Your work is not done in this life. I don't want you to cling to 1% ... I want you to conquer 99% of this life and I want you to do it NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

• anonymous said on May 07, 2009....

  I agree totally with Blondee0718 but boy its hard

• alone said on Aug 30, 2009....

  I wish I could learn to like myself. When I love someone, I give all of me to that person. When I'm rejected, as I am now, I just don't want to live. I'm desperate and cry myself to sleep. I feel worthless like no one would miss me if I were gone. I'm too much of a coward to commit suicide and instead wallow in despair. I have the need to have someone in my life who loves me for me; where its actually mutual. Sometimes I just want to give up. I have no one to talk to and can't stand the pain anymore. I need help!

• anonymous said on Sep 14, 2009....

  I lost my husband 2yrs this Nov. Kids grown and gone. Recently lost my job. Which was the only social contact I had. I was fired for about the stupidest reason I have ever seen someone get fired for. ( an asst manager, two days on the job, claimed I told her I would not take orders from anyone, and that I did not care who they were.) Long story as to what actually transpired. And to make matters worse, my Daughter worked with me and lost her job at the same time. By reason of association I guess, as she really did do nothing. So now I never see her. Have boyfriend who is either at work or in bed. I am left alone for days on end. I literally do not have anyone to talk to. I have had an estranged relationship with my family for nearly 10 yrs and have no desire to mend any fences there. I cry all the time. If anyone had told me my life would end up like this I would have laughed. I have always been a person who could easily entertain myself. Lots of projects I loved to work on. Not anymore. Nothing interests me. On top of all this, I am suing the Doctor that performed my husbands surg. which led to his death. And now a stepson has threatened me with all kinds of crap if I dont agree to give him half of any award we may get. My husband had 5 children. 3 before and 2 with myself. I am in horrible debt. I am losing my mind. I just want someone to talk to, have fun with, regain interest in life with. Nothing sexual at all. Just a lasting, honest friendship. Someone respond. Please

• CINDY said on Sep 23, 2009....

  Hi! anyone wants to be my friend ~ i am 30 years old (female) recently move to JHB ... i had beeen so very very alone too ! but i am a Christian, so when ever i am feeling very lonely i talk to my God. i am not very depressed and i sleep well, infact i always smile because my God make me laugh, He is always a best friend of mine, one problem , i need a friend on earth too ! anyone interest call me or msg me. you may write letters to me also . CELL : 0823697969 EMAIL - cindydu@live.co.za MY NAME IS CINDY DU

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