• tsacluos said on Sep 24, 2008....

  Too bad sister, you are in for the shock of your life. You are Female and that dooms you till you come back next life as male (in whatever specie). Stay as long as you want in the selfish phase. Somebody will come along and melt you,and if it is a he, you are doomed to the fact that the relationship will only be up to 65/35 if you are very lucky. If you opened up to a she, then there's a good chance that it is a 50/50. Even then there's the king and queen roles to consider. The good thing is that if you do find your soul mate, all these doesn't matter(at least for 4 yrs)and you will do what you can, willingly...animal planet...lions Westerners tend to give up when they get tired, and cuss about their man openly,or in blogs like this one. Check out Secretlife and gang. Eastern culture women hate their man silently or go blogging here too. If you come back next life as man, best be an easterner.....Indian? Good luck

• b.dreamer said on Sep 26, 2008....

  I wasn't a mama's boy and I've somehow turned out the same way. I used to be a individual, and very self dependent. I did everything myself. Bought and cooked food, fixed the car, do the laundry, everything domestic. It was my kingdom and I overlooked every faucet.
  
  Yet when I fell in love with that special girl something was lost sadly. She started to do everything, and even when I helped out it just made things worse. She figured it would be better and faster if she did it herself. I found myself invited in the kitchen less and less. The laundry room changed, the detergents changed brand and location. The dryer sheets were weird, we use a new dish washing soap that comes in a plastic shell? I am used to liquid.
  
  The bathrooms come out cleaner, she knows all the settings to the new vacuum I can barely control. I vacuumed last week and thought it was broken, but she pointed out 3 levers each with a different setting. I had used "stair case" setting on the living room floor and it didn't work. She uses a high tech mop and I use a old fashioned one. The floor is way better looking when she does it.
  
  I had basically been replaced by a more superior person was my conclusion.
  
  I don't like it, but my kingdom has been restricted to my office and the garage. She runs the rest. She likes being in charge and she likes to call the shots. I ran a load of laundry last week with "hot water" and it shrunk some of her tops. She suggested I leave the laundry to the "pros" as she put it.
  
  So in rebuttal to your claim, a man doesn't have to be a mama's boy to go to 80/20. Sometimes a perfectly capable man is just made obsolete by someone better.
  

• tsacluos said on Sep 26, 2008....

  b.dreamer- That's good and valid. Never thought of it that way. :-)

• luvlee27 said on Sep 29, 2008....

  Thanks tsacluos and b.dreamer for responding you both made valid and interesting points!!!

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