• b.dreamer said on Sep 26, 2008....

  Yeah the first dozen or so times it stings, but I swear after your 9th or 10th one it doesn't hurt as much. A few more after that and it doesn't hurt at all.
  
  I do remember the punch in the intestines though, that was harsh stuff. Sorry you had to go through that. If it's any consolation, and it does sound cliche, but things really will get better in time.
  
  But the way I see it, it's a learning process that is designed to make you stronger. See the first time you poke your finger with a needle it bleeds. You keep poking your finger with a needle and it will bleed again and again.
  
  However....
  
  You keep poking it enough, and eventually your hand will get stronger and stronger. Ask any woman who sews for a living. Eventually your finger will be so hard, you won't bleed anymore.
  
  I think dating is the same way. The first dozen hurt, but after that it's no big deal. Remember as of September 2008, the world's population is estimated to be just over 6.725 billion people which looks like this:
  
  6,725,000,000 people
  
  If we can assume 50% are woman that leaves:
  
  3,362,500,000 women out there
  
  Why settle for just one? My advice would be to get around a little bit. Don't settle right away, go on long fishing trips (wink wink) - when I went to highschool I had 4 or 5 girlfriends every other month.
  
  Just tell them up front:
  
  "Baby, I will see you but I can't be exclusive right now. If things work out, maybe."
  
  And just don't tell her about the 5 other girls your currently "seeing" - remember "seeing" people is different than "committed relationship". Don't do the latter, do the former.
  
  Get around the block, that way you can carefully make a informed choice on who you want to be with. Don't focus on one, spend time with 5 ladies. Rotate out the bad ones.
  
  In the dark ages, people had many kids because life expectancy wasn't very long. Sickness, plague, no medical establishment, so to maximize your chances of survival you had a lot of kids. Dating is kind of the same way.
  
  Maximize your odds.
  
  Pick from a larger pool and don't settle. Do not settle until you've had 10 great relationships, and 50 bad ones. Date all girls, no matter color, weight, race. You don't want to be stuck with one when you find out you have a BBW fetish later on.
  
  Don't be afraid to fire them either. I've dumped plenty of good women on a whim. Sometimes I felt like being alone so BAM! "Your fired bitch!"
  
  You sound smart and intelligent enough, intelligent enough to be picky. I mean who would you rather be if you died a year from now?
  
  A - The guy who ate his favorite dish over and over again.
  
  OR
  
  B - The guy who ate at every restaurant in the city?
  
  I recommend you eat a new dish every week. Diversify, experiment, code your black book and keep it a secret. Don't offer any information ever. If she ever asks you about it
  
  "Are you seeing other people?"
  
  Tell her, "I have friendly obligations to maintain." or "I don't want to talk about it."
  
  Your not being a scum bag "player" your being smart by playing a open field. Should you find the girl of your dreams and she really, really digs you then you can sign a exclusive contract but I advise against that.
  
  Live now.
  
  One day it will end and you will ask yourself, "Did I just have fun? Or did I really experience everything in full?"
  

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