• Battycat said on Sep 20, 2008....

  I think it depends on what was said, and how good or bad I'm feeling about myself at the time, but usually I'm pretty easy going, if its a true friend then I usually know it wasn't meant to hurt :-)

• hotaka said on Sep 20, 2008....

  I rarely have problems with friends because I know how they are and I know what to expect. Even my co-workers and managers, I know them so I know what to expect. I have sometimes been upset with one of my managers because of what she says to me or the way she speaks to me at times but the matter is dropped and... well, not forgotten but I don't harp on about it.

  My dear best friend and I have had the odd misunderstanding. I got quite angry once because he often seems to forget or ignore what I tell him and in that instance I told when I would be home and that I would call him but he called my father four or five times asking where I was. Hackels were raised when I confronted him about this but seeing the situation was potentially going to get blood boiling I toned it down and we settled the issue.

  Hey, I am not perfect and make mistakes. I want to be big enough to apologize when it's my fault and I am willing forgive quickly whe someone acknowledges their mistakes as well. I don't want to strain my precious relationships or live with a grudge for months.

• queenparanoia said on Sep 20, 2008....

  well that depends for me... but with a little thing like that i would easily let it go...

• Twylarants said on Sep 20, 2008....

  The fact that the friend thought you were being rude, plus the fact that they didn't understand as soon as you explained, would make me think this friend is either overly sensitive or just doesn't think much of you.
  It can be difficult to pick up nuances in a text message....it's happened to me. But my friend just asked me what I meant, because she knew I had no reason to hurt her feelings. The problem was I sent the text before I'd finished the sentence, accidentally. If she'd gone on and on about me being rude...well, at some point I would have become rude!
  I think your friend should have given you the benefit of the doubt immediately, and not ruined your day.
  
  

• uniquely-ironic said on Sep 20, 2008....

  Considering how many times I've had to go and apologize for my words and/or actions I try to let things go quickly.  I know how imperfect I am, so I think it's easy for me to see that others also have their "golden moments".  I'm also blessed with a bad memory ;)  I do, however, draw the line at deliberate cruelty and I may forgive them, but forgetting it is something I still struggle with.

• Eilan said on Sep 20, 2008....

  I'm not good at letting things go, but something like what you've described probably wouldn't bother me.  It's easy to misinterpret the written (or texted, I would imagine) word without the benefit of body language.

• skald said on Sep 20, 2008....

  I think this person who ever it is must be insecure. I am good at letting things go and i forget very quickly. 

• travelr712 said on Sep 20, 2008....

  personally, if i was on the receiving end, and was told it was just a joke, i would be relieved, and then laugh. i know this because it happens to me, and that's what i do. and i usually approach it with 'is this what you really meant?' but then, i've had years to figure out that people might not mean things the way i take them, and i wasn't always like this either.

• evil_twin said on Sep 20, 2008....

  It really depends on the situation whether or not I'm good or bad at letting things go. If something happened like this, where it really was a misunderstanding and it was explained to me as soon as I asked what was up, I would probably let it go. Especially if it was a good friend and I had no reason to think they'd be saying something rude to me. I'm pretty easygoing about stuff like that, because I've been guilty of saying something in jest, only to have a person take it seriously. And then I feel horrible.
  
  But with certain other things, like if a person really did say something awful to me, and it wasn't a mistake, I have a much harder time forgetting it and letting it go. I'm kind of annoying like that. I'll shut up about it, but it's always there in the back of my mind.
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• InvisablexWallflower said on Sep 20, 2008....

  i am absolutely terrible at letting things go. I try to, but when i get in a fight, everything that they did, and/or said  to me, comes up right back up, and i use it against them, sometimes i dont even notice it. Its in the heat of my anger that it gets the best of me....

• RollingC said on Sep 20, 2008....

  Like it's been said before....it's what was said and how it was said that sometimes gets one's blood up and feelings hurt. 
  Once it's done, then it's done and if at all possible it should be forgive and
  forget in order to save/maintain a friendship or relationship.
  By the same token I also realize that some things are unforgiven....
  at least for a period of time.  And one should always forgive.... even
  when you can't forget.
  Rc

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