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and another one bites the dust

phie posted on Sep 05, 2008 | views: 122 | Tags: Advice Please, rubbish boys, stupid brain, stupid mood, advice
so as my earlier post this week indicated ive been mentally torturing myself, and as you probably all guessed it was to do with a guy.
 
Quiet boy.
 
Ever since he went to leeds fest he's been acting weird.  i didnt see him for 10 days until last sunday (my birthday). so at first i thought the weirdness was just because we hadnt seen eachother and everything was over text/phone.
 
So i saw him sunday night, and as was to be expected he was been tortoise again, kinda shy but eventually he warmed up and all was good.  So i stayed at his that night but in the morning trhings were weird. It was like he didnt want me there, i felt like an absolute idiot!
 
Anyways i havent seen him since monday, and his weirdness on text's and online has continued, things like not saying bye and just disappearing, or just ignoring my text.
 
So last night he texts me, and its quite late so im a bit on edge by then any way. We send a few texts and then all of a sudden he disappears again, i know he has the message cos i get delivery reports. Half an hour goes by and im seriously going crazy, so i text him...
 
the following is our conversation...
 
Me "why do you never say bye anymore? you just disappear and drop conversations, if you've gone off me you need to tell me, its not fair not to xxxx"
 
Him "jeez i was just about to text u, why do u think i dnt like u ne more? xxxx"
 
Me "because you act differently towards me now. i noticed when i was at yours on monday, its like you dont want me around but you dont want to say xxxx"
 
45 minutes go by...
 
Him "i guess your in a bad mood? xxxx"
 
Me " did you not get my last text or are you purposely just ignoring my question? im not mad its just been uppsetting me and i need to know xxxx"
 
Him "course i still like you, but you make it sound like im not acting good enough and it makes me feel sad when you say that"
 
Me "of course your good enough, i wouldnt be bothered if i didnt like you so much. but youve started acting alot cooler towards me and its worried me cos you leave so soon xxxx"
 
45 mins still no reply
 
Me "I guess your mad now? im sorry its just me and my stupid insecurity, but i had to ask cos i was getting really upset. in future ill just keep quiet cos i really like you and dont ever want you to feel like you arent good enough, because you are far too good for me xxxx"
 
i hate myself for sending this message and he never replied.
we are talking right now via msn but nothing has been sorted and i still feel rubbish.
 
But what can i do?
 
help please a tortured and upset phie xxx
 
 
 


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  • secretlife said on Sep 05, 2008....
    stop texting him.  let him get in contact with you first.
    you are absolutely right phie, and it's not fair to have to wait 45 mn for a response when you're supposeably having a conversation.
     
    if he's interested in the least, he will contact you.
    and if he doesn't then you're much better knowing.
     
    don't torture yourself.  let him be tortured for a bit....
  • quietone said on Sep 05, 2008....
    I was going to say the same thing as secret.  All I would add, is don't ever think or say anyone is "far too good for you"!!!  That is just not true!
  • uniquely-ironic said on Sep 05, 2008....
    Let him prove he's still interested.  It's hard to sit and wait for it, but the alternative is that you chase him around and that makes the dynamics of the relationship change and it's not in your favor.
  • blondee0718 said on Sep 05, 2008....
    Phie...sounds like you are far too good for this boy.  The fact that he hasn't offered any explanation for the change in his demeanor, or apologized for making you feel bad, coupled with the fact that he's so damned inconsiderate in regards to returning messages makes me think this guy is a selfish prick (no offense).  You should never have to submit yourself to silence when you feel you aren't being treated with equality or respect.  Stand up for yourself Phie.  If things don't change soon, I'd t consider if this person is still worth all of your angst and frustration. 
  • phie said on Sep 06, 2008....

    thanks guy's im taking all this advice and putting into action from now, unfortunately i went out last night and text him first as i was a little out of myself shall we say but once again after two messages he seemed to fall off the face of the planet!

    Quiet/ unique/ secret im sure your advicee is gonna fix this problem one way or another, thanks you are all becoming my online mentors!!! but it is very very hard to sit around and wait to see what happens, and it gets more and more upsetting...

    blondee i can see where you are coming from with your impression of him being a prick but this behavious is sooo strange coming from him, and its not just me that thinks that its people that have known him for years, i think thhats what worries the most!

    i seem to bring out the worse in guys when it comes to relationships, im not sure what its is because i try to learn from each one and modify how i act but still the guys seem to turn...

    i dont know im soooo confused and angry with myse;f for letting this get to me so much and having such an effect on my mood, i thought id grown stronger but at least im battling with it.

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