• evil_twin said on Sep 04, 2008....

  I do believe online friendships are real. Very real. But unfortunately there are always people out there who don't feel as strongly about it. Or they don't take it seriously. But for me, those friendships are just as important as any friendship I have in real life. In fact, some of them are even more important to me.
  
  I'm really sorry though that something must have happened to question your faith in people like that :-( That sucks. I'm pretty trusting of people too and it can get you hurt....
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• uniquely-ironic said on Sep 04, 2008....

  What ET said, and I will add one small thought. 
   
  You are a gift to a true friend, with that soft and kind heart.  I'm sorry someone took advantage of it and hurt you.  I hope you find a way to protect your beautiful heart and soul.

• quietone said on Sep 04, 2008....

  oh, meems.   :(   {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}  you know I am real. 

• pusscat said on Sep 04, 2008....

  Hi there mimi
   
  Your description of yourself could have been written by me, about me :-)  It has taken me 4 decades to realise that it is not I that needs to change.  I am sensitive like you but, that is the only way sometimes we can see that others are hurting or needing our help.  That same sensitivity will always be tested to its limits I know. 
   
  I used to say to my friends "I wish I were tougher.  I'm gonna toughen up from now on".  Who was I trying to be?  Why should I change because there are ruthless and unscrupulous people out there?  If I change for them does that not mean they have won?
   
  i have realised that I am actually liked and loved for being me exactly the way i am. Don't get me wrong, I am not perfect by any means LOL.   Yes - I have been stabbed in the back.  Yes - I have been broken hearted.  Why, just recently a wonderful friendship, found right here on SC has been shattered.  Did I misjudge them?  Was I too naive and soft?  I may never know but I do know that I will not change for them.  I have to be true to myself.  I will get hurt again no doubt throughout my life but those 'hurts' are always far outweighed by the joys of the new friendships.
   
  I know someone has hurt you to have triggered this post but don't change who you are because of it.  I know how much our sensitive natures can be bruised.  We will analyse until the cows come home trying to work out what we did wrong.  Be true to yourself and the real true friendships that are formed will stay forever.  Those that don't hang around?  There loss :-)

• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Sep 04, 2008....

  
  MissyMims :( I sent a PM a while ago because I was afraid I would not be able to string words intelligibly.
  
  Kyle had already said it much more articulately than I could ever do.
  
  What I could share perhaps is words that I told to Piet a year ago, when he said "...you made me open up again because I admired your openness".  Well, I replied... almost the same words you wrote....
  
  
  I've always been sensitive.  Deeply, sometimes recklessly, emotional.  I used to be (in my case, I still am!) naive, and hopelessly idealistic. 
  
  I need to toughen up.  I need to not believe in the goodness of people quite so much.  I need to stop investing so much of myself too quickly. 
  
  I went on that I have been hurt so many times but I still went on trusting because for the 15 people I did trust and who hurt me eventually in one form or another, I almost always have one that is a treasure...and that makes it worth it.
  
  You are so much of a treasure...
  
  (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((huggies)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
  
  I have been meaning to blog about all the friends online I got to meet in RL (not to mention, my love Piet... I will hurry up and post it for you...I know you will like it <3 and I have never ever been so bold as to say such in SC *blush*)
  
  What I wanted to say above is... I consider meeting friends online not so different from RL (I am naive forgive me), from my experience it is even more intense and real.
  
  Perhaps you would not recall it anymore...but when I got hurt here in SC (now, it seems like a lifetime and not so significant like it was when it happened), you have helped me... and said, people who do not appreciate you, does not earn any of your attention (paraphrased)... that I should focus on the ones that do appreciate me for who I am.
  
  I will be your friend as long as you want me to be (and even if you don´t :P ....i will stalk you! LOL *joke*.... remember i was called that gah lol...it does not hurt now  :) )
  
  I still visualise our meeting in RL, one day soon :)... perhaps with Nora Roberts between us!!! If one will visualise, it should be a cinematic, don´t you think!
  
  omigosh... i blah , i blah again
  
  but i blubbbbb blubbb you , you see and this is me in real :)
  
  <333333333333333
  
  joanna
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

• Alyss said on Sep 04, 2008....

  Dear  Mimi, I don't know what has happened to upset you so and wish that it hadn't. =(

• pickersplock said on Sep 04, 2008....

  MissMimi, some are.......some aren't.
  Most aren't.
  It's hard to be friends with a computer screen, but if you wait long enough, the truth is always revealed. 
   Your true friends will communicate with you and treat you with respect on a consistent basis.
  As my dad used to say, "Time will tell all."
  Try not to give too much, away until it does.

• Mamie said on Sep 04, 2008....

  aw, crap, if someone hurt your feelings then I am sorry for your pain...I am real and am here if you wanna chat...and here if you want me to just shut up and sit here [mamie curls up her feet on the couch and just waits....till whenever....]
  xo, m

• secretlife said on Sep 04, 2008....

  mimi: i do know what you mean about trusting too quickly or too easily and getting hurt.  it's just natural for some people to trust-  to see or "believe" in the goodness of everyone.
   
  i guess you could be cynical-  i guess you could say that experiences have taught you to be cautious- that enough is enough of having your feelings hurt.  that you're just plain sick of disappointment.  at various times in my life, i have certainly felt all of those things.
   
  but you know what?  i think being cynical is sad-  it's far worse than seeing the best even if you're imagining it....lol
   
  i'm sorry someone hurt you.  but i hope you don't change the "you" i see- the kind, big-hearted, and oh-so-funny woman that anyone/anywhere would be proud to call "friend"-
   

• skald said on Sep 04, 2008....

  That is what I have always said and felt, all you have is you and we must take our friends like they are. 

• bluegum said on Sep 04, 2008....

  g'day Mimi hope today is a good day for you ,i know today is going to be a good day for me .Kinross is coming home tonight, been away helping with family matters.In my way of thinking there are friends on the net who are real.
   
  Blue.
   

• botoni said on Sep 04, 2008....

  Mimi!  One of the qualities I most admire about you is your deep sensitivity and your willingness to reach out to others.  I agree that online friends can have the ability to hurt just as RT friends can hurt.  (You're other greatly admired talent is your MSA - translated is "Master of Smart Ass").  I believe for every scar you recieve from a hurt you also recieve a treasure in friendship from another.  All of life is a risk.  Without it we would be stagnant.  If I may advise, never stop taking the risk and always seek the treasure that is nearby.  You are far to sweet and wonderful to be mis-treated but when you are let it run off you like teflon when you look at all the truly beautiful friends you've made here.

• woman said on Sep 04, 2008....

  All of your friends have said it beautifully. You are a sweet sensitive woman with a sense of humor. Please stay that way. Would it really be better to be someone you aren't to avoid the possibility of being hurt? Please read the words of Secret and Bot again. And all the other dear SoulCasters.

• gingersoul said on Sep 04, 2008....

  MimiBelle.........you wouldn't be you if you didn't have these feelings and worries...
  You have such a huge heart....its very easy getting hurt when one is sensitive and generous like you are.
  
  From my experience, up to now i have to say that  none of the online relationships i have had have been negative.
  
  And how can i be cynical about this matter? After all I met here a very special friend. One of my best friends, actually. One who held my and and helped me through my emotional turmoil and depression for almost 2 years. I hope to see him here again but our connection is not lost in real life.
  
  I also met other caring, supportive, overall great people who make me feel their sincerity. One of them is you.
  
  I am sorry if you got hurt..... but, remember,  one bad apple doesn't make the whole basket rotten....{{{hugs}}}
  

• belleabientot said on Sep 04, 2008....

  I suppose that's why they say everything in moderation?  It's that realization that just because we're willing to give doesn't mean others are either ready to accept or to understand how to reciprocate in turn -- and maybe, more often than not, we have to find a way to be okay with that.
   
  *Sends a happy thought and a smile*
   
   

• MissMimi said on Sep 04, 2008....

  It always surprises me a little, how supportive a community SC is.  I thank you for all the kind comments and for the PMs I've received since I posted this.  This is one of those posts that had I waited a little bit and calmed down some, I would never have written.  As a matter of fact, the computer froze as soon as I hit Publish, and I thought it had disappeared into the black hole of eaten posts. 

  I do want to respond individually to each of you very soon, probably later tonight when I'm wide awake at 3 in the morning.

• MissMimi said on Sep 05, 2008....

  e_t , thank you.  You're always very kind to me.

  uni, thank you.  {{{hugs}}}

  quilty, yes, you most certainly are, and a good friend.  {{{hugs}}}

  pc, I'm sorry you lost a friend, But I wouldn't want you to change either.

  Paperdoll, you make me remember why you make me smile when I see you post and comment.  Thank you.  {{{hugs}}}

  Alyss, thank you.  {{{hugs}}}

  pickers, your dad was right.  Time does tell all.

  Mamie, my cheerleader warrior friend.  I know what a good person you are. [sits down next to Mamie and offers chocolate]

  secret, thank you for the very nice things you said.  :)

  skald, those are very wise words.  Thank you.  :)

  bluegum, I hope you had a good day.  :)

  Botty, I might have known you would make me laugh.  Master of Smart Ass...  LOL  Thank you, my friend.

  gingerpeach, thank you.  I'm glad you had a good friend who helped you through a bad time.  The support of a friend always helps.

  belleabientot, i really liked what you had to say.  Thank you for sharing it with me.  And welcome to my blog.  :)

• Battycat said on Sep 05, 2008....

  So sorry if someone has hurt you, you are a great friend to many on here, look at all the comments to this post, and all the others you'e comments you've written, and you can tell from the comments you write too. ((((((((hugs)))))))))

• RollingC said on Sep 05, 2008....

  I'm sorry if anything happened to make you question your faith in humanity. 
  I go with E T 's comment. 
  Hang in there Mimi....there's lots of good people and there's lots of bad people.  The good people outnumber the bad but you still run into them once in awhile.
  You've got a friend,
  :^)
  Rc
  

• Mamie said on Sep 05, 2008....

  when you're down and troubled....and you need a helping hand...and nothing, nothing is going right....lalalalala.....you are so loved!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

• hugecock! said on Sep 05, 2008....

  I think you want to be my good *friend and close to me,but don't know how to tell me...

• truthsayer said on Sep 05, 2008....

  MissMimi, you know that I am not big on public displays of affection...but here goes...this hug's for you!
   
  ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
   
  I have no idea what that will look like when I push "submit comment"; but I know that you'll know what I mean by it!!!
   
  Love, LOVE, LOVE!!!
   
  Always,
   
  Truthsayer : D

• truthsayer said on Sep 05, 2008....

  Okay...How about this??? ; )
   
  (((((((((((((((((HHHHHHHHHHHUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGG))))))))))))))))))) x infinity
   
  That should "look better" ; )
   
  Your friend in space,
   
  Truth : )

• badasianmom said on Sep 05, 2008....

  I know a lot of people who have made friendships online. And enemies too. I totally understand the desire to delve too deeply into emotions, and share your innermost thoughts and feelings, too. Unfortunately, in real life, this seems to scare people off.
  
  I also used to be naive and idealistic. Then I found out the hard way that people generally are self-centered and have their own agendas. And very few people really get to know who your are and love you for it.
  

• BRITTANY_SPEARS said on Sep 05, 2008....

  Hi girlfriend!

• MissMimi said on Sep 05, 2008....

  Batty, thank you.  {{{hugs}}} right back atcha.

  RC, it looks like I have found a lot of good people here.  :)

  Mamie, you just call out my name, and you know wherever I am, I'll come running...

  huge...  I'm sure that must be it.  Nice try.  ;)

  Truth, LOL, That's some kinda hug! 

  BRITTANY, How are you, you little minx?   Heard from K Fed lately?

• hugecock! said on Sep 05, 2008....

  I recieved your private message!( (:0}) ) WOW!

• BRITTANY_SPEARS said on Sep 05, 2008....

  NO...K-FED is a creep!

• vacantmind said on Sep 05, 2008....

  You just described me perfectly.

• MissMimi said on Sep 05, 2008....

  BAmom, I am such a dope -- so sorry I completely missed you!  I agree that very few people get to know the real you.  But it would be exhausting to try to be best friends/soulmates with everyone in the whole world.

• SensualGirl said on Sep 05, 2008....

  Meems, if I were not real it would be a great help. . .LOL!  I would not have all this identity crisis shit that I am going through at the moment. 
   
  But you know I am here for you in my limited state of being.  And sorry for being such a rubbish friend.  You deserve better.
   
  ((((hugs))))
  ~Sensual Girl~

• polarheart said on Sep 05, 2008....

  Meemsie, I ditto Sensual Girl above. . .her and I feel the same way ;-)

  Much love

  Polar xoxoxoxoxoxoxox

• MissMimi said on Sep 05, 2008....

  huge...  stop that!  Fibbing is not nice!

  BRIT, oops, my bad.  :)

  vacant, oh, so we share a brain too?  I wish I was a little thicker skinned.

  girliecakes,  you are NOT a rubbish friend!  {{{hugs}}}

  anon, I deleted your "comments".  Take it elsewhere.

• MissMimi said on Sep 05, 2008....

  pcakes, you and SG seem to be a lot alike!  ;)

• silver_phoenix said on Sep 05, 2008....

  hey there MissMimi!! how are you today?? I just want you to know that I care too! =P

• queenparanoia said on Sep 06, 2008....

  missmimi: my online friends are real to me too... ;-) and i'm glad youre one of them... ;-)

• silverwhisper said on Sep 07, 2008....

  mimi, of course your friendships are real--the emotional context and investment we all make in them are just as real as if you were interacting with someone you were talking with physically.
  
  you once mentioned long ago about a situation in which your willingness to trust created a problem. but do you know something?
  
  such people will always be there. i think the true question here is whether you will allow bad experiences in so few circumstances dictate who you are.
  
  [hug]
  
  ed

• Mamie said on Sep 08, 2008....

  hey Meemee, I have been thinking about this post alot...and how in the end all you have is you. It;s true, but I also think in the beginning all you had was you too...and so we must change the saying to be said: "I complete me' so that all is in perfect balance and we can freely give to others knowing that that which we give freely is always returned to us in double...sure this is easy for me to say in a strong moment...remind me i said this later on when i am crying that so and so hasn't supported me lately....:))

  enjoy the day, Meems! Mames

• botoni said on Sep 10, 2008....

  If we have to be naive to believe that we can have valuable cyber friends...
  Then I am happy that we are both naive...

• MissMimi said on Sep 10, 2008....

  Me too, booty.  :)  {{{{{hugs}}}}}

  Mames, in a perfect world this would be so.  I complete me and you complete you, so we should each send each other half of ourselves and then we would be schizophrenic and have multiple personalities.  Huh?

  Ed, yep, that experience still stings and has made me a little less trusting unfortunately.

  queenie, thank you, sweetpea.  I'm glad you're here too.  :)

  phoenix, hello!  How are you enjoying your SC adventure?

   

• botoni said on Sep 11, 2008....

  Just for the sake of confusion someone we know was using my profile to comment on this post MissMimi.  The French accent doesnt show at all does it?

  Mamie and Mimi I'm officially granting you new names.  You will hereafter be known as Skitz and Fren.

• MissMimi said on Sep 11, 2008....

  Really?  I didn't notice the accent.  :)   He was lurking incognito -- cool!  :)

  Love, Fren

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