Tears are the medium that help pain to ease. Floods of tears are not always enough. When the pain is as huge as the mountains and the tears are as strong as glaciers miracles of healing can happen but just like the great gorges the resulting smoothness and beauty takes time. A whole lot of time.
Guy and I spent nine days together in his new home in Victoria. Getting to know him is a beautiful experience. In spite of his sorrow over the loss of his lover and soulmate his true self shows through the tears. He is an amazing and accomplished man who has been brought to his knees by a cruel and unfair auto accident that whisked away the life of 'B'. In Guys' life he has surmounted incredible difficulties in order to gain both a degree in engineering and an MBA. He is a survivor of cruel abuse. He is a strong and resiliant man who has an amazing ability to overlook his childhood and forgive those who raised him with such uncaring abandon.
He has risen above challenges that would leave most of us incapable of progress. Then he was struck with the sudden loss of the man who offered him the love that he had been denied him all his life. The aftermath of that tragedy has been needlessly cruel. The family of 'B' have been less than kind even though there are some who have offered a minimal attempt at comfort. Even more concerning is the physical pain that Guy is having. Since shortly after the accident Guy has had pain below his sternum. It is constant and becomes more emphasized when he eats. Some bland foods produce the least pain. He has had a whole battery of tests and blood work done with no clear results. I think his grief is creating the pain.
He will see another physician tomorrow with the hope that there is something that will help. He reads my posts and the comments recieved. Many of you have already expressed kindness for him in my other posts but please keep on encouraging him here. He needs to know that others care about him.
We spent a lot of time in tears while we were together for those few days. He learned half of one of my life policies. No one barfs or cries in my presence without me pitching in to help. Bless all of you and him too.
