My dad is too wishy washy.  He sees my husband and I arguing and says we have a lack of communication, which for all intents and purposes is true.  We're working on it though, and despite my other posts, getting better at it as of late.  My dad knows this.  Yet apparently he still doesn't think I'm doing it right.  Here's the statement I was trying to say to my husband earlier today:

 

"If you wouldn't mind, could you go grab the laundry out of the dryer.  You can do it now, or you can do it later when dad goes downstairs to put his load in.  Then I need you to go out into the yard, dump the pink water bucket, rinse it and refill it for the dog."

 

Here is what I got out:

 

"If you wouldn't mind, could you go grab the laundry out of the dryer.  You can do it now."

 

Before I could finish dad pipes in with:

 

"You don't have to do it right now, you may as well wait until I go get my load.(1) Then you need to take care of the dog water(2)."

 

1.  He had attitude when he said this as if he were pissed off that I had told him to do the laundry RIGHT then, when I didn't, I was just telling him if he wanted to grab it right then he could or he could wait.  Was I given the chance to say this, NO.

2.  My husband had no clue what my dad and I had just been talking about.  My dog has 2 water buckets, one in her kennel, the other right next to the main entrance gate to the yard. 

 

My husband had no idea he was to empty the pink water bucket in the kennel, so he goes out and takes the blue water bucket into the kennel and completely ignores the pink water bucket.  Then my dad has the audacity to get pissy and spit out that he'd just "go out and take care of the fucking dog water." 

 

Ok, first, my husband had no clue what was going on....second, he's a little slow on the uptake sometimes so he needs a little more detail to some tasks...had my dad let me say what I was intending to my husband he'd have done what he needed to.  Instead, dad had to butt in because apparently I wasn't telling him fast enough or the right way.  So not only did he get pissy, but I got pissy because my husband should've had enough presence of mind to realize 'OH, we never put the blue bucket in the kennel.'  or 'Ok, maybe I should check the SECOND bucket that's now in the kennel since I just added another and normally don't have to.' 

 

So because my dad can't just butt the fuck out he about got us into an argument.  Although, I did curb myself because I knew it wasn't 100% my husband's fault...but that scenario would've never even occurred had I been given the chance to say what I was going to.  Why do families have to butt into relationships so much?!