My last post on porn, got me thinking about morality, ethics and social behaviour.
I live in England, and in many ways I am proud of my country's free thinking, it has enabled has to have a broader view, and understand social behaviour from many cultures.
In the last hundred years, society has changed immensley, beyond recognition, some might say, however has morality changed? Do most of us have similar morals?
By what I write you may think that I have lived a sheltered life, sadly and paradoxicly gladly I have not. I have exposed myself to many things, I have seen and experienced life at times on the edge, I have shocked myself at my own capabilites and tested my own morality to its limits, however, I have I feel come back to the centre of my own morality.
Why? well, I feel that when I was young I had a strick but hypocritical father and a very conformist mother. They instilled certain values and morals into my thought processes very early on. However some of their teachings made me feel claustraphobic. At sixteen, because of my fathers domination and violent outbursts I ran away. I broke the ties that bound me, I did however at times miss the safe haven of their enviornment and their boundaries. Their boundaries gave me pointers that helped me feel normal, without these I was at times a lost child.
I could never go back to being their little girl again, and over time I had my own children, but still I pushed out the bounderies, I became the hypocrit, saying one thing and doing another.
It was at a very low point in my life about seven years ago, that I started to realise some of their morals had actually become mine, I felt safe inside these morals, when I tried to fight against these morals, I became confused and frightened. I had seen some disturbing things. Friends using drugs everyday, neglecting their children, living in squaler, behaving like animals and not having a care in the world for anyone else. I realised that even though I had faught against my morals, I needed to realign myself, into a world whereby I felt safe for me and safe for my children.
I decided to stop pushing out the boundaries and testing my morals, and to start living life in a way that felt safe for me and to re-educate myself.
My whole life has changed for the better, I see things in a different way, I know things instead of just thinking I know things, because I have tried them, but I have come to the conclusion that the best path for me is learning new skills that will help others.
Knowledge brings choice, and choice brings freedom.
I would love to hear from anyone who has tested their own morals, who has been to their own personal hell and back. I eagerly await your thoughts.
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missfickle posted on Aug 17, 2006
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Weird_World said on Aug 17, 2006....
IMHO I think that morality is relative... Somethings are accepted in some societies, while they wont be accepted in other societies... But some are universal wrongs... They cant (and shouldnt) be accepted in any society, no matter what... In the end morality becomes, what you make of it... You should live with your standard of ethics, not what the world thrusts on you... Adious S -
missfickle said on Aug 17, 2006....
Thank you weird world, I think that is what I have come to realise as I have evolved, after all life is about evolving and learning. Ironically I rejected the ones that were thrusted upon me, only to embrace some of them again as I got older. Does fear play a part in morality? xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx -
Weird_World said on Aug 17, 2006....
No actually I dont think so... The truth is that when we are forced to do something, we usually try to go against it... The basic rebellion in all of us... So I cant say its fear, it is more of rebelling... Adious S -
silverwhisper said on Aug 17, 2006....
miss fickle: you know, it seems to me that the title doesn't fit you particularly well--you seem rather grounded, actually. i want to think some more about how i respond. it's an important matter, and i want to give it the proper amount of thought. ed -
missfickle said on Aug 17, 2006....
Weird world, your comments are for want of a better word 'weird' as I was just thinking about rebellion as I logged on! I am thought of as a rebel by my parents and many of my friends, most rebels though just have inquisitive minds, and do not accept things they are told at face value, experience is the best teacher I feel. Fear does play a part in morality in some people maybe, the ones who just accept what is told to them. Thank you weird world. I wrote this poem a long time ago and it seems very apt for you;- Is weirdness an illusion? or is it really there? try to look inside it, don't worry if you stare, Cos to have a taste of wierdness makes me wonder if? Life is really like this or is it all a myth? (WR 1994) -
missfickle said on Aug 17, 2006....
Silverwhisper, so many people have labled me as fickle, but you may have seen beyond the myth and had a glimpse of the reality. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx -
feather'd_One said on Aug 17, 2006....
"Consistency requires you to be as ignorant today as you were a year ago." - Bernard Berenson Nice to meet you, missfickle :o) [Would like to add some words of my own, but the above quote just jumped into my mind when reading your last comment, and it seemed fitting... it could take me forever to verbalize my thoughts too, so... allowing Bernard to speak for me for now - whoever he was! - and trust you will get my meaning] -
missfickle said on Aug 17, 2006....
Brilliant, thanks for that thought nice to meet you too xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx -
Weird_World said on Aug 17, 2006....
Weirdness is my inherent nature... I am outwardly a pretty sane person, but when it comes to the inside, I am truly messed up, thats why my "world" is "weird"... But when we come of a certain age, we have to create eveything of our own, starting with morality and ethics... Heck we need some beliefs to live by, so we start believing in something, or leave things alone... In my entire life, there was nothing where I could have rebelled, because I was the youngest in four, and everything has been seen and done, so I didnt do anything... Just tried to survive being in world which made me more lost anything else... Weirdness is not I want for a quality, it is something I would love to get rid of... I am just a truobled soul... Like all of us... Looking for some direction to make us feel human (whatever that is) again... Adious S -
missfickle said on Aug 18, 2006....
Ah, I realy felt for you then, I have many times been labelled, either weird, a witch, fickle etc. I have felt things that have made me feel strange and upset. But I now accept who I am. I hope you find your way WW. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx -
Weird_World said on Aug 18, 2006....
Hey missfickle Dont need to worry about me... I am o.k.... I am old enough to understand myself well enough... Anyways thanks for understanding... I rarely get it... Take care Adious S
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