• Weird_World said on Aug 17, 2006....

  Hey durian, why do you think that you are so bad... hey you are not... reaching out to people, any way even through soulcast, makes that a fact... if you want to help people, how can you be bad?? even though I dont have any enemies, because I believe that hating someone is a waste of time, I think I have lots of people who would call me their enemy... does it really matter what people think of you?? in the end what really matters is what your loved ones think of you... my sister and I almost fight everyday, but I dont think she hates me... a fight neccessarily doesnt have to denote hatred... take care... Adious S

• pinkjellybeans said on Aug 17, 2006....

  Your sister will have called you worse names than your enemies have - and than you have called your enemies - because she loves and cares about you! We always try that much harder to hurt those closest to us when we argue. If we didn't care, we wouldn't even spend any time or energy on arguing. Also, you are a good person. Even I - a stranger - know this. Your sister AND God will know this, too. PinKjellyBeans

• ALIENated said on Aug 17, 2006....

  Making enemies is easy. Making friends if hard. It is that simple. We all have the same problem except for a few. IMHO

• quidnunc said on Aug 17, 2006....

  your recent fight with your sister is just one of those episodes which, in the end, will definitely strenghten your relationship... no, you're not evil...

• durianshortcake said on Aug 17, 2006....

  WW, actually, the people I call my enemies are the people who hate me. But honestly, I don't hate them. Because like you, I think hating someone is just a waste of time and energy (it makes me weak thinking about hatred). And that is what makes them hate me more. When they are in the middle of their litany, I just walk away. Btw, I'm sure that my sister hates me. It's not just a simple fight. It seemed that she had been holding grudges against me for the longest time. Yeah, what matters is what our loved ones think of us. She thinks I am worthless. Maybe she's right. I don't hate her though, but I've promised myself that I would forget about her. From now on, I don't have a sister. PJB, what she told me was totally unforgiveable. It's an understatement to say that I am hurting. If not for a friend's reminder that it is a mortal sin, I swear, I could've killed her just to make her stop. AN, I think you're right. It's easier to make enemies than make friends. The only consolation I have in this fight is I have [i]true friends[/i] who has always been here for me for more than a decade already. She doesn't. There may be people who hate me. But I have friends. My sister has only a few enemies, but she has no one to call a true friend. Maybe that is why she had kept all those hatred to herself. Anyway, thank you guys. I really appreciate the kind words. See you around.

• durianshortcake said on Aug 17, 2006....

  Quid, I don't think I would ever be willing to see her again. I'd rather die than make peace with her. That's what makes me evil. But, thank you for believing that I'm not.

• sigroid75 said on Aug 17, 2006....

  I used to fight a lot with my brother when we were young. he was born 9 years younger than me, and being an only child for a long time before he came, his birth was a struggle. But now we are good friends. we both have strong faith in God and i think that is the stronger tie that binds us, more than our physical one. man may be inherently evil because of sin, but don't ever think that God cannot change that. seek Him, sister.:-)

• quidnunc said on Aug 17, 2006....

  durian: magbabago pa ng isip mo. i'm sure you'd still want to see your sister soon... in fact sooner than later...

• cbrain said on Aug 17, 2006....

  I think we all have bad sides in ourselves. Nobody is perfect, and I don't believe that you are evil. Sibling rivalry is way tooo common in a family. Maybe in due time both of will soon forget about it. Just take time to leave a space for forgiveness, best of all confide Up There.

• Weird_World said on Aug 17, 2006....

  durian Dont worry your sister will come around... One my sisters is six years elder than me and one is ten, and when I retreat into my shell, I also end up saying a lot of things which I am not supposed to say, and I know is hurting them, but they also know that life is hurting is me like hell.. But they forgive... Do the same forgive and forget, she is family, it doesnt matter what she said, or what else she might say in future... Adious S

• durianshortcake said on Aug 18, 2006....

  Sig, we also had countless fights while we were growing up. But nothing compares to this one. I don't even know if it can be categorized as sibling rivalry. Quid, I know I may sound like a stubborn child, but I really find it difficult to forgive. I've blogged about that in my topic on ||{1}||. The thing about me is, I love to the fullest. I give my all. So when I get hurt, I hurt to the fullest, too. I don't know why, but I'm not the type of person who's used to giving situations [i]second chances[/i]. Before I make decisions, I make sure that they're final. So even in a big fight, I never say things that I know I'll regret in the future. I'm numb to provocations so even if they hurl curses at me, they wouldn't make me throw the same curses at them. I just walk away and forget about them. cbrain, I don't think forever will ever be enough to heal this. I think I'll just have to close my doors on her for life. I just hope God forgives me. I'm leaving it all up to Him. If He wants us to patch things up, then He'll have to initiate it. I will never ever do. WW, I can forget. No problem about that. But I don't think I can forgive. Maybe I should just find someone who's willing to become my sister. Hehe. I think I should do that sometime. Again, thanks to you all.

• sigroid75 said on Aug 19, 2006....

  here's a *HUG* to comfort you...hope you will
  be able to patch things up...
  

• durianshortcake said on Aug 21, 2006....

  Sig, a BIG thank-you for the hug! *Hugs sig back*
  

• RollingC said on Sep 09, 2006....

  Never say never DS. I understand were you're coming from as I've had a fallout (bigtime) with my older brother and younger sister. It's been now 5yrs or so and I'm really not missing them at all but I wish them the best...hatred is a waste of time and energy. And besides, it all bounces back to you (believe it or not). Sure I wish it could've been different but when people try to impose their will on you by force, it shouldn't surprise anyone when barriers come up and stay up. However this doesn't have to be the case with you or anyone else for that matter.
  hugs and keep positive
  

• RollingC said on Sep 09, 2006....

  oh and Evil? I think not. It's going to take more than that to make you evil....
  .... :)
  

• durianshortcake said on Sep 13, 2006....

  RollingC, thank you!
  

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