• dailyachesandpains said on Aug 30, 2008....

  Polarkins!!!!  You are NOT a bad person, you are NOT a weak person, you are NOT a sinful person and who doesn't have evil desires? 
   
  I sure must have missed something in your posts!  If it involves SC, don't let it get to you IRL...PLEASE!
   
  You are a loving and caring person!  You go out of your way to do such kind things for others (including me)!  I still have that card you sent me out of the blue!  It brought tears to my eyes to have that and to treasure that in my time of need. 
   
  {{{{HUGS}}}}
  Daily

• crybabylu said on Aug 30, 2008....

  I guess I have been out of it too long!

  Who is judging you?

  You are a sweetie, cutie, wonderful person, I always enjoy reading your posts, so i don't get it that you are being judged.

  You remind me of a daughter.  Full of life, vitality, and joy.  Follow your heart, it won't let you  down.   Love ya.....Dee

• MissMimi said on Aug 30, 2008....

  Oh pcakes...  It breaks my heart to hear that you feel this way.  I wish I knew what to do to help you.  Who judges you?  People here?  Let me at 'em if they do. 

  You are not bad.  You are not weak.  What you want and desire is not bad or evil, I promise. 

  Come and sit with me and tell me what's weighing so heavily on your heart.  {{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}

• RollingC said on Aug 30, 2008....

  Hey Polar....come here please.... ((((( HUG )))))
  Who the heck is judging you huh? Someone who wishes she (I'm guessing) was as good as you?
  Well let me pass my judgment over you then :
  HEAR YE....HEAR YE.....   
   I pronounce you, POLARHEART aka SENSUAL GIRL  one HOT MOMMA & A SEXY WOMAN...So I declare !
  
  And on top of that you are a wonderful person and a good and caring friend.
  
  d:^)
  
  Rc
  

• phie said on Aug 30, 2008....

  if some one judging you didnt bother you, you wouldnt be human. or any female specie for that matter!
   
  im gonna quote (roughly) from scrubs- dont laugh its wisdom!!!
   
  "isn't it funny that no matter what you acheive in life, inside you there is always that insecure teenage girl looking for acceptance?"
   
  thats from elliot if you have ever seen scrubs!
   
  oh and im gonna judge you on this blog... i pronounce judgement that polar is clearly a good person as even though she knows those judging her are time wasters and not worth it she still wants to please them
   
  (((hug)))

• gingersoul said on Aug 30, 2008....

  Pollie.....girl, you have to learn to thoughen up your skin.
  
  Then you will see that what you feel being so negative about you doesn't come from you but from the outside...
  
  You have to learn to make those evil looks bounce back from you ....
  You have been living a pleasing-people-good appareance life and probably felt accepted in doing so...when you started to shed your layers acting and showing yourself - the core of who you really are - the environment in which you live tried to suck you back.
  
  Its all up to you now. Since you have recognized the pressure from the outside......are you going to resist and stay true to yourself?
  
  If so.....shrug your shoulder when you hear o read negative comments....if they come  from somebody here at Sc....dont read, delete, let them go in their broth of Nothing...
  If the come to you from your real life ...learn how to react. I would suggest a big smile and a big 'Whatever" on you lips. It works miracle.
   
  I think that at this point you know that here the people who likes you really do like you. Pollie or SG that you are....
  This should give you an incentive to be yourself also outside of SC...{{{{hugs}}}}
  

• queenparanoia said on Aug 30, 2008....

  i know what you mean... but you know what fuck them!!! who needs them big sister!!!

  remember that many people love you as you are...

  so dont be down at yourself okay???

• travelr712 said on Aug 30, 2008....

  aww poley :(

• uniquely-ironic said on Aug 30, 2008....

  you are no more bad and/or sinful than the person next to you.  someone passing judgement on you is so very painful.  it's probably the worst trespass you can commit towards another person. 
   
  I think you're a wonderful person.  If nothing else, one person in the world thinks the world of you.  Though I'd bet your hubby and son also think the world of you.

• dyingman said on Aug 30, 2008....

  I am a bad person, I am a weak person, I am a sinful person with evil desires. 
  
  All the same I'm told folks like us deserve some sympathy.
  Sometimes referred to as "mercy".
  
  I'm content trying to be less awful than I would be if I didn't care.
  I do okay.
  Maybe you do too.
  
  Slackburger with cheese.  Order for two.  Maybe more.)
  
  

• BreatheUnderwater said on Aug 30, 2008....

  maybe this sounds a little corny but : what people say about you, usually says more about them then about you...i think deep down you know you are not that bad..and if you let go the need of other people's approval..you will see it's allright to be who you are..
   

• Zayda said on Aug 30, 2008....

  Pollie: I think I missed your SG rant; I haven't been around much at all because I've been so busy. (And unfortunately, I'm too busy to easily catch up right now or perhaps for some time.)
  
  
  But, you are so not a bad person. Not at all.
  
  
  Those desires that you have--the embracing of your sexual and sensuous side are perfectly natural. There's nothing wrong with them.
  
  
  And Breathe is right, the negative things people are saying reveals more about the people saying those things than they do about you at all.

• day2day said on Aug 30, 2008....

  hi polar,  We all get judged, wether we know it or not. They said, he said, she said, it's all the same. And, yeah it's not right. It's all human nature.  But some of us live long enough to not really care about negative comments about ourselves.    It just shows you who they are and what they're made of. Then, you judge them. Do i really want to be friends with this person?   Me? Personally i don't have many friends. Lots of aquaintances, few friends.  As long as you know the truth. That is what you go by.

  day

• cuppajava said on Aug 30, 2008....

  
  Polar.....please get over here right now and explain to me who is talking like this about you.....? You are not a bad person.You are one of the sweetest,kindest,REAL people i have 'met' on this site.
  Please tell me who it is that has hurt you so?
  Breathe' has got a VERY good point

• truthsayer said on Aug 30, 2008....

  Why???  What happened???  What did I miss???  Tell me. Remember Truthsayer, your friend?  
  
  
  Me  

• evil_twin said on Aug 30, 2008....

  I'm really not sure who has hurt you like this, but you are not bad or weak or sinful at all. You're just a person. And I'm sorry that you're feeling this way :-( But obviously lots of people here give a flying fuck because they're here supporting you. Including me. I hope you feel better soon. No one has the right to judge anyone else, because none of us are perfect.
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• Battycat said on Aug 30, 2008....

  I don't know why you feel so bad, I wish you didn't (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

• husbandhater said on Aug 30, 2008....

  Did Polar leave the room and some secretly finished the blog under her name and pressed the submit button? This in no way sounds like the Polar we all know and Love. We are all sinners,we all have weak moments,and evil desires do occassionally happen. I'm having some about my bosses. Polar don't beat yourself up. Whatever happened it will be o.k. Cheer up!

• woman said on Aug 30, 2008....

  I don't understand this post and it seems that some others don't either, so I don't feel so bad. I have never seen anything here that indicates you are a bad person. As far as desires, we all have them, it is part of the human condition. I hope you feel better soon and experience the joy that is all around you Polar.

• newbeginnings said on Aug 30, 2008....

  Polarheart: i dont know whats going on but you sound sad, you are great, you have been a really supportive friend here to me, so you cant be bad, dont take any notice of any one who wants to judge you. reading all the commnets here should convinve you , we all think youre great xx nb

• junioreditor said on Aug 30, 2008....

  Oh, poo on them! We will edit them right off this site!
  

• fearing said on Aug 30, 2008....

  Wait just a minute Missy!  I came back here to post this comment to you - Don't make me come over there.  Hon, I hope you are feeling better by the time you read this. 
  
  I also hope you know people love you and care. 
  No one said you had to be perfect.  It's okay to actually be human sometimes.
  
  love and hugs, Fearing.
  

• lionesss said on Aug 30, 2008....

  hiya polar,who ever it is or what ever it is  just ignore them,while iv been here you have been very kind to me and i think your lovely so take no notice xx (hugs) lionesss

• CreativeWoman said on Aug 30, 2008....

  polar,
  I'm not sure what has happened either.  I do hope you are feeling better by now.  Hang in there.
  
  CW
  

• Lucytorial said on Aug 31, 2008....

  Polly... this sensativity needs to stop.... on yourself.. gosh honey you know that you aren't any of those things you call yourself.  However you could become them if you keep saying them, so stop it!
   

• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Aug 31, 2008....

  
  ((((((((((((((((huggies)))))))))))))))))
  
  <3
  
  joanna
  
  
  

• chizad40 said on Aug 31, 2008....

  A HUGE PART OF YOUR HEART BEING SORE IS HOW HARSH YOU ARE ON YOURSELF. YOU WON'T EVER BE "UNSORE" IF YOU THINK OF YOURSELF LIKE THIS. I'VE BEEN HERE. TRY TO FIND THE ROOT OF YOUR NEGATIVE SELF FEELINGS AND TELL YOURSELF THE TRUTH, THAT YOU'RE LYING TO YOURSELF. I HAVE FOUND THAT CONFIDENCE LEADS STRAIGHT TO HAPPINESS! I DON'T KNOW YOU BUT I CAN TELL YOU THAT THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU THINK NONE OF THIS SHIT ABOUT YOU............. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP BABE.  

• polarheart said on Aug 31, 2008....

  Dearest Friends
   
  I wish I had it in me to reply individually, but I dont.  However, I do want to say a few things to you all:
   
  #1 - Thank YOU from the bottom of my heart for the over-whelming love and support each of you have offered.  You guys have been great towards me and I have just been terrible and not around here to read and or comment on your blogs.  That shows me that you are TRUE friends, who are willing to carry me even when my stakes are low.
   
  THANK YOU
   
  #2 - Nobody here on this site has been judgemental towards me.  What happened involved a member of my husband's family.
   
  #3 - I am starting to feel a whole lot better.  I cried a LOT yesterday. . .which was good in essence since it helped me to release a lot of pent up emotion.  Up until yesterday I had been feeling numb/neutral. . .but the crying help.  So in a way what happened really "did me a favour".
   
  #4 - I have gotten my head straight and focussed that the opinion of other people about any aspect of my life does not really matter, what matters is that I stay true, open and honest about where I am at in my life. . .and I know that that is more than those judging me can say.
   
  #5 - I am starting to see the faint flicker of light at the end of the tunnel.
   
  Thank you again one and all.
   
  Polar xox

• travelr712 said on Aug 31, 2008....

  aww poley, i'm glad you're feeling better. sorry this happened to you. such is life, i guess. but like you said, it helped you get some other things out, so it turned out that you're better off in the end. i think it's great that you can see it that way. and judgemental people? well, they like to make up their minds about someone or something with little knowledge of the person or the situation, and act as if their perspective is true. but just because they believe it to be true, doesn't mean that you have to take that on yourself. so yes, those opinions do not matter, because they are false opinions.
   
  keep that smile bright, girl :-)

• polarheart said on Aug 31, 2008....

  Trav, thank you so much my friend.

• chizad40 said on Aug 31, 2008....

  Well...........
  I don't want to sound like some psycologist, but you REALLY can't care what those people are thinking and judging about you. They are shallow heartless losers and there opinions are invalid and worthless.  I know it makes you feel like shit to find that some people you trusted are judging you and talking shit about you behind your back..... Those motherfuckers are wasting your time! Lose them, there not worth it and look how far they've dragged you down ............ Think about how many millions of people there are. There are so many, so so many people out there that would love to love and accept you for EXACTLY who you are!! If you stay stuck in depression, you won't won't ever find them though..... I know how hard it is to move on (I've been where you are, trust me) I can't tell you how wonderful it is though when you drop the assholes and find true friends......... You will go from crying and hating everything, to being happier and more content with life than you can even imagine!!
  **I'd love for you to keep me updated on how you're doing...........   

• travelr712 said on Aug 31, 2008....

  you're welcome poley. we been through some shit together, ya know?

• Lucytorial said on Aug 31, 2008....

  Polly ~ Do you want to borrow my cricket bat?
   
  glad you're feeling a little better, hope today brings you a WHOLE lot more love and support.

• polarheart said on Aug 31, 2008....

  Chizad, thank you also for your kind support.  I agree with a lot of what you said and I truly feel that I have moved on. Thank you :-)

  Trav, we certainly have (((hugs)))

  Lucy, lol, we wont be harming anyone today my dear (sorry) lol! And I do feel that each day brings some more healing.  Thank you :-)

  Love Polar

• dailyachesandpains said on Aug 31, 2008....

  I'm glad you're feeling a bit better.
  I always ask myself this question:
  "Why is it always HIS family causing trouble?" 
  No offense to the men here, but my story is my Husband's family causing problems.  More than HALF the stories I hear/read are the boyfriend/Husband's family pissing us off!
   
  Girlfriend, Polarkins, I totally feel your pain.  DON'T remove the knife they put in your back (if they did).  Go to the local emergency hospital and have them remove it.
   
  Love ya!
  {{{HUGS}}}
  Daily

• polarheart said on Aug 31, 2008....

  Dailykins, you made me smile :-)) dont worry, I just have a dent in my armour. . .the knife didn't get past it.  Love ya!

• queenparanoia said on Sep 01, 2008....

  i'm glad youre okay now polar... ;-)

• travelr712 said on Sep 01, 2008....

  ((((((((hugs)))))))) right back at ya my friend.

• polarheart said on Sep 01, 2008....

  Queenie, thank you little sister :-)

  Trav :-) thank you!

• hotaka said on Sep 04, 2008....

  Oh, yes. I judged you very carefully and I have found you guilty of being one of my favourite people on SoulCast. I like you very much as you are and if you don't like that then too bad. ;)

• polarheart said on Sep 04, 2008....

  Hotcakes, you made me chuckle!  Thank you very much, my friend, I feel the same way about you! :-)

• hotaka said on Sep 05, 2008....

  Aww... Now I want to hug you, streaks and all.

• polarheart said on Sep 05, 2008....

  LOL! :-)  I am always open for a nice hug, they're just the best :-)

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