The people who come into our life are a reflection of who we are.  They reveal to us things we cannot or refuse to see ourselves.  The very thing we don't like about a person is the very thing we need to change in ourselves.  The things we love about a person are assets within us,too.  We can only draw to us those people who are on our ray, our level of energy, and development.  I read these words in a devotional book.  If these words are true, then it's time for me to look in the mirror.  Right now, my stomach is tied in knots.  My spouse went to bed angry and woke up in the same way.  This morning we had angered exchanges.  I don't like these traits in my husband: hot-temper, untrustworthy, judgemental, self-centered, nitpicker, and uncompromising.  I believe I've developed hypertension,not only due to hereditary, but I've remained in these troubled relationship.  But to his credit, he is a good provider.  He also keeps thing simple and uncomplicated.  The bad traits outweigh the good ones.  If he is a mirror of me, then woe is me.  I realize I cannot change or make him better.  My task is to change me and to support another in doing better. To try to fix someone is to become a nag.  To be supportive is nurturing.  Fixing is anger when things get rough.  Supporting is knowing things will get better.