• nytquill17 said on Aug 10, 2008....

  Scroll down about halfway :)

• I'mNotHungry said on Aug 10, 2008....

  Nyt - which part?

• Mamie said on Aug 10, 2008....

  well when you are stronger, you can look the person in the eye and say yea....look at that, I used to cut...but I am much better now, thanks! It just may be the first time that someone else feels a measure of relief...and will likely break down in tears at your matter-of-fact response. You might be the relief they have been praying for!!
   
  It is nothing to be ashamed of. I have scars from cancer and I know you would not judge me to see them...except they are on my buttotski and if I am showing you that, then girlfriend, we have had WAYYYYYYYY TOO MUCH WINE!! :)))
   
  Seriously, this summer season there are some cute blouses with large French style sleeves that you can wear over a tank as an open jacket sort of thing....also I LOVE the netted looking sweater, cover ups that look like real clothing, over a pair of dress pants, a tank...the cover up and a long swingy chain, maybe with a big cross, or locket on the end....yum, that would look fab!
  can you tell I like to play with clothes?
  have some fun!!

• I'mNotHungry said on Aug 10, 2008....

  Well, my friend, it wouldn't be the first *ASS* I've seen recently - and I had no wine last time .... she was just showing me her bruise.....

  I was shocked as hell!
  

• Mamie said on Aug 10, 2008....

  hehe I remember! Too funny! Maybe you have a sign on your back that says show me your arse!

• nytquill17 said on Aug 11, 2008....

  A little less than halfway down the page, under the "Scars" heading, there's a bulleted list. :)

• wishyouwerehere said on Aug 11, 2008....

  I like Mamie's idea very much, INH.  You could simply answer honestly and revel in your strength and recovery, or you could tell them that it isn't something you care to discuss.  Sometimes, I like to turn intrusive people on themselves by saying, "Wow, that's an interesting question.  Why do you want to know?"  It let's them know that they have overstepped their bounds.
   
  If you are going to cover up, maybe you can choose something gauzy and flowy - like this http://www.waveshoppe.com/beach-cover-up.htm  You can look like a very trendy gypsy!
   
  I hope you have a wonderful time in Florida - Wishy
   
   

• RollingC said on Aug 11, 2008....

  Where in Fla. are you going ?   Hope you enjoy your trip!   :^)   Rc

• BEprepared said on Aug 11, 2008....

  Hi INH,

  I recall reading your account of the woman showing you her butt and your surprise.  I've kinda gotten to the point I'm not surprised by anything anymore. 

  Therapy is very important for those of us who need it and I've been through a lot of it.  It would seem that it would be important to reach that point in your therapy where you are able to know why you self-injure.  When you reach that point you will be able to work on taking other alternatives. 

  If people ask about the scars, particularly in Florida, just calmly say one word-accident.  If they want to continue with questions say-I don't want to talk about it.  You should not feel guilty about that and PLEASE don't beat yourself up and think you know what they are thinking.  You are making progress so show confidence in yourself.  That's an important part of recovery.

  Have a fun trip.  Don't forget to tell us all about it when you return.

                                                                     ---Jim---

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