• Mamie said on Jul 29, 2008....

  wow, what an interesting take on this...well, I am both. I am actually all three (I have a previous blog explaining my fraud-ed-ness)...it is human nature I think and I do not apologize for which one of me wakes up in the morning....zippedy do dah! You were right all along:))))))))))
   
  hehe cracked myself up!

• Fallyn said on Jul 29, 2008....

  oh you, that's so sad though. i mean.....*sigh* i just don't know what to say.
  i can see what you mean...but i don't think you are a fraud in the least.......you're growing. that IS surviving.
  just because you can't let it all go completely and be a whole healthy person right off the bat doesn't mean you are a failure or a fraud.
  you're still here, you're still alive, you're still fighting.
  that IS what survivors DO. they don't just wake up one morning and go.... "oh, i think i'll just get over this now"
  if they DO that only means that either what they went through wasn't all that bad....or they're in denial.
  
  now....i'm not saying that some people aren't stronger than others....that some people aren't just naturally "good" at surviving....etc.......but what i am saying is that it's a struggle no matter who you are......and surviving is just that a lot of hard work......and a LOT of "god, i just don't want to live today" ....but doing it anyway nonetheless. sometimes that's all surviving IS.....just being alive. you ARE surviving. that makes you a survivor. it doesn't mean you are past all the hurts....it doesn't mean that you have found the pinnacle of healing! it means you survived and are on the road to being whole. and you are.
  you are not a fraud my dear.
  

• vacantmind said on Jul 30, 2008....

  Well, I am with Mamie. I have been all of those things. I have allowed others to abuse me and victimize me. Sometimes, I have been known to do that to myself. I have continued moving forward though. I exist...therefore I survived. Even when others were against my existence.
  You are a survivor!

• silverwhisper said on Jul 31, 2008....

  INH, i believe firmly that every person who's experienced a trauma needs to figure out which they want to be. you've been through a great deal, and you're still here, and still a decent person. in my book, that says you're a survivor, not a victim and on some level have made a decision to be so.
  
  just at thought.
  
  ed

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