My weekend was starting out with a huge smile and one long waited for. My grandson was allowed to call and talk to me after 3 months of silence from the daughter.
Anyway, it didn’t matter to me at the time, as long as I got a chance to make the most of the time with my grandchildren. I immediately asked if he would like to spend the night (Friday night) and then go up to my brothers with me on Saturday and spend the night with his cousin he just adores and is best of buds with. Low and behold his mother agreed they could go.
I left work early Friday evening to get the children and bring them back to my home and we would leave in the morning (Saturday) for my brothers.
My oldest grandson “D” was so excited as he had not seen me for 3 months since Disney World trip and had not seen his cousin in almost a year. He said to me “This is almost as exciting as Disney World doogie (what he calls me)”
He also had told me how much he had missed me the past 3 months.
I was so very happy to see them both.
Saturday morning we left early about 6:30am for a 2.5 hour ride to my brother’s house. We got there only to find that my brother had been admitted the night before to the hospital as he has COPD and had caught pneumonia again. I took my SIL and 3 boys to the hospital and we visited with my brother for about an hour and then came home so the kids could go in the pool and play.
Well, to make a long story short…..
The youngest grandson is very manipulative (learned behavior from his mother) and got very angry because we let the 2 older boys play Nintendo by themselves for a bit. The 2 older boys are 9 and 10 my youngest grandson is just turned 5.
The daughter called while my SIL and I were watching “P.S. I love you” and wanted to talk to the kids.. They got on the phone……..and all hell broke loose. My youngest grandson told the daughter that we would not let him play Nintendo at all.
The next think I know my youngest grandson is saying “my mommy says you are a bitch”. My SIL grabbed the phone and proceeded in no certain terms to let the daughter know exactly what was going on and how she felt about the situation…….and being called a bitch
From that moment on…… it was totally insane once again. The daughter called my SILs house 14 times from 10pm to 5am leaving “nasty grams” and threats on the answering machine about calling the cops if I did not bring HER children home immediately. Bla bla bla…. This went on keeping myself and my SIL up all night. We did finally manage to get the kids to sleep.
My oldest grandson got the brunt of it all. His heart has been once again torn to shreds by his mothers outrageous behavior. She put him smack dab in the middle of the whole thing and he was almost having a nervous breakdown, I swear. My grandson “D” said with huge sobs “this is just stupid, what is wrong with her, its stupid” is all he could say. I agreed with him.
We all were crying - it was a total nightmare.
This morning with only 1 hours rest, I took the drive back home (2.5 hour ride in the pouring rain). I told my oldest grandson that I loved him and would always be thinking of him even if I could not see him for a while. I also had to tell him that probably his mother would not allow me to attend his birthday party in August. He cried. He kept telling me all the way home.. "doogie, I love you". I kept reinsruing him "D, I love you too honey". that is about all we could say without the tears starting to flow.
I cried. I dropped them both off at their home. Gave them both a kiss and hug good bye… while the daughter sat in her car and watched it all go down.. Demanding that my grandson pick up his shit and bring it into the house. I left without a word to her……..
My last hours with my grandson once again have left a hole in my heart too big for even words to describe. I can’t even begin to wonder how a 9 year old boy is going to deal with what he went through in the last 24 hours… but at least he knows his Grammy doogie loves him ~
This is my oldest grandson trying his best to be lighthearted this morning before he had to say goodbye to everyone. I told him he looked like "the Beve" on Leave it to Beaver, of course I also, then had to tell him who that was.. he thought it was a cartoon charatcter.
